I think the way a man talks about women will give information on how he treats women. If a guy is comfortable with referring to women in objectifying terms such as “used, wh*re, sl*t, and etc” they are making it clear that they don’t have any respect for women and won’t respect their partners
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Anonymous
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The majority of the things women think are red flags in men, are not. And the things they find attractive are the actual red flags.
Calling women sluts or whores if they act like sluts or whores, isn’t a read flag. It’s holding them responsible for their actions. Like women calling men the endless amount of terms when they find men “creepy, perverted, slimy, etc”
Red flags that women ignore are the frat boy attitude, a guy who parties or does drugs, a guy who acts like he is the shit. These are guaranteed to be guys who will treat them like a commodity and cheat but women will always ignore these and find it “confident” and sexy.
I have been with my wife for 10 years and treat her like a queen, I am also my daughters favourite person and she comes to me for advice more than her mom because I treat her with love and respect. But I will call a slut a slut. I expect women to be responsible for their actions. I don’t agree with the bullshit idea that girls can ever hear negative about themselves or even other women. When girls are raised to have dignity and self respect, we will stop having a society where almost naked girls walk around in public with entitlement and expect bad people to stop existing because they “can wear what they want”
You don’t respect women if you think the clothes she chooses to wear is indicative of how well you respect her as a human being as opposed to the content of her character.
There’s nothing wrong with consensual sex, the only reason you think there’s something wrong with a woman having a “high body” count is because of some bullshit made up purity culture non sense that wants authoritarian control over the female body. It also contributes to victim blaming culture as a common thing used to try and discredit victims of sexual violence and abuse is the notion that it was their fault because of what they wore.
Which is a blatant disregard for womens bodily autonomy. As a wise woman once put it “I own my body. My body is not a political playground. It’s not a place for legislation. It’s mine, and it’s my future.”
I agree with the red flags you mentioned but I also find a man that calls women sluts or whores a red flag because I have seen men call women that because they are upset they didn’t sleep with them. I also would prefer a man to call a woman promiscuous or sexually active. Slut and whore sounds too much like name calling to me. I like men that are more on the compassionate side so I don’t like it when men name call.
@annabananna Generally speaking most of the time women are called whores or sluts, it’s by other women or it’s because they got caught acting like one somehow like cheating. The few weak ass males who call women names for rejecting them, yes, they are indeed pathetic and prove to the female who rejected them that they dodged a bullet.
I behave in a controlling manner, i do have a lot of friends, if i was in a serious relationship than i do have jealousy to a certain extent, i do not call my ex crazy but the truth is that she suffered from some mental issues and my other ex, well it was my fault that we broke up and i won't blame myself a lot because i was 19 back then and it was LDR...
If i was in a serious relationship than yes i'll spend the majority of my time with my love!
Raise you're red flags 🤣
Don you think that i give a damn about what anyone thinks about me, BE HAPPY that i'm real and do not lie, at least you know whom you're with 😌
I'm 36 years old, not a kid, if she likes me the way i am so be it and if not, than she can hit the road!
@Kenzy009 if you don’t know why a man sleeping with a prostitute is a big red flag you need to learn about how horribly male sex buyers treat their clients and how inhumane the sex trade is
As long as the transaction is consentual. She is not made to anything she does not agree to, I don't see the problem with it. I think its inhumane how these men are told they are loseres every 5 seconds for being a virgin, and be made to feel like less of a man not worthy of love
@Kenzy009 if you want to hear what sex work actually is I recommends you listen to Esperanza. She is a trans woman who has exited the sex trade and helps other women leave the sex trade. The sex trade is not a consensual industry, many prostitutes are raped and assaulted. That is not consensual.
They are abused on a daily bases by pimps. Sex work is not a good industry and it’s one of the most dangerous industries to work in.
Many sex workers are disproportionately poor women. What do you call an industry that profits off of vulnerable people? Exploitation.
I also guarantee whatever you feel about is a by product of patriarchal society. You need to do the work to deconstruct that yourself. Sex work is not work, at the end of the day. It is and always has been an exploitative field that has profited off of the exploitation of poor, disadvantaged young women.
Uh why is having problems with family a red flag? Some people genuinely don’t get along with some of their family members. There may be some reason behind it. We shouldn’t judge anyone too quickly. His family may be toxic.
Good question with a valid concern to cation about. Although a lot of men might surprise you how to the contrary most speak of women they feel and use as an ultimate example are always the very worst of the worst , insidious and ludicrist types. I've heard thousands of different men describe different women in various vulgar ways. Not to my pleasing of vocabulary usuallt , I've questioned some of them who have displayed discorses about certain women of they're mentions and found that most are very fond of a certain type of woman they speak dearly of and grafically and abusively of the ones of 0 desire or interest of depise. I've have certainly also have had the liberty to hear females speak and act the very same with men they depise too. The difference I've experienced with both is men speak terrible about the women they've had experience with in a past tence and women gestimat through venralization and assumption of the men who probably might fit that paridym.
I don't think anyone can tell what another person is like until some time is spent with that person. And how a man treats a woman when they are alone is not something we can speculate about, even if we know the guy as a buddy. But if you want examples. 1. Borrows your phone 2. Borrows money doesn't pay back 3. Borrows all kinds of things from you. 4. Is always very late, inconsiderate 5. Makes a big deal out of little problems. 6. Won't stop arguing until he is right 7. Bragg's about how much of a bad boy he was, jail time, hard drugs, fighting, crimes, etc. 8. Gambler 9. Drinks a lot of beer every day 10. Always breaking things or wrecking things 11. Always gets into some kind of jam and calls you to bail him out. I'll bet the ladies would like this guys number, he sounds so hot!
I won't date a guy who "jokes" about wanting to physically hurt people. You can't just laugh afterwards and that makes it joke. If you admit you want to hurt others when they make you mad, that let's me know I can end up in the same boat. No thank you.
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Anonymous
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It is certainly true that the way a man talks about women will give information on how he treats women.
It is also true that the way a woman talks about men is a clear indication of how she will treat men and what she is like as a person. For example, a woman who says things like "all men with few exceptions are low value and most men are shit" is clearly a low value woman herself. Women who say such things are shitty humans who make terrible partners and are very unattractive to good men.
You know, I think it's best to just look for exactly what you want than to look at what you're trying to avoid. I like a woman with true class, integrity, principles and self respect. And that will manifest itself in a number of ways. And usually none of these red flags will pop up because the qualities I listed literally cannot coexist with being controlling, demeaning, jealous, having no life or being overly jealous.
Just because he has no friends doesn't mean he's bad. Some people don't like a lot of people around. Introverts. If you have to surround yourself with people to feel like you matter then you're really insecure.
A red flag doesn’t mean it’s bad, it just means it’s something to look out for. I wouldn’t say I don’t care if a guy has no friends since I’m in a similar situation right now during Covid in quarantine. I think if a guy has no girls that are platonic friends that would be a red flag to me that he doesn’t see girls as equals if he isn’t able to have a healthy platonic relationship with a girl unless he’s attracted to her and only in the relationship for the chance of dating her. If you aren’t able to keep up platonic relationships with the other gender that’s my red flag essentially
well, there are many differing opinions on this. Feminists will tell you something very different than right wing men. in my opinion, one of the biggest red flags in men is if he supports female promiscuity. It means he wants to fuck sluts and will likely cheat on you or just see you as another fuck
Promiscuity is a social construct used to victim blame survivors of sexual assault. Your reasoning is wrong because you fail to understand that. There are several me feminists who are still sexist but I think those are the male feminists who don’t critique sex work and the porn industry for being exploitative of women and promoting violence against women
If you wanna pay me I’ll help you remove yourself from the web of lies and mind control that has you firmly in it’s grip, if not, goodbye because I’m done wasting my time on people that don’t wanna know truth
Like if I listened to what you said and believed it, that would mean that there is no such thing as a promiscuous woman who wasn’t raped. This is simply not true, there are plenty of very promiscuous women who have not been raped
So what I’m getting at is you think someone my age doesn’t have the autonomy to form their own thoughts?
I’m not debating feminism with someone that doesn’t even know anything about it that doesn’t include media consumption which confirms their cognitive bias
Getting jealous when they didn't want a relationship Silent treatment when they don't get what they want Projecting their faults onto you making out you are in the wrong
If they agree with you no matter what you say. Try saying the dumbest thing you can think of and if they don't have the balls to ask wtf you're talking about, there's that red flag.
@Subarugirl I thought all men are like this? So sorry for being born a man… actually, I think we as men should all come together and commit mass suicide together! Reparations for such a long history of misogyny and blatant sexism… doesn’t that suit all of us men right?
@Subarugirl by the way, you know I always got you girl! I just wish all these men would just let you ladies walk all over us and teach our young boys how awful they can be once they grow up… right?
Yes i do have all the features in your res flag list
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Anonymous
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If he supports feminism If he is a fudanshi If he has issues with anti-sjws
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Anonymous
(45 Plus)
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Some of things you mentioned could be true or false. What if their exes really are crazy? Spends all their time on you? What? Some women are sluts so if the shoe fits wear it.
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