At some point in life, you will hit a moment where you don't have time to date another 7 more years to finally get married and start a family. You're gonna have to settle at some point in life otherwise, it will likely never happen for you. Your chances of getting married doesn't increase as you get older.
@markayd not everyone wants to get married. My parents got divorced in their 50s. Waste of time to ever be married for them.
@Pillarofhellmarriage is what you make of it. Marrying the wrong person is an option. Divorce is also an option. You chose to get divorced rather than to work on things. But the reality of dying alone is very difficult. A lot of the elderly spend the last years of hteir lives feeling very lonely, abandoned, and neglected. Kids often move away, relocate and dont bother to check up on their parents. Loneliness is a very common problem amongst the elderly.
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Righg. A co worker told me his friend was dating this chick for 10 years, got married and didn't last a year in their marriages. Time means nothing.
@Hispanic-Cool-Guy In my state ten years of living together is common law marriage, not sure if they were living together but that would essentially make them married here, like it or not. Assuming they were living together.
What do you mean work with you or against you? How would it work against you , if you give your boyfriend regular sex?
@Prettyapathetic - If you give sex to a guy without his commitment, it's difficult to get him to commit to you - he's getting free sex, so what's the impetus to lock himself in?Women are keepers of sex.Guys are keepers of commitment.Don't be giving up yours till you get at least a little of his.
Also you need to put in a request/hint that you want to get married. Most guys are not going to think of it first unless he's desperate to get married. So the timer doesn't even start till he knows you want to get married.
But the timer I mean in my last message isn't the full 4-6. More like 2-3 years at that point.
people do not propose because she is wife material. people propose to those who they have strong romantic feelings for. the stronger it is, the more likely he will propose.
@markayd Maybe fools propose to women who aren't wife material. Obviously it's not JUST because she's wife material. It's a given that he's into her too.
people will care more about passion than whether or not she is wife material. usually he will take her as long as she hits the minimum passing score for a "good wife" such as a 65%.
nowadays, marriage is more about enjoyment, passion and excitement than about stability, being a good wife / taking care of each other. once your spouse finds you boring, its only a matter of time before he hires a divorce lawyer.
@markayd I realize that women change their minds and do things based more on how they feel at the time. Although if she believes you're a "good catch" then she's slower to make a final decision because the stakes are high. Also, I'd say only people who get married during the initial lust/honeymoon period of a relationship are getting married just for passion. Hence my original post!
@hahahmmyou all blame women for doing things according to how they feel. Men are the same way. No man will marry you because you're an excellent wife who has dinner ready on time everyday, or is able to juggle three jobs and also keep the house clean. A man will only marry a woman if he feels strongly and very passionately towards her. I have seen a lot of men marry dumb women, bad mothers, just because he loves her. People like to say they put logic over emotion. But in real life, we rarely ever see any of that.
@markayd It's not my fault if you pick guys who bought into the feminist line that men need to show more emotion, be more emotional and such. Real men don't change their minds based on their mood and random whims. Men are biologically wired to be able to handle stress better (if they bother to tap into that strength). This is scientific fact. Probably one of the reasons why women are usually the ones filing for divorce too. But I will give you this.. you women are consistent. Consistently dodging responsibility. Everything is somebody else's fault. A man has to own not only his mistakes but yours (if you're in a relationship with him). We know this whether you can admit it or not. Next.
@hahahmmWomen are the ones filing for divorce because they know men like to marry down so they would have much to gain from divorce. You can’t just marry someone who never worked a day in her life then cry about it when she takes half your assets upon divorce. She never worked for anything and yet she takes half. Men don’t file for divorce cus he knows he has much to lose. When you like to marry poor women, nobody feels bad for you losing half to her
@markayd So you're basically telling us how you personally operate, on a level below street hookers since street hookers don't have to lie to men to get ahead in life.
@hahahmmWhat’s wrong with street hookers If you want to marry a street hooker?
@markayd hookers are honest so they get more respect than whoring non hookers
@hahahmmWell if you like to marry poor hookers then don’t complain when she takes half. You love poor hookers who marry for money. Financially stable women scare you off
@markayd It's pretty much rule #1 among men not to marry a hooker. A lot just do it without knowing they're doing it.
@markayd men are biologically wired to be providers & protectors... saying a man is scared of financially well off women is like saying a woman is afraid of broke men since the vast majority of women wouldn't marry such a guy. Next.
Just the same as a woman in their late 30s is settling for the provider man…
@VanillaSalt Unless your man has a really legitimate reason to take 10 years to propose , there is a high chance he is settling for you. Couples who are head over heels in love can’t wait to get married
I don’t trust people easy. And I don’t believe in love. I refuse to marry with less than 1-3 years of prior deep understanding and at all I’d I don’t trust you. As a matter of fact I argue that marriage is a mistake for men period. Not every women WILL take a a man for all he’s worth after cheating but any woman can without consequences, that alone makes massage a bad deal for men.
@VanillaSalt You don’t truly know someone until after marriage. People are on their best behaviors until you marry them. And reality is , at some point in life you will run out of time “dating”. Marriage prime is in late 20s-30s. You don’t have until your 40s-50s to find “the one”. At some point in life you will lose your physical attractiveness and find all your friends are married with kids. You’re the only one who is single in your social circle.
@VanillaSalt There are still many guys who want to get married. Most men want marriage eventually:
Why do you think I advise against it? Men gain no benefit through marriage. Only women benefit but the most benefit they stand to gain from it is divorce.
@VanillaSalt I’m willing to bet you don’t even have any assets. What do you really have to lose from marriage? Marry a poor woman, you will lose everything Marry a rich woman, you will get half of her money
Do women generally want s a man that makes more or less then they have. They want taller men. Stronger men. Men with money. Men with higher status. Men that can raise them up. Their general expectations are higher than the average man in today’s society. If you want proof look at alimony. Generally the higher earners pays alimony and 90% of alimony payments are made by men.
As for what I have… I went from being homeless to 2 vehicles an apartment and 50k a year with covid hours… do you think a woman would be happy keeping an apartment? Na after marriage I’ll be expected to buy a house or I’m not being a man. I’m new to my job but I’m about5 years I’ll be in the 6 figure range which is more than about 60% of men in the states…Also what hurts more the guy paying 25k in alimony when he makes 50k or the hit paying 100k who makes 200k? Pretty easy to live on 100k Lol.
@VanillaSalt You don’t even have any assets. Losing a car is really nothing compared to a man with a net worth of 300k, two houses , a car , Various rental property , A business. Men like to marry poor women. The poorer, the better. And at the end of the day, you pay THe price for having your preferences.
@VanillaSalt 50k a year is not rich at all. That’s a poor mans salary. By the time I hit my early 30s, I would be bringing 100k a year , have a rental property, A house , car, possibly starting a business.
It’s funny how poor men are complaining about losing half their assets when they barely have any assets
It’s funny how some bitch online can talk down to me telling me I don’t make enough for losing half what I got to be important…
@VanillaSalt you're 34 years old. The average man around your age makes wayy more than 50k per year.
I bet your in a big city. I’m out here in the boonies. If you judge my income of the big cities you’ll find it to be far less… but while a New Yorker probably makes 300k/year their also forming it no less than $1500 a month for a studio apartment. Also you keep talking down to me. I went from homeless to making 50k during covid with a significant cut to hours. That 50k is a low estimate depending on the jobs we’re running and it don’t include bonuses which are about 30% of my annual income. But why am I explaining my accomplishment to some woman who thinks she can shame me lol. I’m quite proud of where I’m at and fuck you
@VanillaSalt 50k is nothing in the overwhelming majority of large modern cities in the US. Its not only New York. The only place where 50k is considered "well off" is the country side where everyone is broke as hell, no educated professionals, everyone is married and with 5 kids before turning 30.On average, the typical 34 yr old should be making way more than 50k.
@VanillaSalt when we are talking about assets, we are talking about hefty savings accounts, property, hefty investments. Having two cheap cars, an apartment is really ridiculously modest. I wouldn't say you're someone with a lot of assets. The typical new yorker has a home worth close to a million dollar worth, makes an average of 80-150k annually, a car, a lot of investments, or even a property. Now this is someone with sufficient assets.
and if you had so much money, wouldn't you already be married by your age? From what I know about the places you come from, the women are typically desperate, uneducated, poor and have no way to improve their standard of living. A lot of them need to marry for money. You should never have a problem finding a wife in your location.
Well I’m sorry I don’t measure up to your standards lol. That don’t mean I’m willing to give up half what I’ve earned either.We’re done here. Once a woman’s gotten to the point of insulting you and repeating the same insults you can’t have a conversation with them.
@VanillaSalt dude, don't blame me for saying you're aren't a rich man. Not everyone is gonna lie to kiss your ass like that.
@VanillaSalt [We’re done here. Once a woman’s gotten to the point of insulting you and repeating the same insults you can’t have a conversation with them.]I never insulted you hun. I'm just telling you the truth. You're just offended by the truth.
Wow... did you guys talked about it?
They won't bring it up or mention it and when I try to it gets ignored
Wow that's weird... hopefully one day you find the one who would be thrilled to get married to you!
I don't want to be with anybody else other than the one I'm with now the one who won't give me an answer
Leave her man. No women worth the effort will play such games and no woman that really wants you will leave you open and free.
Yes... That is a Google idea
Never do ANYTHING that you do not fully believe is a good idea because as a man you will always be held 100% accountable for your choices, regardless of who influenced you to make them. Women get the luxury of saying it's somebody else's fault when they make mistakes and society just pats them on the back and says, "poor baby". So think real hard before you do anything you might regret, whatever the topic is.
@hahahmm will the victim playing and woman bashing ever stop?
@markayd Don't know, all I do know is that this argument which is about to occur is something I need some popcorn to watch.
sounds like you need a job.
@markayd ProbablyBut watching random fights on the internet is more fun
@Jayplays900 because you don't have a life
@markayd Mhm, yupYou wanna keep wasting ya time?
@Jayplays900 you have too much time on your hands so you need to waste some of your time
@markayd Naw, I'm just casually wasting your time. Cause I'm so "DEvIOuS"!
@markayd It's a fact that men have lost their jobs over what their wives did/said in public. That doesn't happen to women. It's a fact that if a man and women agree 50/50 to do some crime that when they get caught the man will get all or most of the punishment. It's a fact that if a couple are out in public and the guy's woman runs her mouth too much to another man, then her boyfriend will be the target of attacks, not her. Happens all the time. I could go on and on. This is reality. Men who are responsible types aren't looking to "play victim". They accept being responsible. They have to also avoid getting with classless, bottom feeder type women who love to create drama and do everything in life based on momentary feelings.
@markayd Be sure to look up responsibility in the dictionary sometime. I'm sure you'll learn something.
@Jayplays900You’re not wasting my time at all. Because I’m having a lot of fun talking to you.
@hahahmm If you had a lot of responsibility, you wouldn’t be on here.
Just because he hasn’t married you yet you’re going to throw all that time and energy in the relationship away? At least you’re engaged
We've been together for seven years every attempt to plan a wedding even a courthouse wedding gets ignored
Do you know why though? Have you talked about it? Don’t manipulate by saying if we don’t get married we’re breaking up
No I think after trying to talk about it multiple times, varying ways. He says he doesn't want to be in front of people but that isn't the case if it was just a courthouse. He proposed so he wouldn't lose me after breaking up with me. For a few months. It was a love bomb attempt and now he never attempts any positivity, romAnce, nothing
What do you really mean... Africa still believe in marriage
Thanks for like!
@Alexandrubaschet08 got diamonds? I do
What you mean?