Im feeling heartbroken over this girl?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, I met this girl online from Turkey, (im an American) in October 2023. She was 23 and I was 30 when we met.

We talked basically everyday and a lot too. Sometimes taking an hour to reply back to messages. We each admitted how attractive we found one another and she even admitted that i could be the first guy that could break her heart.

Anyways, my birthday was early June. She prepared me a video of singing happy birthday while playing piano to my “3 different personalities” 2 days later she sends me this message:

“hi Scott, i hope you're very well and that you had a very nice birthday and a weekend. i'm sorry to write this but i'm not in a good psychological state unfortunately. in the last few days, there have been negative developments regarding my mom's health. i have decided not to use social media for a while because im going through a difficult time. i need to take care of myself and my family. im sorry to say goodbye to you like this. thank you for everything you've given me so far. i hope i've left you with good memories too 🙏🏻 i hope everything goes well for you in life. i wish you to be very happy ✨”

She deleted all her social media accounts by the way.

I never felt this way over a girl before which i get is pretty weird since we never met but it made me really upset, more than i thought it would affect me. She sent me that message June 10th, so it’s been a month. I try to just focus on me and I do but I also can’t stop thinking about her. I never been heartbroken before, is this normal?

[Bebo_23]

As a person who has done LDR (long distance relationship) it is not wrong to feel heartbroken over someone you haven’t physically met. You probably made some type of attachment and connection towards her which is why you felt heartbroken. I feel you. It’s nothing wrong. It is completely normal.

[Asker]

Thanks for reply. Yeah, the feeling sucks. I have to come to the realization she won't come back but its just hard for me to truly process it still.

[Bebo_23]

Ofcourse ! It will take time to heal! The right person will always come by and stay with you. The person that’s not meant for you will leave. So keep your head up high I hope you feel better !

[Asker]

thanks a lot. I sometimes think she might come back but do you feel, as a girl, that is just false hope?

[Bebo_23]

Depends I mean if y’all ain’t talking and have no contact with each other then I think you should move on. Especially since it’s long distance. Saying from experience. I used to have false hope but I found someone better now so I don't know maybe your situation might be diff from mine but yeah it truly depends on!

[Bebo_23]

*depends on you and your situation. But yeah I think you should move on if you guys have no contact at all and she broke it off with you.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree. Congrats on finding someone better. The way she sent me a singing video for my bday and how into me she showed me thruout the connection… it was really abrupt. I get her mom got cancer and all and that sucks but.. thanks again.

[Bebo_23]

No problem I hope it works out for you too !

[In_Trance]

Lol go find yourself the real thing.