Why is she looking sad like I broke her heart?

[Anonymous]

She seems really sad and angry at times because I’m not talking to her anymore, but we weren’t dating or anything so why is she so emotional about this does it show she really did like me?

[btbc92]

Because she got emotionally attached to you and she really likes you as a friend. He really cares about you. And now she's getting angry because she feels like you basically used her. What you did is basically abandonment. And when you do that especially to a sensitive person they have a hard time trusting other people again. I am the exact same way. And that's why I get very angry when people like you are so ignorant and arrogant because you think that it's all about you and it has nothing to do with you. It has to do with her and how she feels. She can't talk to you because you basically avoid her. What is your attentions of being around her if all you're going to do is just don't talk to her anymore? You're not being a person that is showing empathy. And even if she did like you romantically you basically lost out now.

[Asker]

It’s complicated because it felt like she was avoiding me at first and then we had an argument and she wouldn’t talk to me about it. Then she hurt me and I didn’t know what to do about it. I wanted to talk to her but decided it would be best to give her space and wait for her to approach me but then I got mad about how she hurt me and ignored her. I didn’t want to ignore her but I was protecting my feelings towards her. Then that’s when she looked sad and pissed off.

[btbc92]

Yeah that's why she avoided you because she wants a friendship and she knows you don't. Now she's hurt you even bothered for something that she doesn't even really actively looked for. Your priorities are all wrong. I tell men ALL THE TIME. We're not your prey. We're human too. She did that because she KNEW you would behave and act like this. It's all up to you what you really want. If she doesn't matter to you, just leave her be. If she does matter even a little, tell her what is wrong instead of you being a coward since your the one who wants more than what she wants. She's hurt, she's gaurded, and humour actions told her exactly what she she KNEW you have reacted.

[btbc92]

She wouldn't talk to you about it because it causes us stress and you kept stressing her about your feelings towards her instead of understanding what she needed and wanted. You only paid attention to how you felt and what you wanted instead of listening to her actions about what she wanted. It's not all about you. I'm sorry to say, but you were being very selfish. It's not complicated, it's exactly what it is. There is no misunderstanding here. You are upset because she does not reciprocate your feelings romantically. She's upset because or she wants in her life is a good relationship with a man by having a friendship. She stopped talking to you because she had to protect her heart because no matter what she said you didn't listen. She guarded and suffer attachment problems and abandonment.

[btbc92]

What you don't understand is that what you did is what plenty of men and young boys have done to me. And it's not right how you push it on us no different than a woman does that to a guy. Relationships with people require trust. And you showed her your only interest in her is only when you want a relationship other than a friendship. That is not how you establish trust with guarded people. We do so on our terms. If you can't respect that then you have to move on. She will always be hurt, but she won't be your problem any more. But you may encounter this again if you don't establish what your seeking from day 1 or know what they want as well.

[Asker]

Yeah that makes sense I see that she may have felt that way now, she did seem guarded. but I don’t get why she would distance herself from me but then still show signs of interest eg smiling and waving, steal glances at me, stare into my eyes when we talked, looked at my lips and chest while we talked, play with her hair, then flirt with other guys and look to see my reaction. She lingers around like she’s waiting for me to say something. She does matter to me that’s why I thought the best thing would be to give her space. I would rather have a friendship with her then nothing at all. I tried talking to her but she seems uninterested so how do I let her know what is wrong. I don’t understand her actions it would be easier if she just told me instead of being hot and cold

[btbc92]

She is a friendly person. She knows your not a bad guy. But your indifference is showing her you may not be a good person to share intimacy with: holding hands, close hug, or any type of physical contact. The problem is she is sadly the type of person who is playing head games. And while she may be guarded she is NOT somebody you want to take seriously. She is using all of that to get back at you to make you chase her. Don't do it. A real guarded person such as m yseld would not play games we won't want done to us. Move on. She doesn't see how she's playing with fire.

[btbc92]

Plus, is that somebldy you want to be friends with? Somebody that unstable to the point they rather play games instead of being honest and forthright? I have been single all my life, and one thing I would never do is play manipulative tactics on a guy. If I'm scared, I'm scared, if I'm insane I'm insane, if I'm angry I'm angry. If you make me happy, then I'm happy, if you make me feel safe , then you make me feel safe. If I domt, you would know because no matter how much trust issues I have I rather be honest than to lie. Why? It's because I value our friendship, and not just for myself? Does she exemplifies that? Compare what I wrote to her actions, and you'll see actions speak louder than words. And if she is not careful, and you can tell her this yourself: if she don't stop playing those games wot h men she will be single for good.

[btbc92]

In other words, she's playing hard to get. You can't respect that no matter what her issues are.

[btbc92]

If you can't be friends with somebody like that, ask yourself this question. How can you date somebody like that? I love us to also be your best friend, would you want to make that kind of person your best friend? To exploit your emotions but don't respect them either? Not me.

[Asker]

Yeah I did feel like she was playing games but I don’t understand why she acted like this we were just friends we had great chemistry and I did have feelings for her but I was being as respectful as I could towards her. so not sure why everything changed she either realised I liked her and didn’t reciprocate the feelings or she liked me and was playing hard to get and I wasn’t reacting to it and that’s why she was looking sad and angry that I ignored her after

[btbc92]

Chemistry have nothing to do with it.
You being friends have nothing to do with it.
You liking her have nothing to do with it.

What does have anything to do with it, is you being attra ting and attracting dysfunctional women. Just because your interested or attracted to somebody it doesn't mean a relationship have go happen. SHE is DYSFUNCTIONAL.

[Anonymous]

She might be sad, but not necessarily angry with you. It could be that she's struggling with other things that are making her feel emotional, or it might be that she likes you, but she's too shy to tell you, so when you stopped talking to her, she took the hint that you don't like her or you don’t want to be friends with her.

[Asker]

Everything was fine though I did like her then she started acting differently and being guarded, avoiding me at times but then would play games. Then I tried to talk her about it and she got mad so I decided to give her space and then got angry I wasn’t talking to her like rolling her eyes, resting bitch face walking past me like I don’t exist. I just don’t know what she wants

[drsatan]

Maybe it's because you broke her heart. You don't need to be dating someone in order to let them down or break their heart.

[Asker]

But she really broke my heart at the start that’s why I ignored her. She didn’t seem to care at first so why would she be acting like this now after what happened

[stormbreaker06]

Attention seeker... Just continue like she does not exist. You'll thank me later.

[Daniela1982]

I think the look on her face was not from that but because you blasted a smelly one.

OMG! that one made my eyes water!!

[Anonymous]

I think she probably did/does like you.. Because I can't seem to come up with any other reason (that's if there wasn't a fight during which hurtful things were said). If I was her, I would start overthinking my actions and try to locate what I did wrong to be ignored - in other words she might be sad because she doesn't understand why you aren't talking.

[Asker]

We didn’t really have a fight just an argument and didn’t say any hurtful words towards each other. I felt like she overreacted and did something which I think now she regrets and didn’t expect it to go this way

[Rose00]

She secretly had feelings for you probably.

[Asker]

Really do you think, I have no idea why she started acting so differently and avoiding me though if she did have feelings towards me

[Rose00]

I don't know I just said something bc I know that people do hide there feelings for others and that could be the situation. You may never know.