What are red flags in men, a woman should look out for and vice versa for men?

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And VICE VERSA MEN!

AaronKrieger · Accepted Answer

Talks bad about their exes (There's a difference between objectively stating it and being petty) Never asks about you and only talks about themselves Don't initiate shit Negative mindset (lazy, pessimistic, etc.) They don't know what they want in a relationship or life to at least some degree Bad relationship with one or both of their parents (not guaranteed red flag either) Is impuslive (get's tattoos too young, abuses drugs too frequently, etc.) They post all their personal shit on social media or are overly provacative. Keeps saying they're this way instead of just showing it through their actions (EX: "I'm such a hard worker") Do not remember the small details about you. It doesn't need to be everything either. 
 
 I know I am missing some things, but that's some of them that I have noticed.

ImalwaysrightOK · Accepted Answer

Red flags:

The biggest one, a feminist

Slut or "former slut" (same thing)

Lots of male friends

Dated bad boy types, now over 28 and looking for "a good guy" aka sucker to marry

Expects men to be men while she doesn't act like a woman (not wanting kids, can't cook, a career gal, strong and independent, etc)

Any girl that's done p0rn, onlyfans, Instagram thot, in fact any girls that use social media

Wants to get married not at 22 like most guys prefer during her best years, but at 32 or 33 when she's already old

Just a few of the biggies

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

Bad personal hygiene or their home is dirty (some mess/clutter is fine, difference between messy and dirty) Doesn’t like animals or children Rude to women he doesn’t find attractive  Rude to service workers Love bombs Has had a lot of girlfriends in a short period of time or can’t hold a job All of his exes are crazy or were completely in the wrong. The common denominator was the guy. Trauma dumps Negative about everything Doesn’t pay attention to you/more interested in self Does drugs, hangs out with a bad crowd, etc

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

One type of a guy a girl should avoid dating is a black and white thinker, or somebody who views people in binary terms. I don't mean gender binaries, but I mean behavioural binaries. Like, if you do a single act, you are all of a sudden trash, and should no longer be treated like a human being, or your emotions don't matter if you have certain moral flaws, or your needs don't matter if your not a strong or bold person etc...

msc545 · Answer

A woman who is initially overly friendly or overly seductive or who dresses inappropriately maybe suffering from a psychiatric disorder called borderline personality disorder. This is a devastating condition both for the person who has it and for anyone who is romantically interested in her or even interested in just being friends.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Sluts. There is a spectrum of them. Some had some kind of traumatic experience with someone they once trusted when they were young. So they seek unattached affection and social validation through sexual encounters with strangers, “safer” that way. That’s why they’re all “tolerant” and bull shit. They haven’t dealt with their trauma. If they were sexually abused, it can imprint on them. So their emotion is all fucked up but the sexual aspect is still arousing for them. Hence all the “Daddy” bdsm bull shit. Ever read about rape victims claiming their body betrayed them or the shame of their body consenting without them? Like tickle torture, it’s involuntary. If they were “fucked” by a “bad boy” (which is code for a bitch boy), they’ll seek out that same uncompromising quality they were attracted to in the first place.

Girls, you just aren’t as complicated as you think.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I don't think these are gendered.  But I always look at how they treat those who are in the service business, like waiters, cleaning crew etc.  Or how they treat people of different demographics.

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

I couldn't be with someone who didn't like to go out and do cool activities together. Whether that's going to a gig, something more physical like paddleboarding or cycling, or just going for a simple walk in the park.

I love a lounge day as much as the next person and I enjoy sitting in playing video games or watching TV. But when someone ONLY wants to do these things, I get bored and I just find it lazy and dull. I'll soon find myself wanting to leave the situation.

Anonymous · Answer

Age calls her self a strong independent woman and doesn't need a man.. Yeah that's a hard pass. I don't like insufferable women with a poor attitude. And 99% of the time when a woman states she's like that it's her coping for the fact that men simply don't like her..

If she posts provacative pictures or has an only fans..

If her body count is super high.

If she has a bad relationship or no relationship with her father..

MysticDevice · Answer

Don't confuse arrogance with confidence.  Avoid if they're unkind to, or dismissive of animals. Those who talk a lot tend to know the least. The quiet man is the one who listens and observes.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Women seem to overlook the absolutely obvious. To paraphrase Taylor Swift if you “knew he was trouble when he walked in,” DON’T FUCK HIM!!! A notch on his belt is all you’ll ever be!

Men, if she ever says “It’s okay for a man…” she has the morals of an alley cat.

Also, this is for men or women, trust your dog’s instincts more than you trust your own. If your dog doesn’t like your SO, ask questions!

Anonymous · Answer

For men:

If she buys expensive clothing and stuff for herself. At a certain point you'll probably be paying for it. Find a girl who likes saving money.

Her home environment. Ask her how her relationship is with her father and brothers if she has any.

If she's religious. If she doesn't have a moral code to rely on... I can't imagine the things she does without thinking if it's right and wrong.

Tortoise_Lover · Answer

I don't do red flags I'm a guy, I'd say using trendy words like "rizz" for example. Gossip. Constant references to TikTok or other social medias really drives me away almost instantly. Those are my pet peeves, also phone zombies.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone ghetto and unkind. Someone with poverty mentality. If they are always scared about money, stay the hell away from them. You want someone simple, richly kind, and actually into you.

blueonblack22 · Answer

For me 99% of it boils down to her holding men to a higher standard then she holds herself too.

jimmy2 · Answer

Today men to ko fault to themselves do not know how to love women. This has brought am larger than should be of men still walking out on his family leaving and never to return. This stated in 70s when this started. The answer is to get Churchs , schools and colleges to have classes for men to learn love for their wife's and children

SolitarySolace · Answer

A woman with more male friends than female friends is a major red flag in my opinion. They claim they’re not fuck buddies, but they are.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

If she's a Feminist, liar, inconsiderate, too clingy who doesn't respect boundaries, insecure, narcissist, woke, karen, not appreciative and there's more

myabe123 · Answer

As a girl it’s those women who are feminist who hate other women for being prettier than them and only have male friends. Don’t trust em!!!

Anonymous · Answer

She is obsessed with the notebook.

Anonymous · Answer

If they are short tempered

fuddly · Answer

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