How do I not let it bother me?

[confusedtea]

Me and my ex broke up a month back (I’m 20, he turns 22 this month and we had a 6 month sorta hot and heavy relationship). He owes me 2k. After the breakup we unfollowed each other and shi and from my 3 accounts, I blocked him on my public one. I’d stalk his business profile about trading occasionally. He did text me a lot (about how he feels crap about breakup, wanted me to be happy etc) but he was a toxic and emotionally abusive narc. By the time i responded about his message and asking my money back (10ish days later as i needed time to process it) he blocked me on iMessage so he never got my text. I lowkey gave up on getting my money back. Now I noticed he blocked my accounts tho we unfollowed each other. And for some reason it bugs me. The breakup deffo is smth I needed and I am more livelier and happier without him being in my life but these sorta actions do bug me. I lost 20 pounds, had panic attacks and self harmed when I was with him. He managed to brainwash me and isolate me as well. I don't know what to do or how to get my mind of this and move on. For my own personal development shit I have been avoiding going on dating apps tho I wanna go on dates because I know I need to work on myself in lot of ways. I don’t know why is this bothering me. Part of it has to do with the money too. Any solutions?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, that dude sounds like straight up trash. No wonder you've been doin so much better without him dragging you down. But I get why finding out he blocked you would rub ya the wrong way - it's like a final "screw you" after everything he put you through.

Honestly his actions say way more about him than you. He probably blocked cuz he knows he screwed up and can't face it. What a coward. Try not to let it get in your head though - you're so much more than some toxic dude's bullshit.

As for the money, I'd say let that ship sail too. Not worth chasing after someone who treated you so bad. Instead, put that energy into yourself. Sounds like you're on the right track prioritizing your growth and healing.

Maybe take some time to reconnect with your girls too instead of dating just yet. Y'all can go have fun and party it up to show that loser what he's missin! You're so strong for getting out - keep holdin your head high, girl, and forget about that clown's pathetic games. Brighter days ahead, I know it!

[confusedtea]

As much as I wanna forget the money and everything I feel like he left me a huge trauma that I won’t be able to trust guys anymore. I wish I could fuck him over but too many variables and as much as I wanna move on and I’m making my progress it’s messy.
Knowing him I’m so sure he was alr talking to new chicks the moment we broke up and now too he probably alr found a new chick.
He lied to me about his ex so much too, that girl he told me about has been in a relationship for a year with someone else yet claimed they broke up 1.5 months before we met; and also lied a lot about his exs background and family and im sure he lied a lot more about himself. All that alone fucks with my head. I’m just tryna look ahead and move forward

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I totally get why all that lying and manipulation would mess with your head and make it hard to trust guys again. Dealing with someone so toxic like that is super traumatizing. But please don't let one jerk make you give up on finding a real caring relationship someday.

It's okay if you need to take time to focus on yourself and heal. Do things each day that build you up instead of dwell on him. As for him probably already talking to someone new right away, who cares what that jerk is doing! His actions only say something about his crappy character.

You've come so far already in getting your confidence and happiness back - don't let him take up any more space in your mind. You deserve so much better. When you're ready one day, I'm sure you'll be able to see that most guys aren't like that pos.

For now, just stay surrounded by your real friends. Lean on them during any down moments. You've got this - keep looking ahead to an even brighter future without his lies dragging you down anymore!

[Anonymous]

We are both physical and spiritual beings and your ex has demons in him. Your comment that said 'I lost 20 pounds, had panic attacks and self harmed when I was with him.' those are typical results of being influenced by demons from him. It's not so much that it's bothering you, as it is bothering your spirit. You feel unclean, unrest, disgust and like something has been taken away from you. You need spiritual deliverance but have been taught only to focus on the physical.

[katiesmuff]

I'd say your money is gone!

[Anonymous]

Can you afford to sue him?

[confusedtea]

I could take legal help from my uni but my “videos” the nsfw ones are at risk, and yes I know I could get him in legal trouble, it isn’t hard to find my parents online cause he knows their names and he knows where I live and my parents dk about the sexual shi and sleepovers cause they strict so I’m risking my freedom so I’m stuck.