Is more or less insulting when a girl lies to a man that she has a boyfriend when he (politely) asks her out on a date?

[Anonymous]

I had this happen a few moths ago. I had 4-5 prior conservations with this young woman. She never mentioned being in a relationship at any point (I was listening carefully for that). I very cautious with her because I didn’t know her age but I was guessing she was in her mid 20s and I was 40 at the time

I finally gathered up my courage and asked her one day if “she would like to get breakfast”. She smiled and said “thank you but I have boyfriend”. I apologized and said I didn’t know and said I wouldn’t ask again. I was disappointed but also relieved that she smiled because the last thing I wanted to come off as was an “old creep”.

But later I came to believe she was lying. I guess I get why. It’s the best way to spare a man’s feelings and also prevent him from keeping trying. But I really don’t like being lied to. Rather her say “thank you Joey but tbh I am just not interested in you that way.”

More insulting

Less insulting

[Billlewis]

Either way, you got played. Don't worry; it happens to all of us.

[Asker]

Nah i didn’t get “played”. Never wasted any money or effort. This was also a local CF gym and I would had to see her again. It’s not like I could “call her bluff” and it would be a fun time seeing her later.

But even if she was lying the message was the same: she’s not interested. Nothing I can do about that. It is what it is.

[Billlewis]

I'm glad you didn't get taken for any money. Have you heard about this wicked ploy? Attractive woman who has a boyfriend goes out with her girlfriends, leaving him to do something else that night, and at the bar, flirts with various sex starved guys, and gets them to buy her drinks all night long, then goes home to have sex with her boyfriend until the sun comes up. I know that's terrible, but turns me on like crazy... lol

[Asker]

Yeah fortunately I don’t drink anymore.