What are some red flags in a man a women should look out for before dating him?

[coxoabean]

What are good things to look out for in a man, and then red flags to look out for?

[DishLady]

1. Is he honest and open with you or is he being shady about any aspect of his life? (If you spot omissions and gaps in his explanation of things, he’s hiding something.)


2. Are you only seeing him in isolation (not in public, not with fam/friends to see how he is around other people)? (If the only person telling you about him is him, he might be creating a smokescreen. Also, if you only see him in isolation you have no way of assessing how he is with people.)


3. Is he suddenly bragging about things he has to impress you? (He’s trying to distract you from a shortcoming of his, whatever it may be.)

[kylee2437]

His priorities. And while you should look into his priorities, it’s definitely subjective based on what you are looking for. If your priorities aren’t matching his, it’s definitely a red flag and something to consider if you are looking for a relationship.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yup. Hear his words then observe his actions. If the actions over time match his words you can trust those priorities.

[coxoabean]

Ok, thank you. That's a good point

[kylee2437]

@BarryLiverstone agreed 100%. heavily don’t recommend dating someone where you are constantly fighting their lifestyle.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Seeing as this is a question aimed at women, I got curious where the term 'red flag' originated, so if anyone else is interested, it started in the 1600's by military forces dousing a flag in calves blood as they prepared for battle!

[coxoabean]

Interesting

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm always on the lookout for quiz questions. That one seemed appropriate because the term 'red flag' is so widely used on here.

[TommyMountainFigure]

As for what to look out for in a man before dating him? The first thing you need to know before dating him is are you going to be safe. Nothing matters more.. After you've been dating a while you can find out more through talking to each other, but the one thing I see on TV, women who do not put safety as their number one concern and well, the results are sometimes horrific.

[Danny_dan92]

Periods of time where no communication exists where it doesn’t make sense.




Numbers that text him often where he puts suspicious contact names on.

[kylee2437]

What do you mean by your above statement?

[Danny_dan92]

The first one?

[coxoabean]

From what I understood, you mean if he goes a while without messaging or communicating with you?

[coxoabean]

Like if you have done nothing and he just stops communicating?

[Danny_dan92]

I’ll paint a scenario.

Say the guy tells you his schedule and he works Monday-Friday from the morning, say 9am-5pm

And he normally texts you on the weekends more often and takes you out on dates on the weekends.

But one weekend he all of a sudden doesn’t hit you up? And then responds a day or two later with an excuse? He probably was with another girl.

I personally have done this when I was sleeping around with multiple women. And this is what men that do that do, because if he was to be honest and told you he was going to spend time with another woman… what would you likely do?

[kylee2437]

@Danny_dan92 I agree with that but I’ll stop it at if he takes a day or two to text back. A guy invested in you isn’t taking that long to respond, or any person for that matter is not going to leave you on read/delivered for an entire day if they really cared

[Danny_dan92]

Precisely, that’s why I said that the specific behavior is a red flag.

I tell girls on here all the time that ask “how do I know if a guy likes me?”

Us guys are wired very simply, if we’re interested. We’ll show interest. Which means consistent communication and attention

[NathanDavis]

those who criticize a lot, other women, other people...

for example, those who criticize looks and fashion choices, will often end up criticizing and trying to control you over their own insecurities

[DrPepper12]

If he lives at home.
If he has "Wknds for the boyz' flag
If he needs to talk to mom a lot
If you can't see his phone
If he has a job not career

[Rickyboy100]

Red flags: he has no Job, lives with Mum, never had a relationship before, has. more than 100 telephon numbers of women on his phone, has a too small or too big dick, farts around you...

[sage2021]

When he's private messaging you on GaG

[coxoabean]

Oh? How may I ask?

[MicahRaine]

facts lmao

[Ironco]

That's funny 🤣