I’m eight months pregnant. I left the father of my child in early June because he was physically abusive toward me while I was pregnant and before. I decided I wanted better for my child and left. I blocked him on everything and I’ve been doing great with ignoring his “I’m sorry” “give me another chance” messages from text free numbers. We have mutual friends and they mentioned to me that he has a new girlfriend. It doesn’t bother me that he’s seeing someone else but more so that he’s more worried about dating again and sex rather than getting the help he needs for himself and the child we created together. I would be more than willing to let him be in his life but only if he got extensive help for his abusive ways and he doesn’t seemed to be worried about getting help as much as he is worried about catching a new victim.
It bothers you because he is the father of your child it bothers you because everything could have been right if he would have been honest with himself and then something about it it bothers you because you know there's going to be another girl that it happens to it bothers you that he is that way and cannot see it you can't let it bother you you have to let it go because he's not going to change until he either gets a big trouble hurt somebody and goes to jail or he makes that commitment to himself to do something about it but you know down deep he's not going to because he doesn't think that he has a problem that's what bothers you it bothers you that you're going to have a child and if it's a boy you're going to have to do everything in your power to teach him how to treat people and no matter what for the rest of your life let's say you get another boyfriend and let's say you guys get into an argument when you do something like this you're teaching your child in that moment this is how you handle problems if there's abuse you're going to teach your child you have to hit to get what you want if you yell and scream you're teaching your child to get what you want you have to yell and scream you have to be aware of everything that you do and say around your child because that's the part that teaches them not you teaching them ABCs is how you act and how you treat other people how you treat your friends how you communicate whether it's with your voice or with body language you have to be careful you have to take your child 10 times better than you are that should be your goal is to put that much love into your child to know how much they are loved you don't have to yell and scream to discipline them you don't need to take away from them to discipline them if anything you give them more responsibility and you show them you communicate with him in a very calm peaceful loving way very quickly it doesn't have to be long and drawn out it doesn't have to be about you it needs to be about them very easy so they get the point it bothers you because you love him and you want him to be part of your child's life and he's not going to be there because of the way he treats you and you know that he cannot hold his tongue back or even his hands Maybe that's why you upset that's what bothers you you have to let it go you are a bigger person than this that's why it bothers you
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Why do women think it is okay to steal a child from the father and try to prevent him from seeing it?
He never abused the child.
If you think he is unfit to be a parent, the same could be said of you since he was already abusive to you and you stayed with him BEFORE getting pregnant. that shows you may be with another abusive partner in the future and still stay with them once your child is born too.
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Sounds like a reason thing to be upset about. You were treated poorly and you don’t want to see someone else get treated poorly.
More likely with how you reacted he just sees you as a mistake. And is planning to just do better than try to waste the time fixing it with you.
Before getting pregnant you weren’t aware he was an asshole?
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