POLL - How long do you wait for marriage?

[Sugar100]

I talked to a new guy on this app, but we ended up not meeting as he’s wanting marriage & babies until 5 years IF it works out. And that’s honestly a waste of time for me. If I was younger & met this guy when I was 18 then I could of been married by now but no. I’m 26 still no husband. So I want marriage & baby in 1-2 years.
A guy I dated that never met my family wasted many years of my life. So I have no time to waste. if it’s 5 years and living together than that’s fine , or else it’s pointless date& have sex 5 years and no ring.

6 months

1 year

2 years

3-4 years

5 plus years

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+1 y

Let’s say you don’t live together until marriage. Or no sex til marriage and dont meet family til marriage.

You would wait 5 years? That’s too long time for me even my family agrees 5 years is waste of time

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+1 y

Most Religious people marry fast in one year too.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, my first plan of action is to wait `til I get a girl that likes me and doesn't wanna get the shit beat out of her. Those kind are REALLY hard to find!! With most girls, if you don't beat `em up, they just won't stick around! I don't know why!
Then, if she's not interested in getting beat up every few days, and actually DOES wanna stick around, she'll have to stick for a couple years. At least long enough to find out if she lovers me or just my money. If she actually turns out to be here for me, she's PROBABLY a keeper and I'll consider asking her to marry me.

[Sugar100]

But in between those 5 years , are u living together? Meeting families , having sex?

that’s y I’m saying marriage is good in 1-2 years as I don’t want have sex with a boyfriend for 5 years and never live together never meet family.

[Sugar100]

That’s y 5 years is too long to live with a guy and have baby. And meet family

[FunkyMonkee]

Of course not! The only sex I've had was 4 times with the girl from, `82, 3.5 times with the girlfriend from, `84 and possibly well over 1000 times with the girl from `91 to `01, which stopped in mid `94, except for two more fucks both taking place Dec. 12... one in `94, the other in `95.

[Sugar100]

I guess I’m religous and don’t want be having sex for 5 years with a guy that might break up with me and not even marry me. That’s y I would want marriage 1-2 years. I also don’t want wait 5 or more years til I can live with a guy. As in my household u can’t live with a boyfriend , only til marriage.

[OlderAndWiser]

I think two years is a good test of a relationship.

[Sugar100]

4 years waste of time. I won’t be having sex with someone 3-4 years.

[OlderAndWiser]

If I was wanting to have children, I would expect to be married at the end of two years. That means engaged after about one year to fifteen months. I proposed to my now-wife 27 months after we started dating, but she was 59 at that time and obviously we are not having children.

[Sugar100]

I wish I was a guy ☹️ because I do want children but no guy gives me my expectations. I wish I can propose to someone in one year. No guy will do that no guy asks me to meet family.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why do you think that is? Feel free to DM me if you would prefer.

[Sugar100]

I don't know I met one guy wen I was 18 he’s my best friend we dated but he deny meet family , & he says he’s single & barley now as im 26 he says he has love for me. But still it’s same we don’t meet family. No pics
I talked to church guy online but he wants marriage til 4/5 years & he’s my age 26. But he had past serious relationships that ended I assume as he didn’t want baby or marriage.

I told him I want baby and marriage 1-2 years.
So that guy not the one for me.

Then Im seeing a new guy that’s long distance & we’ll meet in 2 wks. But I don't know if he’ll be my serious boyfriend too. We did talk of Marriage & he said he’s too young for marriage. But we did talk of living together & his family r religous & want him married first before living with girl.

It would be nice live together & marriage later in future.

But yea I don't know what age I’ll finally have a husband or guy meeting family living with me at least

[Sugar100]

It would be nice if I live with the long distance guy & that way I’m apart of his family, and we have pregnancy , but I don't know what future holds.

It alll depends on the guy if he agrees do all this.

That’s y I’m stuck alone unable settle down

[Sugar100]

I hope the long distance guy is the right guy for me. I don’t understand y girls since 15 get many bfs come home to meet family & magically everyone wants marry her & they don’t happen for my life

[Nikki1989]

We waited 18 months, but we were in the process of moving to another country at the time. As soon as we moved and got settled in, we were married.

[4ngelic]

at least 4 years. though if you're in your 30s maybe 2years

[Sugar100]

So what do you do in a relationship 4 years? Just date that’s it? Never live together never meet family just 4 years dating & sex?

[Sugar100]

I don’t like idea of not living with a guy until 5 years and never meering family til 5 years that’s y I think marriage in 1-2 years is goof

[Sugar100]

Becuz then u breakup in 5 years and relationship was waste , never met family and no baby. Just wasted time having sex & dates?

[Juxtapose]

You say that but imagine how bad the breakup is when you're married and have a kid..

[Sugar100]

@Juxtapose it’s normal now a days. It’s normal now to divorce too, it rare for a relationship to last forever. But it sad if you are old and never had a boyfriend , never had experienced a relationship. That worse.

[Sugar100]

Worse be old and neevr of had a baby. I wouldn’t mind I’m divorced , or alone with baby , I would be happy I at least got to experience what true love is like for once.

[Juxtapose]

See if you don't plan to mitigate failure then you are planning to fail. If you just take a little extra time finding the guy and vetting him, then you can have a lifelong relationship. My grandparents have had those and my aunt stay with her husband until he died. I know it's possible, and I think it would be a sad thing to fall in love with somebody and then have that all broken apart, have a broken family and a kid living in a broken family. I lived with divorced parents and it's not fun..

[Juxtapose]

*My grandparents have had that and my aunt stayed with her husband until he died

[Sugar100]

@Juxtapose mostly everyone I know is divorced alone with baby. It’s kinda normal. Only if u have super good luck u stay perfect family forever. I’m not putting false expectations in my head.
But at least u are happy living life with your baby then being alone forever old and never of had a kid.

[Sugar100]

@Juxtapose it’s more sad u date guy 5 years and he wasted your time and break up with guy in 5 years. I ain’t have boyfriend sex with someone for 5 years and no ring

[Juxtapose]

Marriage isn't going to make men commit anymore than they would have before.

[Juxtapose]

If you expect the guy to leave or for you to eventually get sick of him then just adopt.

[LazerBean]

We got married after a year and a half of dating. We met each other's parents and got to know them very well early on though, which I think is very important if you plan on getting married.

[Sugar100]

I’ve never met a guys parents no one wants to marry me LOL

[Twalli]

3 year minimum before proposing. Thrn however long it takes for everything else to be worked out. My sister was engaged about a year before I will be (tomorrow), but she's waiting until her boyfriend graduates from welding school.

[MicahRaine]

I think anything more than two years is a waste of time unless you're still in college or something similar.

[BonzoInBitburg]

3-4 years is the minimum to get to know someone. It's too risky to rush it

[Juxtapose]

You don't know shit about a person in 2 years and you want to commit your whole life to them and have a baby with them? Come on..

[Sugar100]

I know someone in my family that got married in one year. And everyone in the family is so happy. Makes no sense

[Sugar100]

Many religous people marry fast in one year. I don’t want waste 5 years having sex with someone then we breakup and again 5 more years having sex with new guy…

[Juxtapose]

Well like I said in the other response, plan better. Being a serial monogamist and going from one failed relationship to another sounds exhausting and I would rather just be single my whole life then go through that shit.