I'm scared of turning 30. What can I do?

[Babygirl_S]

I know that even if I look like I do in my 20's, I will be considered unattractive.

[devilish-cutie]

I felt similar and I can tell you it will be hard process but its actually not that bad as you feel. You will always be you and you won't be less attractive, A LOT of women like "older" women and if you are pretty you'll always be pretty. Its an illusion that men are in better position regarding age, they are not, they are in very similar position. Men your age would always find you attractive if you are pretty and take care of ysf.

[devilish-cutie]

A LOT of MEN* like "older" women

[HotBlondePollyPocket]

Everyone has their own inter / outer beauty. I'm 50 I wish I could go back 20 years. Your beautiful, hold your head high & welcome getting older for now your life will truly begin :)

[Babygirl_S]

Thank you! You're beautiful too.

[PatStClair]

I fully agree with “now your life will truly begin”!

[Pinay_ako]

Girl, I’m terrified of turning 40 in 10 days. Enjoy it. Wow I’m ugly af

[Babygirl_S]

No you're not.

[Pinay_ako]

So don’t ever feel unattractive because of your age. You decide how old or young you want to feel like. If anything, age gracefully 💕.

[cryscrys1]

May I know why !
If it is what I believe it is then here is my answer

I think you are a what’s recently called Social media Bimbo Girl.
You fall easily into age range social scams . You need social approvals to function even if you don't agree with it. You are scared because you take into
Consideration other people thoughts and opinions.


Are you also scared of turning 40?
50?
We all grow old and die it’s called the cycle of life. That’s why idiots out there who are into theor 20s need to relax their tits , sit down , and be humble about any age because we all are going to reach 30,40,50,60 and if god loves you he may postpone your death to a maybe 70 years old.


You need to work with yourself look into a therapy on aging &relationship. Or talk with older friends. Also you are kinda young to worry about it at the moment. So enjoy your moment. Your present.
What if by 29 you get a leukemia god forbid!
So …Do not jinx your future. Your precious future because society is brainwashing you 30s is a major issue.


Just enjoy life. Tomorrow is not even promised to you yet you worry about the upcoming 4-5 years

[knallpilz]

You'll be more attractive to non-fuckboys over 30 who have their shit together and some good sense. E s p e c i a l l y if you look younger. 'cause most of those guys probably always wanted a pretty girlfriend, but weren't interesting to those in that category.
Because if you're thirty you're gonna come off as more mature and less entitled automatically. If you can live up to that expectation, you're good.

You may be be considered less attractive, though, (physically) once your appearance becomes less youthful. But a man who is all too focussed on the youthfulness of your appearance is probably not going to be the best choice, anyway.

[BlueScorpio]

I'm 30 and people get surprised when I tell them. They think I'm in my early 20s still. There's nothing wrong with turning 30, dobuounknow how many people don't get the opportunity to turn 30? It's either getting older and living a long life or dying young and trust me most people don't want to die young. Also stop listening to those weird ass, angry men on line telling other men to trash women at 25 to 30. These men are miserable and just trying to get back at women that hurt them. They will not produce long, healthy relationship with that thought process. Beauty fades and won't be forever, when old you will want comfort and stability instead beauty.

[hahahmm]

I guarantee you that I have seen women in their 40s who have a better face than you do right now... so suck it up and stop worshiping yourself. Maybe learn how to take care of your self (skin, hair, muscles...) properly. A lot of women are too lazy to do that. And learn to build CHARACTER. That's what makes a woman valuable. Looks are just icing on the cake. Of course when you're young & LAZY you'll try to avoid building good character because it takes more work than just rolling out of bed and posting a message on twitter/IG.

But here's a hint: good character means you'll say 'no' to things everybody else is saying, 'yes' to.

[Pot8o]

Does "character" include being mean to your juniors for no discernible reason?

[hahahmm]

@Pot8o Absolutely, because the fact a junior is too ignorant to recognize good advice & gets deep into their feelings doesn't mean the advice was bad or that feelings are more important than doing what's best. In fact today's popular dependence on feelings is just an excuse of lazy people to avoid obligations, responsibilities & doing tough things. What's better than whining about your feelings is to develop tough skin by focusing on solving problems constructively.

[Pot8o]

It sounds like you have some feelings about the youth of today

[Tekkasonic]

This is one of the great lie's that are told to women. This is not nice to say but it is a truth... men grow in value with age, women devalue with age... Men, with age, are able to reproduce till death, usually have money, transport, shelter, skills, etc etc. Women, with age lose their youthful beauty, loose the ability to reproduce after around 40, etc etc... It's not right or fair but it is true. My advice figure out what is it you want and pursue that goal, but also realize that that goal may have future issues you may have to consider.

[77five]

You as a man dont have to be like thag though. You can break that cycle

[Tekkasonic]

@77five why do you think guys (or girls) have a choice. do you think a guy who is penny less, 40, with no education has a better chance to find a mate than the one listed above?

[77five]

Why would you want that though? A broke man you finds a woman probably has a better quality woman that the rich guy.

[Tekkasonic]

@77five I never said anything about the quality of a person. People can be rich assholes or poor assholes, but the fact remains that biology is not on the side of women unfortunately. I'm not trying to say this to be mean. but there is a limited window to have children for a woman, even with freezing and that gets harder with age too.

[77five]

I meant the quality in the woman. And i find it crazy how many act like they care about having kids so much but they dont do nearly as much as the mom does for the kids. Also, not everyone wants kids. I surely dont. And many men dont either.

[Tekkasonic]

@77five I don't know your age, but I'm just going to say you don't want kids now... never know what the future holds. my sister said the same thing and now she has a daughter. what does a "quality in the woman" mean. I think feminism has told women that they are happier to have a career over a family, which sucks because being a mother is an amazing task, very under appreciated today.

[77five]

If I ever want kids in my 40s, I’ll adopt a teen. I dont care for the early years anyhow. And its really hard for me to want, to WANT to have kids when so many men think like you. It makes me fear how I’ll be taken advantage of like so many women who agree to these standards. The men dont respect them. They get cheated on while she's home being a susie homemaker.

And why is it always career or being a parent when it comes to women? How do you think women in female dominated careers do it? And you honestly missed my point every time. you're not getting what Im saying.

ALSO, if being a mom is so great, why do men prefer to work and do the bare mimum in childcare than stay home and “be a dad”? Its really up to anyone when the breast feeding stage is over.

And by the way, working does not absolve you from your parental and house duties.

[Tekkasonic]

@77five Thanks for adoption, hope you do/can. I'm sorry you feel that way, if society makes you think that men just cheat "because" then society failed you.

I would hope that most parents are not single parent households. I don't get your trying to say is bad about what I said thou. I don't see many mothers working 1 job and kicking up their feet at the end of the day. single mothers are the hardest working people (for the most part) but I think if you look at nurses for example I'm willing to be they are married or have a SO to help raise their kid.

Men do what society tells us to do, work and provide. that being said Men SHOULD be a bigger part of childcare, more like whoever is 60%Homemaker/40%Provider if both work it should be 50/50.

[77five]

Honestly i have no idea whats happening. Maybe its a language issue. I said nothing about single mothers. Forget it

[Tekkasonic]

@77five Sorry, but nice talking with you.

[fbk94]

Don't be afraid, a poet I love says,

"Suddenly, it happens all of a sudden. Nightmare and dream are the same. Both pass, like life, like time. The world is a legend, we are the story. Rap is a land of words, from meaning to meaning, from sea to sea''

In the meantime, I would appreciate it if you could comment on my question.

Girls, An unfortunate man?

#Reigner

[TroyDT2]

Don't listen to that negativity, whether it is from others or from yourself. Yes, outer pretty always runs out eventually, but true beauty comes from within anyway. Anyone who genuinely loves you won't care that you probably won't look the same in 40 years. My grandparents were together for over 60 years before my grandmother passed. She was a beautiful person, but certainly did not look like she did when grandpa married her. He did not care. He adored her all the same and mourned her loss for the three years, four months, and two days he lived after she died. THAT is true love, not some guy who lusts after you for your looks them dumps you when those looks start to fade.

[zagor]

You can always die. Or dye.

You are being weird about this. If you are worried about your looks, eat right, exercise, avoid too much sun, don't party too much. The genetic part you can't do much about. There are a lot of women who look good well past 30, and a lot of 20 year olds who don't look so hot.

One of the hottest girls I ever met was 21 at the time, and her younger sister was a model, but people who knew her said her mother (whom I never met) was often mistaken for their sister.

[bingbongbangbung]

Well people are looking younger as the decades pass by, and it isn't just placeabo. Part of it is better access to food and medicine, and part of it is people dressing to look young, but also cause people take care of themselves better. It's not a coincedence that highschool teenagers in the 20th century looked like grown ass college graduates, while teens now look like they're barely past middle school.

[humanearth]

Wait till your in your 50s

You look in the mirror and wonder where your life gone. Your hair is thinning, may have some missing teeth, your hair is almost all grey, you start to get wrinkles, you skin starts to sag

As you look in the mirror, you see a old person looking back at you

So wait 20 years

[Babygirl_S]

😭😭😭

[humanearth]

Trust me, I see my face in the mirror and wonder everything I just said

[melanieeeB]

Your life isn't over with 30. If you're scared of getting unattractive, maybe do some self care, wellness days and go little birthday shopping.
You won't automatically turn to someone else, just cause the number changes, you're still going to be beautiful

[WindAtMyBack]

I've lived 30 years twice and working on a third. The first one didn't scare me. The second one didn't scare me either. I have to wait a while to find out if the third time scares me.

You're just a kid. You're barely even starting in life. You shouldn't be worrying about such things. Live your life and have fun. Stop worrying about things you can do nothing about.

[bingbongbangbung]

lol my narcissistic parents claim that if you don't get your shit together by your mid to late 20s, you're screwed for life. but then again, they believe in aliens living on the moon. XD

[WindAtMyBack]

@bingbongbangbung
Well it's not an absolute, but I'd say there is some truth to that. Most people have their shit together, or are at least trying to get their shit together by their late 20s. If they reach 30 and still have no clue what direction they are going in life, or they are still into heavy partying and not taking things seriously, then it's not a good long term sign.

The thing is that most people develop habits early. Those habits tend to stick with people.

[Bethany22]

If you still will look exactly like you did when you were in your early 20s, men won't treat you any differently, as your continued attractiveness will implicitly signal to them that you're still good baby-making material. If you don't look as good, just reinforce it to guys that they need to respect you anyways.

[HighValue]

If you want a good mate and to have kids, focus on getting that now then before turning 30. If all you want is a sexual partner and to be physically attractive and don't care about having a long term good partner and to create a family, then your age won't matter nearly as much.

[Moose304]

As a male making a truthful reply here would be like me picking up a dangerous Elapidae and getting bit. So I rather just look at it. I will only say I have read most of the comments, and have no opinion. As to the asker let me just say this. You need to have a serious conversation with yourself about where do you want to be in 10- 20 or even 30 years? Nobody can really answer this for you!

[DavidRaul]

You would be still considered attractive. If you turn 30 , you would still look 20 as attractive as in your primes. So don't worry about it. I am turning 23, i wish i could be 17 again but that doesn't bother me. I want to embrace the "23" with all its ups and downs.

[NathanDavis]

if you're 25 today... you still have five years to grow out of that dumb mindset

start, today

[dustybiker]

You’ll only be considered unattractive by ignorant men. You don’t want them anyway. Consider it a bright light that points them all out. Makes dating far easier.

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

When I was 22, I thought girls in their 30s were unattractive.

But now that I'm 32, girls who are in their 30s are looking a lot better to me.

And if anyone in their 20s is wondering how someone can find girls in their 30s attractive, ask yourself this: when you were 17, did 13-year-old girls look as good to you as they did when you were 13?

[ElvenMr]

That's society for you nowadays. You'll look the way you do now most likely, unless you do some heavy drugs, or live a very unhealthy lifestyle.

Don't worry about it, people who matter will still like you. Exercise, smile, be happy, do what you love :)