I’m afraid of getting into my 30s because of all the negative things I hear from men. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

If I’m apparently going to be less attractive and won’t have any quality partners to choose from, then what’s the point…? I barely date as is and I’m late 20s and find that all the negative rhetoric is bringing me down.

[NamerOfStars]

First, take a deep mental breath. Now, let's break these claims down:

-You're going to be less attractive when you hit thirty. Well, there's some truth here; female sexual attractiveness (on the physical side) is derived primarily from the markers of youth, health, and fertility, which fade as you age. But: it doesn't magically happen overnight the day you hit thirty; it's a gradual process, like a car's depreciating.

-You won't have any quality partners to choose from. Again, there's truth here; the most desirable people tend to get snapped up quickly, and since they pretty much have their choice of partners, those of us who aren't gods of appeal have to take from the leftovers. But: that doesn't necessarily make them worse partners. Are you truly less worthy because you don't have giant breasts or mansions in Switzerland?

[Asker]

Well what I don’t understand is I’m actually so pretty and a good person but I am not lucky in finding a partner. But I also don’t go out a lot. Does that mean no one wants me because I haven’t been chosen?

[NamerOfStars]

Possibly. More likely, though, it means you aren't giving enough chances.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Stop listening to men!

Like wine some people get better with age & like a raisin some people shrivel up & let themselves go. As for you live your life & who cares what other people think.

[Anonymous]

So you live your life revolved around random men’s opinions? Don’t do that.

[Alex-Snow]

I have seen many many beautiful women in their 30's. don't let a number or others define who you are

[Danny_dan92]

Step inside a cryo chamber

[MasterKS]

such a low confidence.