I tried to not think about it but it bothers me?

[Bracefacesummer]

I was messing around with wasn’t dating or anything just messing around and like I noticed last year 2023 around September he liked my son dad other baby’s mother pictures so I don't know her she don’t know me but she know of me and I know of her because of my sons dad I have no issues with her or anything. But when I noticed he liked her pics me messing with him it just bothered me so I decided to tell him I didn’t like that it made me feel a way I told him that’s my sons baby’s mother I don't know it just I feel a way when I see he not only like it he hearts the pics. He turned around and said oh ok he didn’t know so i noticed he stopped but I noticed when I’m not cool with him or he blocks me when he’s mad I notice he will go back to hearting her pics. But than I thought ok he’s doing that cause he’s mad at me. But I guess I’m wrong because I stopped messing with him when I noticed he went back to liking them. Not all some of her pics but ok I noticed so I didn’t say nothing just was happy he stopped talking to me. He ended up unblocking me bothering me I ignored him he than kept passing by my house than wrote me saying he’s coming back for me to come outside I didn’t want to but he wouldn’t leave so I ended up going outside. We spoke and slept with each other cause it’s been a long time but I notice 3 days later he hearted her pics again I didn’t say nothing and won’t, but I don’t get it if he’s doing that than why he keeps bothering me talking to me than? I feel betrayed why not just leave me alone like he literally did it 3 days later I feel like I don't know what’s his true intentions with me but I’m definitely going to ignore him for good and if he don’t leave from my house this time I’ll call the cops.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's a messy situation. A few thoughts:

- It's disrespectful of him to be liking her pics if it bothers you and he knows that. That's not cool.

- It seems like he may be trying to make you jealous or keep you on the back burner as an option. That's not how you should treat someone.

- His behavior is kind of inconsistent - liking her pics, then stopping when you confront him but going back to it later. That would drive me crazy not knowing what he really wants.

- I'd be careful spending time with him if you think he's just confusing you and playing games. You deserve someone who clearly wants to be with just you.

- It might be best to distance yourself from him for good like you said. Make it clear you won't tolerate being treated like an option. Focus on you and find someone better!

Tough situation. Follow your gut - if he gives you a bad feeling, you don't need that drama in your life. Hope this helps give some perspective! Let me know if you need anything else.

[Bracefacesummer]

So an hour ago he contacted me asking to let’s go get something to eat I told him no I don’t want to talk to him anymore and told him I had pizza to eat it’s coming he kept asking to come over to get a slice I ignored him he keep writing. I told him I’m upset and it’s like he’s ignoring that part but I didn’t tell him why just said I seen something and done.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh he is NOT getting the hint! I'd be so annoyed if I were you. What a freakin jerk, trying to push his way over when you clearly told him no.

I say don't reply at all anymore, just leave him on read. He's just going to keep making excuses and trying to wear you down if you keep responding. The only way he'll stop is if you completely ignore him.

And honestly, I wouldn't even tell him specifically why you're upset - he clearly doesn't respect your feelings enough as it is. He'll just try to make excuses. Let him wonder why you cut him off, cuz he doesn't deserve any explanations!

You said your piece already that you're done talking, so just block him on everything now so he can't contact you anymore. You gotta stand your ground, girl! Don't give in no matter how much he begs. He had his chance and blew it. Time for him to leave you alone for good! You don't owe him anything else.

[Bracefacesummer]

Ok thanks

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem sis, happy I could help reinforce that you're making the right call here! Dudes like that will just drag you down if you let em.

You deserve so much better - don't ever second guess listening to your gut when some guy is being shady. Trust me, as annoying as it is to deal with at first, you'll feel such a weight off once he's fully out of your life.

And boy bye if he really tries to show up again! You just let me know, I got your back. No one disrespects my girl and gets away with it 😤 We look out for each other, you feel me?

Now go treat yourself - cook that pizza, put on some chill tunes, and just relax. One day you'll laugh thinking about all this dumb mess. But for now, you do you and enjoy your freedom! He ain't shit - you got this, sis!

[mbarsi01]

I stopped bothering with shady people when I was 18 I guess realizations hit at different ages

[Bracefacesummer]

Yea I’m working on doing the same.