It's one of the things that really gives them away. A lot of females have this ridiculous thing in their heads where they can't or actually WON'T talk to the guy they're crushing on or attracted to. Some I know in real life have even admitted that they themselves do this, and I myself have been a 'victim' of it at times, you could say. Later on I figure out that she's the only one in the group who won't speak to me because she actually has a thing for me.
Some females will try to say that if a woman isn't talking to the guy then it really does mean she's not interested, but it doesn't add up if you all in the group know each other and talk and are friendly, so why isn't she the same way with you? And why does she bother to watch you when she thinks you don't know it? You know what's going on more than she thinks you do.
I just find this to be really ridiculous and something women should've grown out of in highschool but I'm noticing this going on with ones my own age!
NOTE: This is a REPOST because the original question was somehow only set to letting just guys answer which I did not do.
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well, from my experience? i do this sometimes -not as often as the stereotype though- for some reasons, which are:
- i don't want to show how much i like them. now some things can be pretty obvious from one time convo, especially if you're the kind of facially expressive person i am? conversations with people, especially guys i REALLY like are a bit hard, cause my face kinda gives it all away. and i don't want to come across as a creepy or desperate gal unintentionally because i can't get a grip on myself when i talk to someone i really like.
- i need to study my crush before actually get into a convo? this is actually the weirdest creepiest part, and i guess not everyone is actually comfortable knowing that, but if i like someone enough they become a study subject, i want to know them the traditional way but before that i like to check them, getting to know casual things about them, i want to leave no room for being disliked/rejected, so i kinda make sure we're somewhat compatible, and most things would be smooth before jumping in.
-sometimes am intimidated, others am shy. it's when i know this person am crushing on is a person of quality? and try to avoid talking to them on purpose so i wouldn't end up saying something stupid and driving them away. or simply nervous. cause it's a lot of pressure for me to have a good first convo, because it's like you get this one shot, you either make a good impression or ruin it.
-fear of rejection: sometimes we refrain from talking because we don't want to hear something we don't like hehe :D childish and escapist way to deal with things? maybe. but still sometimes it feels safer not to go for such a move. ignore the person till feelings go away or to feel safer.
-because we want the guy to start a conversation? i don't usually do this, but i do it when am not sure of the guy intentions AT ALL or if the coast clear or not sorta thing. and sometimes i be like: if he's interested why isn't he making a move?
but as i get from your question, sometimes it can be her way to seek attention? but i feel it's a bit immature. and am not a fan of it. however sometimes i feel it can serve a purpose as long as the girl isn't pushing it.:D
I study the guy I like too!
@wayy11aa Really great answer.