How can I get excited about going out with women?

[Deserter2]

I have no motivation anymore, the mystique is gone. It all feels like a facade. I can get dates easily mind you, but like what's the point? I feel like it's more or less the same thing with everyone.

[SueShe]

There is no excitement to go dating. For what?

I hear it is always the same thing. One fakes being a good person for the sole and unique purpose to try to fornicate with the victim and when it did happen, it is boring, it is always the same, it is a routine and it is nothing special because the novelty has gone.

It may be fun the fist time but when it is always the same thing, it is no longer interesting. I could never understand those that place fornication on the top priority in their lives. It is basically the same as watching a Western movie. You have seen one, you have seen them all. The same applies in my opinion to fornication.

[Juxtapose]

People are definitely not the same when it comes to sex. How many people have you had sex with?

[SueShe]

@Juxtapose I don't fornicate

[Juxtapose]

See? How can you know what you're talking about when you've never done it?

[SueShe]

@Juxtapose Let me see if I see that correctly about sexual compatibility.

I believe that a man has a penis in the range between 2'' and about 6'' (at least the majority of them do).

I believe that a woman has a vaginal depth of between 3'' and 6'' (at least the majority of them do).

Inserting the one into the other is what compatibility is all about. So what other compatibility do you need. Are you talking about the perversions that people assume is needed in addition?

[Juxtapose]

Sexual compatibility is way more than fitting a tool into a hole. A lot of what sex is, is psychological. A guy is not going to get a boner for example and a woman is not going to get wet if they don't relax and get into the right headspace.

That's why there is foreplay and numerous things need to happen for that spark of attraction. Of course proper hygiene, complementing each other in the right way, playing to each other's kinks and so on.

If a woman just laid there and spread her legs I would be awfully bored! I would have a better time alone with my imagination than with a lifeless doll.

[SueShe]

@Juxtapose You see, that is exactly what I mean when I mention the term "perversions". Kink is one of them that does not really need to be just like other deviant acts like oral sex or anal intercourse.

Thanks for your input.

[Juxtapose]

Oral sex has a legitimate function in evolutionary biology. We literally kiss and give oral sex to test for diseases and also it serves to have the couple bond without risk of putting out more children than necessary.

[Juxtapose]

Even gay anal sex has a purpose because it strengthens bonds within human tribes and also animals can become closer because of it.

[Juxtapose]

You have an abnormal adversion to a perfectly healthy aspect of life.

[SueShe]

@Juxtapose no, I don't have an abnormal aversion but only common sense and one single heath that I intend to keep as long as possible and not jeopardize with deviant sexual acts that bring nothing in terms of intellectual satisfaction.

Check your statistic about the surge of venereal diseases in the US.

www.forbes.com/.../

Why should I take an unnecessary health risk if I can avoid it altogether?

[Juxtapose]

It's really a simple as wearing a condom for the guy or getting both partners STD test. This is really basic shit that is super easy to do, it's easier than paying your bills..

There is no risk if you get tested and are both negative.

[Juxtapose]

*STD tests

[SueShe]

@Juxtapose So I would have to go through the entire rigmarole just for a few muscular contractions a spasms? You are not serious, are you?

[Juxtapose]

It's a pretty simple visit or two to get these tests done and then you and your partner are cleared to have sex as much as you want.

Reducing sex to a few muscle contraptions or spasms is like reducing the joy of hugging someone as dopamine triggered by physical contact.

Sex is called physical intimacy for a reason. It is incredibly intimate, incredibly romantic and it feels absolutely incredible. It's a great way to bond with somebody you love.

[Juxtapose]

Even something simple like a hug is pretty magical. Dismissing physical contact and physical needs is doing a disservice to yourself.

[SueShe]

@Juxtapose and who is going to pay for those tests? I am pretty sure it is not covered by the health care system and how are those tests performed?

I will not allow anyone, not even a doctor to touch my intimacy and that is out of the question for me to lower myself to do something like that.

[Juxtapose]

Pretty sure you and I know that men end up paying for most things in the end and it would be the guy who would have to pay for it if the woman had even the least amount of hesitation like you do lol.

You do realize you have to go see a gynecologist to stay healthy, right? And men such as myself after at some point get things shoved up asses so we can determine if we have cancer.

[Juxtapose]

You should also have mammograms done regularly.

[SueShe]

@Juxtapose I have no history of any cancer of any type in my family, I am not sexually active, I don't manipulate my body and thus, I don't have the need to visit a gynecologist until I reach my 60s. I have never been to one and don't plan to since I am at a very low risk. A mammography might be necessary later in life I agree with you.

[Juxtapose]

Cancer affects 1 in 5 people.

[Deserter2]

Juxtapose, why are you so fixated on making her want to have sex?

[MadinaHasABensheer]

I think the excitement lies with the women your friends with. Don’t approach women with the intention of going on a date with them. Try a different perspective, why don’t you become friends first and go through that honeymoon phase where you’ll be secretly crushing on one another. I think simply hanging out with a friend whom you’re immensely attracted to fun.

ps: not sure if men feel the same way.

[ChinaGrove]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/VnnrtoFKF4Y

It's over. Evolution is just that. I joke about dating sites, but if you ever tried it, you'd know it's dismal at best. But meeting couples can be fun.

[NathanDavis]

that's why I never dated as a serial dater...

[LazerBean]

If that's how you feel, then I don't know if there's any point in you trying to date

[Deserter2]

No, I want to fix the problem

[LazerBean]

Fixing that problem would require a complete lifestyle and value change, and most people are not willing to do that

[Deserter2]

How'd I go about it?

[LazerBean]

The first step would probably to focus on having healthy, deep relationships with family and friends. If you don't have that, then you probably won't know the signs of a good potential spouse when you see one.

[Juxtapose]

The real fun comes with meeting someone compatible who is going to be with you for the long term.

[SueShe]

explain what compatibility is to you.

[Juxtapose]

Certainly!

Compatibility is where she has enough similarities to me where what we want and what we expect don't clash or contradict each other too much. She wants what I want and I want what she wants. We have similar values, similar pass times.. we match like Lego pieces who are fit for each other.

A woman compatible with me would be virtuous in terms of empathy, compassion, honesty, curiosity, bravery and loyalty. She would be just as into my body and my mind as I would be into her's.

Such a woman would be extremely special and I would die to defend her.

[SueShe]

so, you don't need to fornicate to be compatible. Those are all similarities on a much higher and better level.

[Juxtapose]

Well if you don't have sex then you're basically just friends or some weird "asexual" couple.

Romance is essentially foreplay for sex in evolutionary terms. Romance exist because sex exists.

[Juxtapose]

Romance is consistent of a bunch of social rituals and tests to determine if the other person is a suitable lifelong mate.

[Juxtapose]

And then after they settle for each other, romance helps keeps them together.

[HusamRocks]

Move up to the next level

Be responsible

[Deserter2]

What does that even mean? Don't tell me to level up when I can see you're fat

[HusamRocks]

What's the relation of being fat which I am not by the way and leveling up u dumb 😂 I meant grow up and move to the level where u stop playing around 😂 consider being committed to one girl which I believe u can't do 😉

[Deserter2]

You're obese, bootleg Kevin Owens, OINK!

[HusamRocks]

Ur such a child 😂 this is why they keep leaving u 👶

[Deserter2]

I leave them, they won't even look at you and your bacon grease pulsating pores

[HusamRocks]

So u think u r smart because u leave them u little monkey 😂 I doubt that u ever had a date in ur entire life 💁‍♂️

[Deserter2]

You don't seem to understand, maybe I should translate.

OINK! OINK! OINKIE! OINK! OINK! 🐷🐖

[HusamRocks]

😂😂😂 u might be retarded but ur funny 😂😂 have u got lost from ur farm or something 😂😂

[Deserter2]

I left to catch you cause you escaped

[HusamRocks]

I ran away because u stink 😁

[DishLady]

Maybe you’re not into women…

[Deserter2]

Stop being passive aggressive, I'm aroused by women