What are some most common red flags of your gender?

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Men, what's the most common red flags men have? Women, what's the most common red flags women have?

BullShark · Accepted Answer

He has low self esteem. He's constantly anxious about the other men in your life and thinks one of them might steal you away
He's distrustful. He'll want to know what you're doing at every moment of the day, who you're with and what you're doing and STILL have trust issues.
He's possessive. He gets angry or pissed off whenever he sees you talking to another guy, laughing with them or posting an image with someone with them even if they may be your brother.
He's toxic. Need I say more?
He eggs you constantly for nudes or explicit photos of you.
He talks to you only at night when he's feeling lonely or horny.
He's insecure. He gets worked up when you compliment/point out an attractive feature in another guy and may also accuse you of cheating even if you so much as look.
He only prioritizes his needs over your's.
He has no friends and those he has are equally as toxic or bad as he is.
He generally has a bad reputation. By that, I mean those who know him i. e his co-workers, friends and even his family members can't say anything positive about him.

There are many more points I can list down, but these are the main 10 I can think of as of right now. Hope this helps.

Weapon77 · Accepted Answer

Talking about being feminist or an "advocate" for anything/anyone is a huge red flag because those guys are pandering, hoping they'll get laid. Guys who have genuine beliefs about things won't make ot part of their identity. With a genuine guy, you might know his actual beliefs about religion and politics until like the 3rd date because those guys let things come up naturally and they don't broadcast them to appeal to whatever they think you'll fall for.

Being wishy-washy is another red flag. So is being sensitive about his height or weight (that includes buff dudes who fixate on their physique). Any guy who isn't in school or training and is just working to pass time and get money drugs or whatever. That does NOT include artists who have regular jobs while they work on becoming singers, dancers, writers, etc.

Another redflag is when he finds out your body count is above 10 and he isn't phased or seems overly fine with it.

Desconhecida · Accepted Answer

Even if most red flags happen with both genders, some that comes to mind about women could be:

• avoidance of affection.

• lack of interest in the guy's life or any signs of jealousy - the normal kind.

• only goes out with the guy if she gets something out of it.

• goes to clubs and parties and never invites the guy.

• AVOIDANCE OF LABELS. (it seems outdated but if a girl is in love she's always trying to discuss the status of the relationship to claim the guy and make him stop seeing other people)

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

I can't think of any red flags that women have. Maybe that she doesn't startle easily? It's the same part of your brain that falls in love as it is with fear. So the number of times you see her get scared, the more likely that she will fall in love with one guy and be too sensitive to fall in love with another guy for a very long time.

MrOracle · Answer

Selfishness.
Avoiding responsibility.
Not protective.
Lacking in ambition/desire to improve.
Low morals and values.
Bad temper.
Being unwilling or unable to communicate.

Unfortunately, the vast majority of the best-looking/most-desired guys have many of these traits, because they have so many women trying to be with them.

Summeroflove · Answer

If someone wants sex on the first date. Dump him

Avicenna · Answer

wanting a hookup/talking about sex on the first date

ManOnFire · Answer

Most men will still want sex with a "slut" even if they claim to hate them. And an ugly woman becomes beautiful to a lot of guys if she gets on her knees to suck him or even asks him outright for sex.

ThinkFitness23 · Answer

1. Women that look for holes, ruins atmosphere.

2. Those who bad mouth men generally.

3. I don’t wish to be informed about all the men that have hurt & used you.

4. Those which mentioned that they don’t have sex until date 5, I wouldn’t mind but more often than not they want it more than you.

5. Someone you sense is untrustworthy, this can be a feeling based on little/no evidence.

I’ve kept this fairly short, those who have wrote a book on flags are red flags themselves, (byproduct). Generally love to love, love to smile and love peaceful Sunday’s just me and mine.

Thanks for reading 📖

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

My advice to any woman about the bad of any man... stop being impressed with the damn 5 minute presentation. His true colors will show over time, 3 months tops. A damn perfect and rehearsed first impression should be a red flag. The dude probably practiced that shit in a mirror. But I'm just sipping my beer watching it work coming from some loser I saw in the same bar with a different girl saying the same exact lines the night before. It only works because you let it work... and then you're back in the same bar in a matter of weeks falling for the same shit.

Lionman95 · Answer

A guy that shows no deeper interest in a woman´s life, when they talk he doesn´t ask questions about her day but loves to talk about his life. A guy that doesn´t know how to treat her right.

A guy that promises a lot what he will change in a relationship and what behaviors he wants to change but he never shows signs of change. That´s so he doesn´t want to change he just wants you to believe he changes the moment you go out with him.

A guy that complains a lot and finds excuses by shifting the blame around.

A guy that can´t tell you what he wants especially if he doesn´t know or show that he´s interested into a committed relationship. These guys often don´t have a value system or back bone of their own.

Don´t try to turn a guy that is playing around into a guy that would settle down with you because that won´t work.

JDAC092299 · Answer

This one’s for all genders but quick emotional obsession, they think they love you and you’re their everything and they smother you but this isn’t deep love it’s emotional obsession. It’s not their fault but it’s not healthy, I used to be one of these people until I got diagnosed with bipolar/obsessive compulsive disorder after not being able to let go of thoughts of my ex for 2 years I was sick of thinking about her/missing her and I knew it wasn’t healthy, I went to the doctors got put on sertraline for a few months and honestly it helped me fix everything that was wrong with me mentally and physically. My thoughts went away of my ex and I became the happiest I’d been in literal years. If anyone else feels they can relate to my story seek help. You’re not heartbroken you’re possibly just ill and you’ll do yourself and everyone you meet in the future a service if you address it 👌

Biancam13 · Answer

- Puts down of belittles other women to be "picked" by men

- Bitchy and catty or rude to others

- Doesn't take responsibility for any wrongdoings

- Spoiled and/or overly materialistic. Talks constantly only about other people or material possessions.

- Showing manipulative tendencies

NathanDavis · Answer

one in particular... a lack of consistency, contradictions

one very common is a great example, initially they will like "how you look" dress and all that, but the moment you're with them they do switch it like "will you go out wearing that?"

that's one of the biggest red flags, earliest as well... lol

NZGirl07 · Answer

Red flags of some women may be

Uncontrolled jealousy- I deal with this due to being cheated on in the past as many women have, but try to improve myself constantly.
Slut shaming other girls and being jealous and catty towards them.
Labelling all things masculine as toxic- obviously there are some traits men have that are unhealthy but labelling all things masculine as bad is unfair.
Being fake to people.

likelyOK · Answer

1) Women who are very materialistic is a 🚩. Someone who talks about marriage too fast. 3) If she is still talking to her ex’s or has many guy friends 4) any manipulative behavior 5) if she says “I’m on the pill” unless your committed and tested don’t do it without protection!

UdosUNDERDEVELOPMENT · Answer

Agression , a fascist state of mind , tyrranical expressions , manipulative , etc. Pretty much anything involved in abusive preferences ( preferences to abuse ) no matter how light on the abuse spectrum it might be. Same goes for women. I don't want to be around a being who will abuse me or others in any way.

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

1. If her friends and family tells you that she's been sleeping around and she denies it.

2. When she hides from boyfriend/girlfriend family members after giving them AIDS

3. When she yells at children, especially toddlers (this goes for men as well). Not only yelling, but hitting them whenever they cry and whenever children do children things and toddlers does toddler things that are normal

PositiveFlight · Answer

Men can be very selfish. We can at times be too forceful and possessive with our personalities. It’s our natural tendency to be protective and be a leader. Many of these traits will self correct and become channeled correctly as a man matures in life and learns to be more selfless.

Naruto_Uzumaki · Answer

Well I'd say when they've got a lot of male friends, hang out all the time, only care about the money, many children or when they got pregnant at a young age, difficult family and friends, always looking for drama, indecisiveness and insecurities, fake confidence, arrogant behavior/only being nice to certain people

Agape93 · Answer

In my experience, if she uses her period as a constant excuse to not work or to be a bitch, she's full of it.

If she refuses to pay for her own stuff.

If she says your vehicle sucks but she doesn't have one at all.

Justneedtokno · Answer

Indecisiveness Women have a hard time communicating because we don’t want to hurt his feelings. That’s why we walk on eggshells and we always say it’s fine. We come up with her own rules, about we don’t want to seem too desperate

marshmallowcream · Answer

Always takes too long to reply
Has a lot of male friends
Is always out drinking
Is really materialistic (expects expensive things all the time , and will ask you a lot of questions relating to work and how much you earn )

Anonymous · Answer

Girls who act like bitches because of their period.

Girls who have extremely high standards for what men should look like and make comments about guys looks. For example: A girl shows her friend her crush and the friend goes "ew he's so ugly". And he isn't even ugly, and even i he was she shouldn't make that comment. That's a red flag.

Girls who expect their men to treat them like queens.

Girls who watch K-drama and too much movies.

Girls who put other girls down.

Girls who dress revealing.

misfittoy · Answer

someone with multiple kids by different men always a very telling sign even when i meet females as friends. someone who lies about the smallest things, negative, lazy, hates to work, no ambition etc.

SnowedIn · Answer

Too aggressive. Not aggressive enough. Wants nudes in the first message. Wants sex before the first date has even started. Wishy washy/unwilling to commit. Only talks about sex. Talks about exes all the time. Disrespectful.

realeyeofthetiger · Answer

- Denies plight of women and feminism. (However, this is not pseudo feminism which is on the rise recently).

- Keeps up with pop-culture a little too much to the point they are engrossed in it.

- Tries to be hood when they grew up in suburbia.

- Uses the term 'Alpha male' in a serious context.

- Believer of 'Red pill'.

- Does not have any strong opinions about any social issues. Cannot speak logically and critically about different points of view.

John_Doesnt · Answer

My biggest red flag is if she wants me to take her "shopping" as a date. That's an obvious red flag for a gold digger. I also don't date women who start talking about their religion all the time. I'm okay with dating a different religion but if you're super religious and talking about your God (s) all the time, then that's a red flag and I just leave.

And I don't really like women with a ton of tattoos. Some guys like it, but I don't.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Anger is a common one for men, a general inability to understand what appropriate social behavior looks like in a given context. General personal sloppiness, poor hygiene.

ronaldo75 · Answer

Going by male friends I've had... here goes.

- You have to chase him. This doesn't need explanation.
- He demeans you in front of his friends.
- Always has some sort of issue with your friends no matter how nice they are.
- Contrarianism. If you see this, run away.

Deserter · Answer

- Overly aggressive
- Everything is alpha or beta (this is a way to guilt you and control you)
- Simping
- Women can do no wrong mentality
- Doesn't know how to dress or decorate
-Apathy
-Disagreeableness
-Black and white thinking

Anonymous · Answer

As someone already mentioned, it's definitely a red flag if a guy wants/expects sex on the first date. Unless casual sex is all you're looking for, that type of guy should definitely be avoided.

Another big red flag is if a guy proudly supports feminism. That one should require no explanation.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Wanting just a one-night stand, Men take Ladies out to Dinner then they expect to go back to his place for sex or go back to her place for sex on Ladies these are Red Flags

Anonymous · Answer

1. When she's negative, 2. when she says a guy HAS TO approach her first, 3. when she has children (by more than one man), 4. when she has a significant body count, 5. when she's in a lot of debt, 6. when she asks how much I make/what I do for a living, 7. when she overly flirtatious/oversexed, 8. when she repeatedly makes the same mistakes, to name a few.

dustybiker · Answer

When they are holding a red flag. Watch out.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Women: Clingy, dependent on you for an identity, and gossipy.  Men: Acting entitled to sex, feeling entitled act out because of anger or jealousy, calling women bitches.

Illustrator01 · Answer

Being hot and attractive

This is coming from a different GAG post but if a dude is attractive, he has a lot of girls behind him and he's not going to treat you any special. If you want to have a long term meaningful relationship, stay away from hot guys

Anonymous · Answer

Always puts her wants and needs first

Doesn’t like food, music or other sensual pleasures.

Not adventurous with trying new food or experiences

Puts down normal guy hobbies like sports and games and generally acts like a princess

Too good for oral and anal but wants the guy to go down on her.

lululemonangel45 · Answer

women  - avoidance of accountability, living in excuses and delusion - low self-esteem, insecurity, jealousy, and doubt  - entitlement, selfishness, and being self centered

Sixgunsound · Answer

Why bother with half measures such as red flags? If someone is doing something illegal/immoral why not just call them out instead of wasting time on flags?

Lilly970 · Answer

I think a red flag for us would be asking a lot about money and mainly wanting a partner for their money.

Fuentes · Answer

We're all different but I think incel men who are simps/feminist/liberals/Bi (Gay)/SJW/cucks/Bums Are all red flags and all demasculated themselves making them someone you should watch out for

Crowferret · Answer

Fake hair (the kind that makes her look ridiculous) Fake nails Fake eyelashes Fake big breasts Wear/has a butt lift Botox Etc.

Isismoonie · Answer

A woman that always competes with other women. In groups, openly compares herself to others to make her self look better.

teamvic · Answer

If a dude messages you late at night saying he has feelings for you or he misses you. Das a red flagg

holdem4884 · Answer

Your biological sex. If your DNA has XX chromosomes your a female, if it has XY chromosomes your a male. Makes it real easy

A_Bell · Answer

Being trashy in dress or behavior. Excessive tattoos. Hair that screams look at me! Arm pit hair.

Anonymous · Answer

Jealousy and envious especially towards friends  When they’re way too much of the party girl  Copy cats  Super hypocrites

JessicaEarl · Answer

For girls, I’d say if she has a hard time being friends with other girls…there may be a reason why

TacosRAwesome · Answer

My experience is that women can be gossipy little bitches especially if they're not a fan of a certain woman.

MCheetah · Answer

Literally ALL male feminists. Stay away from them and don't leave any open drinks near them.

TroyDT2 · Answer

No sure. My personal ones: I'm eccentric. Possessive of my property if you don't ask if you can first. I have a lot of "deal breakers." Tend to be unemotional.

Anonymous · Answer

Not letting the partner have friends from the opposite gender

artsy_dragon · Answer

Every time I see this now, this is all i see 😂

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I think if your date wants to be in a relationship right away but you barely know eachother, it's a red flag.

DiegoO · Answer

1. Short temper. 2. Creating conflict from common things. 3. Unable to accept a No for an answer. 4. A long term envy. 5. Lack of hygiene.

AdithyaR · Answer

Being disrespectful Not respecting boundaries Hypocritical behaviour Not willing to communicate Passive agressiveness

AsaKyo · Answer

- A lot are selfish bitches  - A lot are hoes  - They have very artificial personalities

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

Ray-Bans ( might as well get im a douchebag tattooed across your face)

Sparkie460 · Answer

Verbally abusive, wants sex right away, wants nude pictures all the time, can't hold a job, heavy drinking

Randalama · Answer

I don't have any red flags based upon large sweeping generalizations such as race or gender or religion or sexuality. Such opinions only represent stupidity.

bean2k21 · Answer

When she ask for your Social Security number.

exitseven · Answer

Common red flags with guys are not taking responsibility for anything and not being honest.

Anonymous · Answer

If a guy is a meathead, a jock, a douchebag, arrogant, cocky, a “bro”, if he acts like rude, loud, or disrespectful in public…

he will literally be the worst type of partner and a complete joke in bed.

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