How do stop thinking about this and letting it bother me?

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I was talking to this girl that I recently met on an app, we had talked for a couple of days everything was going good. Then about three days ago we had gotten into an argument about something. and she stopped answering my phone calls and my messages. so I hadn’t really been speaking to her but then yesterday she tells me that she had invited another guy over to her house to spend the night and that they had sex. And to be honest it has really upset me because even though I wasn’t dating this girl I really did like her and I’d like to talk to her and you know I could’ve seen eventually getting into a relationship with her. And I don’t know why I feel feel this way but I just feel betrayed and really upset and pissed off about it even though technically we are not even dating but I didn’t think that she was that kind of person and you know I did like her. But obviously now after something like that obviously I know not to forgive her and to not give her another chance and there’s no chance of me getting into a relationship with her now because clearly can’t trust her and I don’t want her if she’s doing something like that so I’m not gonna give her another chance but how do I stop feeling so crap about it and just move on and forget about this and about her and just move on and not be upset anymore

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Wow man, that really sucks. No wonder you're upset - I would be too. It's normal to feel betrayed in this situation even if you weren't officially dating. A few things that might help:

- Cut off all contact with her completely. Block her on everything so she can't keep pulling you back in. Out of sight, out of mind.

- Hang with your boys and do stuff to take your mind off it. Play video games, watch movies, go out - whatever you guys like to do. Let them distract you.

- Keep reminding yourself you deserve way better. She clearly wasn't worthy of your time if she'd do something like that. Be glad you dodged a bullet.

- Give it some time. The hurt will fade, I promise. A week from now it won't sting as much. A month from now you probably won't even think about her.

- Put your energy into other girls! Once you start talking to someone new, this one will seem totally forgettable.

You'll get past it, dude. She's not worth another second of your feelings. On to bigger and better - you got this!

RMM34 · Answer

Well that's good she did stop talking to you, lord save you from a girl like that , be happy and something better will come your way

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