My boyfriend broke my promise, I dont know how I should feel?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are in a LDR due to work/college reasons seperating us. We have phone sex a lot and the first time we done it, I had asked him to promise me to never record our phone sex conversation. He agreed.

Three to four months later we were having phone sex and he screen shot me a sex pose, and I saw at the bottom of the screen a recording. I asked about it, he gave me 2 differents answers. He admitted to recording but he said it was an accident.

Later he apologised and asked if he could. I declined. He explained that the screen recorder only records 1 app. I tried it myself and it records anything on the screen and any audio.

I am a bit mad he lied to me and then tried to give me a white lie. Im not even sure how I should feel. I dont want to dump him but him lying and breaking a promise is a red flag for me.

[worldscolide]

Yeah that's no good. What if he chose to post it somewhere? That's a deal breaker in my book.

[Asker]

I had said that before but he said he would never do it. Its so awful. Im going to confront him again today and ask for his justificatiom

[worldscolide]

My friend, there is no justification. No logical one anyway.

I have been married 10 years now. In my history with my wife, I have never not once broken her trust like that. If my wife doesn't want me to photograph or video intimate stuff like that, then there is no way I would violate that, no justification what so ever makes that okay.

[Pterodon]

You have a right to be pissed he lied and broke your trust but it could be that he just wants to save it so he can jerk off to it later

[Asker]

I was going to mention this to him. We both like different things in bed, but last time we done it after I had confronted him he asked me to do what made me feel good. After I read your comment, he might of recorded me then and uses it to jerk off. I just don't even have the capacity to be pissed off because he uses my past against me to validate his own actions lol.

[Pterodon]

All he had to do was photograph your pussy so he could use it later. I disagree with his not being man enough to say so