What do you think of guys who don’t actively attempt to date?

[Anonymous]

Like I just don’t inherently think I’m good enough anymore, like I know my personality is but at the core of it I just feel like I’m always missing something that is a requirement to date

[Ευδεμονια]

I think honestly I’m a part of them.
I tried shyly to date after covid, after years and years of self enclosure, but it ended up horribly.
I think honestly some people aren’t fit to date and maybe destined to be alone.
It’s just up to you to strengthen yourself and maybe accept it, since no one will come from the sky and take your hand saying “poor thing”.

[Serkee]

Yeah, I've always had that feeling. I never try to date, because I don't feel like I'm good enough for anyone. I don't know why, and I don't know what it is about me that I feel I need to change, I just "know" that I'm not enough, even though logically I know that's not true.

[DishLady]

Meh. I also don’t actively attempt to date. It can be a mentally and emotionally draining process, especially when you invest substantial chunks of your time and attention on someone who isn’t worth the effort.


(This applies whether it’s a guy or a girl stepping back from the dating rat race.)

[meepmeeperton]

Sometimes it's better to just not try to hard with girls and focus on yourself. In those moments you can end up actually becoming desirable to women and randomly windup in a relationship.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are not missing anything. Even in the best of situations, women are expensive and draining. If you have a bad relationship, she will suck your soul dry.

[KrakenAttackin]

As for feeling you aren't good enough to date, well, you aren't (neither an I). 80% of women are chasing the top 5% of men, and these women BELIEVE they are entitled to one of these men. If she does date you (or almost all of us) she believes she is "settling" for you and will treat you accordingly.