What are some most common red flags of your gender?

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Men, what's the most common red flags men have? Women, what's the most common red flags women have?

[BullShark]

• He has low self esteem. He's constantly anxious about the other men in your life and thinks one of them might steal you away
• He's distrustful. He'll want to know what you're doing at every moment of the day, who you're with and what you're doing and STILL have trust issues.
• He's possessive. He gets angry or pissed off whenever he sees you talking to another guy, laughing with them or posting an image with someone with them even if they may be your brother.
• He's toxic. Need I say more?
• He eggs you constantly for nudes or explicit photos of you.
• He talks to you only at night when he's feeling lonely or horny.
• He's insecure. He gets worked up when you compliment/point out an attractive feature in another guy and may also accuse you of cheating even if you so much as look.
• He only prioritizes his needs over your's.
• He has no friends and those he has are equally as toxic or bad as he is.
• He generally has a bad reputation. By that, I mean those who know him i. e his co-workers, friends and even his family members can't say anything positive about him.

There are many more points I can list down, but these are the main 10 I can think of as of right now. Hope this helps.

[likelyOK]

These are great, priorities his needs over yours is one a lot of people can miss including myself that selfish behavior plays out.

[Weapon77]

Talking about being feminist or an "advocate" for anything/anyone is a huge red flag because those guys are pandering, hoping they'll get laid. Guys who have genuine beliefs about things won't make ot part of their identity. With a genuine guy, you might know his actual beliefs about religion and politics until like the 3rd date because those guys let things come up naturally and they don't broadcast them to appeal to whatever they think you'll fall for.

Being wishy-washy is another red flag. So is being sensitive about his height or weight (that includes buff dudes who fixate on their physique). Any guy who isn't in school or training and is just working to pass time and get money drugs or whatever. That does NOT include artists who have regular jobs while they work on becoming singers, dancers, writers, etc.

Another redflag is when he finds out your body count is above 10 and he isn't phased or seems overly fine with it.

[Desconhecida]

Even if most red flags happen with both genders, some that comes to mind about women could be:

• avoidance of affection.

• lack of interest in the guy's life or any signs of jealousy - the normal kind.

• only goes out with the guy if she gets something out of it.

• goes to clubs and parties and never invites the guy.

• AVOIDANCE OF LABELS. (it seems outdated but if a girl is in love she's always trying to discuss the status of the relationship to claim the guy and make him stop seeing other people)

[Bethany22]

I can't think of any red flags that women have. Maybe that she doesn't startle easily? It's the same part of your brain that falls in love as it is with fear. So the number of times you see her get scared, the more likely that she will fall in love with one guy and be too sensitive to fall in love with another guy for a very long time.

[MrOracle]

Selfishness.
Avoiding responsibility.
Not protective.
Lacking in ambition/desire to improve.
Low morals and values.
Bad temper.
Being unwilling or unable to communicate.

Unfortunately, the vast majority of the best-looking/most-desired guys have many of these traits, because they have so many women trying to be with them.

[Summeroflove]

If someone wants sex on the first date. Dump him

[Avicenna]

wanting a hookup/talking about sex on the first date

[ManOnFire]

Most men will still want sex with a "slut" even if they claim to hate them. And an ugly woman becomes beautiful to a lot of guys if she gets on her knees to suck him or even asks him outright for sex.

[ThinkFitness23]

1. Women that look for holes, ruins atmosphere.


2. Those who bad mouth men generally.


3. I don’t wish to be informed about all the men that have hurt & used you.


4. Those which mentioned that they don’t have sex until date 5, I wouldn’t mind but more often than not they want it more than you.


5. Someone you sense is untrustworthy, this can be a feeling based on little/no evidence.


I’ve kept this fairly short, those who have wrote a book on flags are red flags themselves, (byproduct). Generally love to love, love to smile and love peaceful Sunday’s just me and mine.


Thanks for reading 📖

[D_Bone_Steak]

My advice to any woman about the bad of any man... stop being impressed with the damn 5 minute presentation. His true colors will show over time, 3 months tops. A damn perfect and rehearsed first impression should be a red flag. The dude probably practiced that shit in a mirror. But I'm just sipping my beer watching it work coming from some loser I saw in the same bar with a different girl saying the same exact lines the night before. It only works because you let it work... and then you're back in the same bar in a matter of weeks falling for the same shit.

[Lionman95]

A guy that shows no deeper interest in a woman´s life, when they talk he doesn´t ask questions about her day but loves to talk about his life. A guy that doesn´t know how to treat her right.

A guy that promises a lot what he will change in a relationship and what behaviors he wants to change but he never shows signs of change. That´s so he doesn´t want to change he just wants you to believe he changes the moment you go out with him.

A guy that complains a lot and finds excuses by shifting the blame around.

A guy that can´t tell you what he wants especially if he doesn´t know or show that he´s interested into a committed relationship. These guys often don´t have a value system or back bone of their own.

Don´t try to turn a guy that is playing around into a guy that would settle down with you because that won´t work.

[JDAC092299]

This one’s for all genders but quick emotional obsession, they think they love you and you’re their everything and they smother you but this isn’t deep love it’s emotional obsession. It’s not their fault but it’s not healthy, I used to be one of these people until I got diagnosed with bipolar/obsessive compulsive disorder after not being able to let go of thoughts of my ex for 2 years I was sick of thinking about her/missing her and I knew it wasn’t healthy, I went to the doctors got put on sertraline for a few months and honestly it helped me fix everything that was wrong with me mentally and physically. My thoughts went away of my ex and I became the happiest I’d been in literal years. If anyone else feels they can relate to my story seek help. You’re not heartbroken you’re possibly just ill and you’ll do yourself and everyone you meet in the future a service if you address it 👌

[desperatelyhungry]

If you don’t mind me asking, what dosage of sertraline are you on? I’ve been moved up from 50 to 100 and I’m not sure I can say there’s much change bad or good

[JDAC092299]

I went from 50 to 100 too, there isn’t much difference but today, I’m completely off sertraline.

[Biancam13]

- Puts down of belittles other women to be "picked" by men

- Bitchy and catty or rude to others

- Doesn't take responsibility for any wrongdoings

- Spoiled and/or overly materialistic. Talks constantly only about other people or material possessions.

- Showing manipulative tendencies

[NathanDavis]

one in particular... a lack of consistency, contradictions

one very common is a great example, initially they will like "how you look" dress and all that, but the moment you're with them they do switch it like "will you go out wearing that?"

that's one of the biggest red flags, earliest as well... lol

[NZGirl07]

Red flags of some women may be

• Uncontrolled jealousy- I deal with this due to being cheated on in the past as many women have, but try to improve myself constantly.
• Slut shaming other girls and being jealous and catty towards them.
• Labelling all things masculine as toxic- obviously there are some traits men have that are unhealthy but labelling all things masculine as bad is unfair.
• Being fake to people.

[likelyOK]

1) Women who are very materialistic is a 🚩. Someone who talks about marriage too fast. 3) If she is still talking to her ex’s or has many guy friends 4) any manipulative behavior 5) if she says “I’m on the pill” unless your committed and tested don’t do it without protection!

[UdosUNDERDEVELOPMENT]

Agression , a fascist state of mind , tyrranical expressions , manipulative , etc. Pretty much anything involved in abusive preferences ( preferences to abuse ) no matter how light on the abuse spectrum it might be. Same goes for women. I don't want to be around a being who will abuse me or others in any way.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

1. If her friends and family tells you that she's been sleeping around and she denies it.

2. When she hides from boyfriend/girlfriend family members after giving them AIDS

3. When she yells at children, especially toddlers (this goes for men as well). Not only yelling, but hitting them whenever they cry and whenever children do children things and toddlers does toddler things that are normal

[PositiveFlight]

Men can be very selfish. We can at times be too forceful and possessive with our personalities. It’s our natural tendency to be protective and be a leader. Many of these traits will self correct and become channeled correctly as a man matures in life and learns to be more selfless.

[Naruto_Uzumaki]

Well I'd say when they've got a lot of male friends, hang out all the time, only care about the money, many children or when they got pregnant at a young age, difficult family and friends, always looking for drama, indecisiveness and insecurities, fake confidence, arrogant behavior/only being nice to certain people

[Agape93]

In my experience, if she uses her period as a constant excuse to not work or to be a bitch, she's full of it.

If she refuses to pay for her own stuff.

If she says your vehicle sucks but she doesn't have one at all.

[Dana223]

completely agree.

[realeyeofthetiger]

- Denies plight of women and feminism. (However, this is not pseudo feminism which is on the rise recently).

- Keeps up with pop-culture a little too much to the point they are engrossed in it.

- Tries to be hood when they grew up in suburbia.

- Uses the term 'Alpha male' in a serious context.

- Believer of 'Red pill'.

- Does not have any strong opinions about any social issues. Cannot speak logically and critically about different points of view.

[Justneedtokno]

• Indecisiveness
• Women have a hard time communicating because we don’t want to hurt his feelings. That’s why we walk on eggshells and we always say it’s fine.
• We come up with her own rules, about we don’t want to seem too desperate

[skilled_jellyfish]

What would you say is the easiest and fastest way to get a definite "no" without her having to feel mean or creating a tense enviroment if you guys are from the same class/job?

[Justneedtokno]

@skilled_jellyfish just ask

[Justneedtokno]

Are you looking for a no? Are you want to still that person now there is a difference

[skilled_jellyfish]

I don't mind a no or a yes but, I don't like being "the guy who asked". Comes off as desperate honestly. Guess I'll just ignore.

[Justneedtokno]

@skilled_jellyfish is this an a workplace environment or is this outside of? What are you trying to date this person? How would I know if you don’t approach her? I don’t think it’s desperate for a man to ask. I’m also old-school so it probably doesn’t apply for me.

[skilled_jellyfish]

There's 23 girls at my workplace and I'm almost the only guy. If I say anything or do anything too obvious it will spread like wildfire across the workplace.

[Justneedtokno]

@skilled_jellyfish I don’t really recommend office romances but that may be just a chance you have the take invite her somewhere after work in parking lot

[Anonymous]

Girls who act like bitches because of their period.

Girls who have extremely high standards for what men should look like and make comments about guys looks. For example: A girl shows her friend her crush and the friend goes "ew he's so ugly". And he isn't even ugly, and even i he was she shouldn't make that comment. That's a red flag.

Girls who expect their men to treat them like queens.

Girls who watch K-drama and too much movies.

Girls who put other girls down.

Girls who dress revealing.