Did you date in high school? I didn't. Is that normal?

Question

I never dated not even in highschool but I don't know how normal that is and I want to know

Friendlybro79 · Accepted Answer

I didn't because I was really shy and something happened at 20 and I came out of my shell. I had a crush on the same girl in HS the entire time and I remember the last day of class sr. yr I was going to say something, because I think she knew anyway but I chickened out. I always regretted it.

I remember feeling completely in love based on the interactions I had with her in class a few times a year which is funny how that is when you're young. I do remember actually getting into a fight over a kid slapping her ass in the hall and when she screamed at him he laughed at her said too bad. A week later I tripped that kid in the hall and I said too bad to him lol. He tried to fight me but I slapped him so hard he ran away lol. When I went to the principals office I told him why I did it, why id do it again, and I didn't care what the punishment was. I knew I shouldn't have done that and I was wrong too but I was willing to take the punishment. The principal spoke to me separately and said so you like this girl huh and I said very much so but she doesn't know what I did and would rather it that way. I didn't do it for attention. I was 17 and he looked at me and said just stay after school one day in detention and don't hit anyone anymore lol. In 1997 you could do this I'm sure now I'd be in jail lol.

Funny enough, I barely knew her and wasn't in her circle of friends. I realize now you didn't ask for this back story but it's been a while since I thought about this and it just came out.

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

I did, but not much. I first dated as a freshman, then again as a senior. Nothing in between. The first one was pretty awkward. I had no idea what to do next. So I ended up ghosting her, which I always felt bad about. The second one didn't last long, but we ended up being pretty good friends until I lost track of her in my mid-20s.

I saw a picture of the first one from the 40th reunion. She has kept herself up well and still looked good. I have no idea what happened to the second one, but I bet she is still in the area. The problem with trying to look up women from the past is that they keep changing their last name.

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

I did, but I prob should not have, it was not a healthy relationship, in this case I was mainly the one who made it unhealthy, he was sweet but I was just not interested yet I didn’t break up w him until we went to different colleges. I acted bored and aloof and hoped he would break up with me but he never did so it just sort of dragged out like that.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Never dated in high school since I never wanted to be knocked up under age and people almost never stay together form high school so I always thought, what's the point? Also guys never paid much attention to me and I always thought I couldn't be loved, so never bothered at all.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I was the youngest person in my class in high school and girls all wanted to date older guys. Then I left high school after my junior year, so I never dated until I started college. Then, my dates were usually younger sisters of my fraternity brothers visiting our college for the weekend.

AviatorTom · Answer

I didn't start one-on-one dating until college. In high school, i did a lot of group dating, 3 or 4 guys with 3 or 4 girls. My only one-on-one date in high school was the senior ball.

Your not dating in high school is probably not what the majority do, but it's not abnormal.

RingOfFire · Answer

What? 60% never dated in high school?

I'm completely shocked by that. I've never known a world where people didn't date in high school? It was completely the norm when I was in school.

Now does that mean that there was something wrong with you if you didn't date while you were in high school? Of course not. Some people just get into that phase later in their lives. It's not abnormal, it's just another normal route that some people take.

But I am shocked that 60% answer that they didn't date in high school. It's hard to believe.

Of course it might have to do with the definition of "dating." I think most people around the age of 15 start at least informal dating even if it's just "hanging out" with someone of the opposite sex.

Maybe that's where the discrepancy is here.

sawno · Answer

Was to shy for that back then. There was a girl I am very confident I could have had as my girlfriend, I liked her and she seemed compatible with me. I think she'd have liked me back had I made an effort. But I just could not bring up the courage to talk to her. I have grown a lot since then.

Lliam · Answer

I got together with my first girlfriend when I was 16 in my first year of high school in 10th grade. She was wonderful.
I wound up having another girlfriend later in high school. She was wonderful, too.
Both were a year or two younger than me.

Mac-One · Answer

Dated only twice in high school. Once on my 16th birthday was not a real date as it resulted in having a girl joining me for a celebration with my parents after a football game. The other time was for my senior prom and a meal after; it was with another couple.

Anonymous · Answer

I didn’t try… until I did, and it was a bad experience. I learned a lot about people in that time. And I have yet to try to date again into my 30’s.

Growing up with a pretty well-defined moral compass and set of standards, I just have to say… people these days are extremely lost. It was bad then as an older teen/young adult, and it’s only gotten even worse I think.

Finding someone you’re even attracted to anymore is harder than finding a needle in a haystack.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I was the kid that got pantsed. My parents ignored me. Both of my sisters had been raped by the time I was in high school. They were 1 and 3 years older than me. The year 1 would show me her black book of guys she proudly admitted using for what she wanted. Year 3 would constantly shout at me about how all males are scumbags.

No I didn't date.

legalboxers · Answer

was 2-fold. I had someone who was into me, but I was not allowed to date. I was told "go work for your money".. While on the other coin "You must worship your books and your parents. Your education will love you and all the degrees can be made into a blanket to keep you warm at night...

MacDaddyRico · Answer

I didn't plan on it because I knew I was going to join the Navy and didn't want any complications.
But then she came out of nowhere, calling me by my name, telling me she knew all about me.
My younger brother's girlfriend.
I knew I was in trouble.

NathanDavis · Answer

technically... I didn't date in highschool because I had my one girlfriend during all highschool.  both things are the most normal though... to date or not to date, both are prevalent enough

Kaneki05 · Answer

I was an anti-social loner, still am yet dated in high school.
Pretty sure that's the easiest time to date as you are forced to interact, now I am no longer forced to do so and haven't had a girlfriend in a while.

thatshydork · Answer

I didn’t date in high school. Apparently a lot of the guys who wanted to talk to me/ask me out were too intimidated or thought I’d say no (this is coming from a guy friend I had)

Anonymous · Answer

I had a girlfriend for the whole of my senior year and a the last bit of my junior year as well, so yeah. I guess I'd say I was more in a relationship than that I "dated" in the sense that I wasn't going out with different girls all the time. Not sure if that's what you mean specifically or not, but I voted "yes" in your poll.

BlkM84 · Answer

I dated in high school, but it was difficult because I had a nosy sister who thought she needed to vet any girl I was interested in

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I didn't... but I did a lot of fucking in High School.

EagerAmber · Answer

It's perfectly normal if you didn't. Sometimes people just would rather be alone or not deal with all the extra drama that comes with it

idonotlikeyou · Answer

I had a boyfriend in high school, but my twin sister didn't. So I see both situations as normal.

MinnieMousse · Answer

I didn’t date in high school, I felt like I was too busy focusing on studying and clubs and my job to really have time for a proper relationship.

MysticDevice · Answer

I did date in highschool bit it is totally normal if you didn't. I know several people who waited until after highschool to date. Cause honestly, highschoolers are kinda dumb. I know cause I was a dumb highschooler

Mwolf · Answer

No not completely abnormal, but usually most do. I wasn't allowed, and didn't really have the opportunity to until my twenties.

236color · Answer

I did, I had 3 dates with the same young lady. I kissed her once. I think it's pretty common for people in high school not to date.

Sugar100 · Answer

No the one boy I liked rejected me & he and his friend laughed in secret about me cuz I liked him. I never had the romantic prom I wanted in life.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

I didn't date in high school. We were bombarded with school activities, unlike now in college.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

No, I didn't. I was kind of awkward back then, no one ever asked me out and my crush acted like a total jerk.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

The term ''dating'' only became a thing to me after I joined GaG. Before: I met girls I like (d) to do things we like (d). So... yes :D

skidawgkc22 · Answer

I tried to date in high school, but was always rejected. I didn't even get a first date until I was in my mid 20's.

Lalalove11 · Answer

Not until 22. Was always a late bloomer nothing wrong with it.

Anonymous · Answer

I went to a few dances, but usually as part of a group of friends. Not romantic or anything. I didn’t date till college, and after that month or two, didn’t date until I was way out of college.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

That's fairly common, these days. I went on two dates in high school. I wasn't really in the mental place to handle dating, so I barely tried.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I didn't date in high school I actually didn't start dating until the summer I was going into my first year of college

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I couldn't get a woman to look at me, let alone talk to me. Definitely did not date in highschool

aengus27 · Answer

Imagine dating irl. Couldn't be me (actually couldn't cos of social anxiety)

spartan55 · Answer

I'm really surprised at the number of No votes... not allowed? No desire?

CindyRuns · Answer

I was too busy studying to get good grades, playing sports and spending casual time with my friends.

Rapport · Answer

I did and I regret it. It was a waste of my time and effort and if I could to it again I wouldn’t have dated or slept with anyone when I was in Highschool.

Unit1 · Answer

i didn't have a girlfriend still. I've had only one not serious relationship when i was 23 years old, that didn't last a year.

Dr_Lovejoy · Answer

We called it dating, anyway. Didn’t do much more than hangout with each other.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

No one WANTED to date me and there's STILL no one that wants to!

Peridot25 · Answer

Never dated in high school. Didn’t trust a single guy at my school.

TDDMS · Answer

Does making out with two cheerleaders on a 2 hour bus trip count as a date?

Paul09 · Answer

I dated I highschool. But then could not find a girlfriend after I was finished with highschool. FML.

PA19062024 · Answer

No, I didn't. Even after secondary school I didn't date. I wasn't exactly popular, not one of the "in crowd".

art84 · Answer

Never did as I didn't anyone that I liked in high school.

HaveNoName · Answer

I never dated till I got married at 30; that too, without dating.

moviedude714 · Answer

I didn't and it's more common than people think

Iron_Man · Answer

Women liked me, but I was too shy as a teen to seal the deal

handsomelad70 · Answer

I didn't but that might not have been normal even in the 60's.

Wise4myage · Answer

No, I was way to shy and way to poor to date in HS.

mrkdvsn · Answer

I didn't go on anything you could call a date until 22 years old.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

I sorta did. I think teenage is the time when you love pure

msc545 · Answer

I had a very steady girlfriend. It was a terrific experience.

moneymagnet24 · Answer

Fuck yeah I lost my virginity when I was 14 with my math teacher...

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

Different people, mature, at different times

Anonymous · Answer

Not really. I think I went on 1 date when I was in high school.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Many times.

Anonymous · Answer

Apparently if you dated before you’re okay. If not, you’re a worthless loser according to later females.

Anonymous · Answer

Had a terrible crush on one girl and got turned down (gently) and it put me off from the whole experience

electromagnetic · Answer

I didn't date in high school.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I wasn't allowed to date, so it was a no.

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