Mostly religiousness - that's a gigantic red flag. History is full of stories about what religious people are capable of and not only in the Dark Ages but also nowadays - 2 years ago in fact:
These subhumans should be locked up and the key destroyed! They're a menace to society and on top of that bring nothing useful for the society. That's why I call them AND their priests "parasites".
Also, being a Russian troll. That's what we call them here in my country. The Russian troll is usually, but not always, being paid by Russia to spread the Russian anti-human policy and laws which Chechnya keeps implementing for over a year. More on that here: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=chechnya+gay+purge
More than half of the people in my country are Russian trolls and on top of that the most of them are religious which makes them even more dangerous.
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If the girl has the quote
"If you can't handle me at my worst,
Then you don't deserve me at my best!"
Or if you spot A picture of Marylin Monroe anywhere... And I DO MEAN ANYWHERE! RUNNNNNN! Bonus points/achievement unlocked if she has a Marylin Monroe tattoo, she is guaranteed (well almost) to be a fantastic lay but then you of course take that classic risk of "Sticking your dick in crazy." So there's that to consider. Just keep an eye out, and if you wanna sleep with a Marylin girly girl. #1 wear a condom
#2 document all communications i. e. keep text messages and record potential (all with her) crazy calls where she now says "Oh you don't want to be with me at my worst now that you've already been all up in my goodies, dipped your donut log in my milk? Now I'm going to accuse you of raping me!"
#3 Subset rule of rule #1 Make sure to take condom with you, she can and potentially will impregnate herself or she could potentially have a cryogenic freezer chamber and hold your used condom at a later date when she accuses you of Rule #2 however it is especially important if you are a Famous person Tech guru, NFL Player, NBA Player, Prominent actor, or hell just a normal guy.
Very controlling and/or abusive.
Speaks too much about his ex/exes and/or says all of his exes are "crazy."
Has a poor person mentality.
Way too religious and can't tolerate atheists or people who don't follow the same religious beliefs as him.
Insults/trash talks pro-choice people or women who get abortions and/or promiscuous people.
Not on good terms with his family or barely talks to them (Not always a bad thing, but depends on why he doesn't have a good relationship with his family. If his family is toxic or has hurt him terribly, then I understand him not speaking to them).
They wanna take me to "this place" me and them. Just me... and them.
Side story but when i was a too nice of a dumbass, this dude was vibing while I was there and he said he would take me on a trip an hour away to the medievial festival. Me and him in a van with other people. And then he said he'd invite me to his house where he can hang out with him and his friends.
I don't risk going anywhere I don't know because I'm cautious but it wasn't until after I quit that if I was dumb, he could have done bad things to me while we were "waiting on his friends". Cool guy, but jfc.
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@Razp_Sorbet Great question! I will be bookmarking this page to take inventory of myself and to alter any red flag behaviors I may have.
RED FLAGS (4 me personally)
1) Closed Minded - (Huge one)
2) Bad Mental Attitude - (negative outlook on everything) (Huge one)
3) Over values traditional education and its relation to money
4) Too serious - (Huge one)
5) No clearly defined Goals - (maybe)
6) Sarcasm
7) Lacks the habit of Courtesy - (Huge one)
8) Not affectionate nor Romantic - (Huge one)
9) Severely lacks a pleasing personality - (Most lack it but not severely) (Huge One)
10) Overly Cultural (Maybe Huge One / even American culture)
11) #9 pretty much covers all other things I could say. In fact, 5 other numbers can be omitted because they are apart of a pleasing personality. Maybe 6 other numbers. The Golden Rule isn't Golden for no reason.
12. Preferably I would want them to not be religious but believe in God or at least open minded about it.
- #1 and #9 are the biggest RED FLAGS!!! to any relationship in my opinion.
@Razp_Sorbet This is such a great question! I can read all these comments and examine myself. This is exactly what I was looking for. This pure gold.Only talks about themselves, they have no empathy/sympathy for anyone, they have no friends & have nothing good to say about any of their exes, they feel the need to harshly comment on peoples appearances/be judgmental, they make homophobic/transphobic comments, they have a misogynistic attitude, they have obvious serious trauma that they’ve never seeked out therapy for (will later bite me in the ass because they’ll take said trauma out on me), they don’t take care about their personal hygiene, they’re a gambler/very bad with money, they’re an alcoholic, they’re against tattoos and/or piercings.
Lots of stuff on my list but those are all the red flags (what I consider red flags) I’ve come across, mostly in men because I’ve dated more men than women.Generally people that are controlling or try to make you change in a way they´d love you be without giving a reasonable explanation.
Another redflag is inconsistency of word and deed. It´s a huge issue for me if a oersons makes big promises without actually doing anything of it.
People that use other people for stuff or money are also a problem for me.
Other redflag is anything that is barely legal when people do things they call adventures like train hoping or parcour on public buildings.I don't exactly understand the question, are you referring to what I (guy) would consider "red flags" from other women/girls?
If that's what you're trying to say... well, I did have only ONE Red Flag, but then I recently figured that there was actually 2 (in total) that I'm sure of. Anything else are just question marks. (as I have 0 experience in dating. Closest was having a few "Girl Friends" (literally speaking))
Anyway, These 2 are what I'm sure that I'd consider Red Flags, by which I mean that they can have a significant (negative) impact on my "affection":
Control (over me) in ANY shape or form.
Expecting me to to be able to "predict" how one feels.
As I'm the kind that prioritize logic & whatnot, and Therefore, I'd struggle to understand emotions. Not sure how to explain it, except that I may only be able to understand what's on the "surface".Red flags:
-Lies, that's by far the most common one because 'white lies' are very prevalent. People don't always want conflict and avoid it like this. I wouldn't want people who give me excuses in my life.
-Inconsistency / flakiness, also very common. People all have their troubles, lives and priorities, but so do you.
I don't list 'cruelty to animals', 'talking down to service staff', 'aggression', 'mental instability' etc... etc... because those would make me get a creepy / negative vibe from the person and I wouldn't even be getting to know them to begin with.1. Smoking, drinking, or the use of drugs.
2. Being controlling or abusive using profanity.
3. Not being a natural born and fully heterosexual adult female.
4. Wearing a thong or the like.
5. Tattoos and body piercings.
6. Keeping secrets or not being transparent.
7. Having an SO or not being completely over the ex.
8. Being aggressive, temperamental, or violent.
9. Being a racist or feminist or supporting abortion.
10. If I'm uncomfortable with her choice of friends.A woman with a propensity for weight gain, you can tell the body type or you can observe how her eating habits are and look at her family.
A woman who is bad with finances/materialistic, fickle. It's OK if she likes nice things if she is equally interested in building wealth and not wasting.
A woman who has been programmed by her mother that she needs to "meter" affection out carefully. you have to be observant as this is not always obvious
I can put up with most other "hang ups".-Laughing off or ignoring your boundaries or just things you want.
-Narcissistic/selfish guys that think they're always right and never recognize their mistakes, but instead try to gaslight you
-Not being honest about their intentions and making plans and empty promises they don't mean
- Being sexist, misogynistic, prejudiced
-Treating bad other people and animalsRed flags for women in my opinion sums up to high risk life... big partier, gets around, uses, drinks, out late alone or in such enviroments. Just high risk lifestyle is a major turn off due to drama and women that go on about drama. Also not having employment.
When she is very closed to communication.
I’m convinced that the key to a successful, committed, trustworthy, and meaningful relationship is through open communication. Without being able to communicate with them openly about your feelings or emotions and agreeing to solutions for problems it really won’t be a successful relationship.The first time she ever indicates that she doesn't trust me, (even though I have given her no reason to not trust me.) I will break up with her. Asking to go through my phone for example. She can go be insecure with some other dude. It could also very well mean that she's the one who's actually cheating.
-unhygienic
-yells at family members (I don't know how to explain it. I had this guy friend who yelled at his mom over the phone when she was just asking how he’s doing)
-disrespectful towards others, especially elders
-“gOd iF wOmEn JuSt gAvE gUyS LiKe Me A cHaNce” “if women just stopped ckkznzbdu”
-can’t take care of themselves, wants to be babied.
-becomes too attached way too fast
-controlling
my list goes onNo sense of humor. Fat. Stupid. Unreliable. Bad with money (in debt). In a bad mood more often then in a good mood. Super religious. Tattoos. Drugs. Parties like a teenager still. Slut. Can't own up to her own toxic ways when I point them out. Says insecure comments about her body during sex and any sexual moments. Smokes. Takes too long to respond back to texts. She says she's "not ready" for a relationship. Indecisive.
Dates felons at one point
Dated multiple domestic violent men
Has a bad dating history
Has more then one baby dad
Stupidity
Lacks common sense
Is a SJW
Does hardcore drugs
Smoke ciggerettes
Lies
Takes sexuaul attention photos
Has mental issues & does nothing to resolve them & thinks its normal to lash out.For women, if she care more about what you have, what restaurant you are taking her too, what you drive, etc… that’s all red flags.. he could take her to a homeless shelter soup kitchen for all she knows and if she is still interested in him that’s the girl you want.
Feminist.
And by feminist I don't mean the "I think society should be equaly available to anyone"-type but the kind of feminist that think we still live in a patriarchy where the main objective is to subdue and control women... In fact it's a red flag if she thinks society was ever based around that one principle.A date showing up with zip ties and duct tape would be one.
* Social media obsession - major red flag.
* No respect for privacy - major red flag. My passwords are mine, not yours
* Sexist terms - if she says things like "mansplain" and "manspread"
* Double standards
* Violence - women who slap men across the face are not dateableLong nails are a sign of a high maintenance woman. Not always, but often enough that it's a good indicator.
SJW or feminist behavior is an absolute no-go for me. Huge red flag.
Smoking is a 100% no-go too.
Drinking / partying regularly is a red flag for sure.
If she's game for sex on the first date, she's not a candidate for a serious relationship.Red Flags for females.
1. Woke feminist.
2. Contradicting literally everything that comes out of your mouth.
3. Never putting her cell phone down.
4. Snappy attitude that you've done nothing to provoke.
5. Materialism.
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