Do you need date many guys at same time to get a boyfriend?

[Sugar100]

I never had a boyfriend , my dream is meet family, guy enter my house to meet my mom& eat with us, take pics, live together , go on a fun romantic trip together but it never came true.

Since guys don’t give you label as girlfriend, I’m confused you need to date many guys same time to get a boyfriend? One guy I know many years dates me but don’t want be my girlfriend. 😞so I’m unhappy unfulfilled daydreaming of meeting family , taking pics.
No new guy asks me for date. Everyone wants sex only so I cannot go on dates.
A guy I like lives far in other state& I want a guy daily living with me, meeting family. 😞

im confused do I need just settle dating that guy that don’t want girlfriend , in order to have dates , and keep looking for other guys to fulfill my dream of meeting family pics?

I want be a mom before im 30 but no guy wants have baby with me. 😞

nothing I desire is being fullfilled by any guy so I feel I’m looking 24/7 for guys. 😓

[kylee2437]

I wouldn’t say date many guys at once, just keep your options open. Go for someone that makes love feel easy, and someone that isn’t interested in games. I will definitely say, the only way to find out what you don’t want / want is by keeping options open.

[Sugar100]

It’s cuz no guy ever gives me label. Guys just talk and date me but don’t give label so I’m always crying confused

[Sugar100]

Thats y Im always looking for guys cuz no one gives me a label. I’m just confused & sad so I’m wondering all day who is my boyfriend? What am I? Am I his girlfriend? 😓 who will be my boyfriend?

[DJB72]

If you are wanting a guy to take you seriously then dating multiple guys at the same time is not the way to do it.

Guys - decent ones - don't want to share. We don't want to be the last in a long line. We don't want the girl to do something because her experience with other guys has told her 70% of her exes enjoyed it.

[Sugar100]

I’m saying since no guy gives me label and comitment that means I’m always confused sad and looking for other guys, I’m always looking for guys since no guy is calling me his girlfriend , meeting my family 😞

[Sugar100]

I have no comitment from guys so I’m always sad crying wondering all day in my head, wen I’ll have a boyfriend , wen this guy will meet family? If he my boyfriend or not? 😥

So then I’m alone all the time and look and prob am single. So again I have to look talk to more guys everyday, no guy comits to me , no guy shows he’s my boyfriend. 😞

[Sugar100]

No guy fullfills me makes me happy as I have no comitment. That’s y I’m saying do I need date many guys at the same time as no guy is giving me a relationship a real boyfriend to me?

[Sugar100]

I’m not sure if u understand

[Billlewis]

I guarantee you that it certainly doesn't hurt. The effect, influence and outright horniness that jealousy can cause a guy to become practically obsessed with you Is one of the most powerful sources of sexually attraction, yet is probably among the least recognized, talked about or otherwise acknowledged.

[Sugar100]

But no guy wants be my boyfriend and give me label , I hav 27 years looking for a first boyfriend and no guy wants be my boyfriend

[Sugar100]

I want only one guy as my boyfriend but guys don’t give me label

[Sugar100]

No guy wants meet family take pics attend family parties with me , guys just text u n never want say u r my girlfriend

[Billlewis]

You must stop announcing that to everyone, if you hope to change it. Really. Whatever trials, tribulations and disappointments you've had in the past are totally irrelevant now -- unless you regfuse to let go of them.

[DishLady]

Personally, no, I don't think so. I think if you meet different guys and then choose (with keen discretion) one of them to go out with you'll be fine.

[Sugar100]

The issue is no guy gives me label as girlfriend , that’s y I’m scared & feel need look for guys as no one gives me the title of girlfriend.

So I’m always crying stressed worried wen I’ll hav a boyfriend? Wen I’ll meet family? What is he? Is he my boyfriend? & I wen up crying confused daily all day.

That’s y do I need look and date many guys same time as one guy will never give me comitment a relationship?

I’m not fullfilled by guys as I have no label, I’m wondering wen We’ll meet family , why he’s not talking about future about meeting family?

Since I’m not fullfilled & have peace by having the title label as his girlfriend , I’m consitanlty feeling need to meet guys all the time as no one commits to me

[Sugar100]

So I’m not secure with any guy

[DishLady]

That's not the end of the world. You're such a young woman. Also, this desperation you're feeling? Guys can smell it from miles away and will stay away from you. At least the good ones worth your time will. You'll end up surrounded by the more predatory types, who are categorically undesirable.

Come on, missy, Have a little pride and be proud of who you are... be confident... it will shine through and the guy will see that you're able to appreciate yourself... and he will then also become curious about you and learn to appreciate you.

[Sugar100]

That’s not true wen I’m happy , I still don’t get any guy giving me label. Guys jsut talk to me act like my boyfriend but don’t give me label. So I’m sad wondering in my
Head wen I can meet family? Wen I’ll have a boyfriend?
So again I’m looking for other guys as no one is giving me label giving me peace security that’s he’s my boyfriend and I don’t need continue look for many guys anymore

[DishLady]

So it's all about the label. You can ask the guy for the label... It probably will be as ridiculous as that sounds. Most women want the actual guy, the attention, etc. and not just the stupid label.

You can meet family and friends WITHOUT the label. Actually, I always met the guy's family etc. before getting any sort of title because I wanted to know the guy, not just have a label.

You won't get peace or security from a label... "Girlfriend" is not "Wife" ... you're just fixated on something that's causing you to be desperate and anxious. If you can't see that, you should speak with a therapist about it...

[Sugar100]

That’s not true I dated a guy for 5 years and he neev gave me label as girlfriend and said he is single I not his girlfriend. 😓

That’s y it very important guy need ask girl to be his girlfriend

[Sugar100]

No guy agrees to come to my house to meet family never since I was 15 no guy says yes I’ll meet your family.

[Sugar100]

It’s my dream meet a guys family. I’ve neevr for 27 years met a guys family all guys say no.

[FunkyMonkee]

That's how dating works! You find a bunch of guys that you think you might like to have as your boyfriend, then you take turns dating them to see which ones you are most compatible with and, once you narrow down the field to just the one guy, THEN you can consider going steady with him... unless other guys have wandered in your radar and you wanna give them a chance, too. Who knows? Maybe one of them will displace your original pick?
I don't understand why that's such and incredibly foreign concept to you kiddie winkies, these days.

[Sugar100]

Yea but the guy I like no one ever gives me label as girlfriend

[Sugar100]

So how I’ll get a boyfriend if no guy ever gives u a label

[Sugar100]

I’m just confused crying everyday as I have no label. Guys just want talk and meet u but never say I’m his girlfriend 😓

[FunkyMonkee]

You have to keep going out with the same guy for a while until it's a regular thing with you to. THEN you should be able to call yourselves boyfriend/girlfriend.

[Sugar100]

How long u need date s guy to be girlfriend boyfriend. ? 1-10 years?

[Sugar100]

I date one guy 5 years and he never call me his girlfriend he deny be my boyfriend

[Sugar100]

No guy asks to be my boyfriend so I’m always confused crying everyday with no label

[FunkyMonkee]

With my ex-fiance, we saw each other maybe a month before we became mutually exclusive. And, we stayed that way for the next 10 years `til that scag started cheating on me!!

[FunkyMonkee]

WOW!! After 5 years, I think it's long since time to give up on him!! He's wasting YOUR time!!
Well, obviously, you haven't found the right guy, yet! Keep looking, you'll run into him, sooner or later.

[Sugar100]

So u need date for a month to get label from a guy as girlfriend?

[Sugar100]

How many dates u need hav to be called a girlfriend by a guy?

[Sugar100]

Like I said no guy gives me label, I feel forveer til I’m old guys that date me will never give me a label 😓

[Sugar100]

I did meet last year dec a guy I felt was my soulmate. But we both were shy didn’t exhange numbers & we got fired after that.

So since then I’m depresed as I can’t find any better guy than him.
I’m confused if he’s my right guy soulmate y god took him away from my life?

The one guy I’m talking to is LD But still he will never give me a label as girlfriend so I’m confused crying everyday.

Think he and all guys I meet will be same just talk date u but never ever give u label as a girlfriend 😓

[FunkyMonkee]

There's no set or specific time. it happens when it happens. It could happen the moment you meet or a few months down the road but, if it's taking him 5 years to make up his mind, it's time to tell him to either shit or get off the pot!! Half a year is plenty of time to at LEAST get an idea if you wanna spend the rest of your life with a potential lover. Ask him if he loves you and then, if he's IN LOVE with you. Those are two different things!! There's a number of people I love but I'm not IN love with them.

[FunkyMonkee]

How often does he contact you? If it's always you that starts the conversation, stop contacting him for a while, maybe a week or two. If he doesn't bother to contact you, he's not interested!
Has he bothered to put a ring on your finger? Even just a friendship ring? I'd think that, after 5 years, you deserve a LOT more than just a friendship ring! It sounds to me like YOU'RE going steady with HIM but HE'S NOT going steady with YOU! You're just THERE for him! Like, he can't find anyone else so, he'll settle for you.
By sticking with JUST him, you're SERIOUSLY cutting yourself out of the race! Start seeing other guys! If this guy was serious, he would've made it known to you, long ago!!
As for Mr. Soulmate, isn't there SOME WAY you can get back in touch with hm or find out where he lives? Do you know anyone that knows him? Have you bothered to look him up online or in the phone book?

[FunkyMonkee]

I suppose "LD" is long distance. In that case, I wouldn't count on him being with you anytime soon.

[Sugar100]

I don't know his full name. I don't know where he lives. I’m hoping I’m rehired back to job as either way I want be rehired back. But unless we both r rehired back I won’t be able to see him. That’s the only way.

Yes I’m just saying no guy I meet gives me label as girlfriend. I wonder if that soulmate guy would if given me a label as a girlfriend.

I love guys but no guy loves me back.

I thought a boyfriend and meeting family was just cuz u like them. I didn’t know a boyfriend meant u love them and want marry them.

[Sugar100]

I love guys but no guy loves me so that’s y no guy calls me his girlfriend and agree to meet fmaily. As no guy loves me no guy wants marry me

[Sugar100]

The guy that I dated 5 years he would text me daily all day& would be mean to me

The LD guy is queit even in person he don’t talk much and I’m also shy don’t talk much. In text he don’t talk much. But he & soulmate r first guys in my entire life that have treated me nice , super nice n respectful almsot how I deserve.
But he don’t start convo first but I think that’s how he is. He’s extremely quiet in person. I’m shy so I don’t talk. It don’t mean u aren’t interested

[Sugar100]

I know a lot of LD couples do workout and they live together eventually.

[FunkyMonkee]

No, you don't HAVE to marry him, but, if that's your ultimate goal, you shouldn't waste your time with guys that are just gonna string you along for 5 or 6 years.
And, you don't HAVE to marry to have a boyfriend, you can be a guy's girlfriend for a while without marriage but, if a better looking bus comes rolling by you should jump off the one you're on and go catch the other one.

[FunkyMonkee]

SOME guys love you! You just have to find them! Sounds to me like, except for Mr. Soulmate, you don't have any prospective buyers.

[Sugar100]

Yea. But I neevr had a first boyfriend , all bfs meet family and no guy wants meet my family 😓

I cannot make any guy call me his girlfriend or meet family all guys run away 😓

[Sugar100]

Guys suppsivly like me
But they dont give me label never as girlfriend so I’m always confused sad crying 😓

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, there ya go!! From the very start, if he's mean to you, you deserve better and should just cut him off,. completely!! Not to pry but, is there sex involved?
I guess LD DOESN'T mean "long distance". If you see him in person, he can't be long distance.
What kind of things do you like to do? Does LD like to do them, too? If so, invite him to get together with you to do one of those things and you'll end up having SOMETHING to talk about!
do you like going to an amusement park? Ask him to go with you, one day and you'll both be having so much fun together, you'll completely forget about how you don't talk and are both shy!

[Anonymous]

Not really, but it does increase the probability of finding someone quickly. Though it does create the potential of jealousy.

[NathanDavis]

if I needed to get in line I'm out of there

[NathanDavis]

the only line I would get on and wait... would be for honey butter biscuits

[jahaims]

The opposite