I'm so scared of becoming older at 14?

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I am 14, turning 15 in just a few weeks. I am SO scared of becoming older. When I am 25 I will be so unattractive and undesirable, and it's only in 10 years. I don't know what to do, how will I ever find a husband and one that stays when I'll look like a wrinkly goblin in my 20's? I see so many men calling women in their 20's disgusting, unattractive, ugly, undesirable. I don't want to age.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The only real problem that you have is the mental illness you are developing about something you don't understand.

You dont suddenly lose all of your attractiveness at 25.

Mostly what matters regardless of your age or appearance is your personality which would be best served by not having a serious mental illness for no reason what so ever.

All of this stuff about women and aging etc is a broad generalisation and in anycase the idea is that perhaps after about 25 womens dating value starts to decline, not of a fucking cliff.

For men it is the other way around, women are generally speaking not so interested in young men who dont have any money, older men are appealing because of their wealth and status etc.

But you and your parnter/s may well not rate these things at all, there is no requirement for anyone to do so.

That is what a broad generalisation is, it doesn't apply to everyone, its just a vague guide, a rule of thumb.

It is absolutely not something you should be getting upset about at 14 years old, you are being completely ridiculous.

All it means is that if you want to get married and spend your life with one person is that shouldn't party all the way through your 20's riding around on a cock carousel expecting everything to just happen for you later on.

Why the fuck do you give a shit about the opinions of complete morons?

Most likely those guys dont even mean the things they are saying, they, like you, have developed fear based on complete bullshit and they are just saying what they think is popular because they dont have the strength of character required to be their own person and why would you want someone like that anyway?

So just fucking stop all this nonsense, right now, today, its complete bullshit and you will be just fine unless completely fucking derail yourself as you are right now by telling yourself all this awful fucking nonsense.

Most people on the internet and in your real life too by the way because thats where they come from are completely retarded, they haven't a fucking clue what they are talking about. Educate yourself, do your own work.

What you do need to be working on is self love and validation etc so that you are capable of making your own choices about who you are and what your value is.

So spend your time looking after yourself, in mind most of all.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ok I'm not a counselor or therapist of any sort but in my most humble opinion, I'm afraid I have some really bad news. and this from someone actually old.
There's no need to worry about "becoming"old and ugly. I'm sorry to be the one to tell you but your 14 now , to be as ugly as you claim you'll be in 9 years, your already there, you can't possibly become so ugly unless you've done it to yourself.
When I was your age I couldn't wait to get old because I wanted to look like peter graves (Google it) speaking as one who is truly less attractive then I once was,(and I don't care, I earned every scar and wrinkle) when you really reach old age hopefully you'll have found your so. Stop worrying about what you have no control over. As for all those boys dissing on 25 year old prunes sounds like a good mechanism to keep from hitting on women they know won't give em the time of day. Go make your life your own, fuck what the lesser members of my gender think and have a life full of wonder, only you can give yourself such a gift. I hope this helped , good luck honey

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Wow who messed up your mind? There are benefits to every stage of life, and you really can't spend each of them wallowing in the negative or pre-worrying. You have some serious biases already. Females all throughout their twenties are generally very desired by males. They have a privileged position in society. You should look forward to it, quite honestly.

SoftCliff · Accepted Answer

I hope this is a troll. 25 isn't old at all and there are many attractive women actually, who are 25 and older. If you take good care of yourself, (the 3 s', sleep well, avoid sunlight exposure and stress and moisturize) you'll always look good

Talia808 · Answer

wow... umm ok who ever those men are if they are older they are perverts. I feel like someone may have given u a extremely wrong outlook on age. Do I look wrinkly and disgusting to you. please be honest I am curious, it won't hurt my feeling.
To be honest, many girls are actually more attractive in there later 20s then early. Some more attractive in their thirties.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Your thinking is ''old'' now already :D

Throughout your life you will be as desirable as you make yourself.

And negativity isn't one of the wanted attributes.

Focus on ''today''. Tomorrow will come anyway; but that's one other day.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Just maintain a healthy lifestyle if you want to look young for long time. You can't avoid old age anyway so enjoy your present till fullest.

misogynistic_pig · Answer

Well, it's not an unfounded fear, since I was 15 years old I've also been afraid of getting old and not being a teenager, being an adult doesn't have many advantages, adults are ugly.

ZackBan · Answer

Well you're right 14 feels like yesterday for me who is 25 now.

But don't let that discourage you, I date women my age even older sometimes. It's a myth that a woman will be unattractive by 25.

You keep good health and maintain a presentable appearance and you will have heads spinning until you're at least 26 (kidding more like 46 😄)

SnowedIn · Answer

You really don't need to worry. Women are beautiful desirable attractive etc. for many years after being teens. Even when they get sags and wrinkles, which doesn't always happen to the extent that you write. Here's the thing: the men are aging, wrinkling, and sagging along with the women. Don't be so hard on yourself and enjoy being young as you grow into beauty and your body.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I look the same now as I did at 14. You aren;t supposed to have wronkles in your 20s, or 30s, or 40s, or 50s... Stop putting on makeup, taking drugs, smoking, drinking alcohol, etc, and actually take care of yourself and you won't rapid age like your peers apparantly are.

Anonymous · Answer

I am 19 and have been getting hit on since I was 12 by guys my age up to 60 and know I still will be at 25, husband or boyfriend or not, and all the way up to 40 and possibly longer they way women are looking younger all the time these days. Not a legitimate worry.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Things that determine how you look.
1. Genetics
2. What goes in your body (type, combination and how much)
3. What goes on your body (type, combination and how much)
4. Exercise ( what you do, combination, how much, the intensity)
5. The amount of quality sleep you get
6. Stress
7. Weather
8. Environment
9. Illness
10. Type of job
Etc.

There are people who never got a chance to be 14 years of age so think about that.

anonpabo · Answer

just keep doing what makes u happy , worrying about the future adds so much unnecessary stress to ur life , and trust me from experience , letting go of the fear of the future makes life right now much more enjoyable

slatyb · Answer

Generally life gets better as we age. Plenty of 25-year-olds are perfectly attractive. Also 35-year-olds, 45-year-olds, 55-year-olds, and 65-year-olds.

Steamnir · Answer

Dont worry about anythin, life has too much to give you to make you entertained and happy

Twalli · Answer

First of all women don't become unattractive at 25, most people actually say 30, but my girlfriend still looks hot at 36.5. So it's just the desire to reproduce that makes a woman unattractive at 30.

Koalamate · Answer

your gonna look completly differant by the time your 20. Who the hell is calling 20 year old women unattractive your making this up

serious · Answer

I think you just need to relax. You are clearly overthinking.

Summeroflove · Answer

Yeah. I get it. Talk to your parents. Maybe you need a therapist to speak with

Zolly99999 · Answer

You shouldn't be.. here are a few suggestions.. don't drink or smoke or party too hard. Take care of yourself by eating right and exercising.. this will definitely help in the long term..

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Are you THAT ugly, already? Most people don't get old-ugly until their 50's or 60's!!

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

We all fear getting old but it happens, stay close to Jesus and say your prayers.

Dnice1 · Answer

You'll be fine, it's not as bad as you think

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Chill! You haven't even reached your 20s yet and you're already projecting something.

gag6474 · Answer

your overreacting ignore the ones who said that

OddBeMe · Answer

Go literally fck off. Jk, why are you afraid of aging? Feel like you’re not achieving enough?

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Relatable. I really need to get my groove on with the books. If only Zleague had solo paper tourneys

Guy13 · Answer

Happy Birthday.

panamared1 · Answer

Just take care of yourself, most women look great in their 30s and 40s, unless they let themselves go

Anonymous · Answer

u shouldn't worry bout it cuz life goes on the older u get the more fun you'll get

dustybiker · Answer

Ah the many problems of youth.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Gtfo troll...

MountAverage · Answer

Sounds like you need medication.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Oh please. 🤣🤦🏼‍♂️

Gloree · Answer

you're a troll.

TheFlak38 · Answer

poor girl

jimmy2 · Answer

Lol you are safe

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