WOMEN, what are some red flags in men. MEN, what are some red flags in women?

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Saarr · Accepted Answer

A few red flags I've experienced in my rather short dating history:

1. Jealousy
A certain amount of trust in your partner is nessecary in a relationship, especially when you don't live next to each other. It annoying, tiring and painful when your partner always wants to know where you are, with whom and if there are guys present.

2. Avoiding talking about problems
To my opinion a relationship should be a safe and open space to share anything you want, the good and the bad. To make your relationship work and progress it's important that both parties share their feelings and openly talk about what's bothering them. When someone refuses to talk about problems, feelings often get bottled up, which can lead to an explosion, in which things easily get heated and nasty things are said. It can be quite painful to receive 20 things they don't like about you at once like that, especially when they always say no if you ask if anything is up.

3. Not having a life outside of the relationship
I want a partner to becoma a part of my already great life, not have a partner to make my life great. I don't need that and I honestly don't want to be that person for someone else. In my opinion a relationship is healthy when both people have their own happy life, the relationship just makes it all a little better. There is nothing more draining than having to listen to someone telling you how miserable they are, how their life is worthless without you every single day you aren't with them. It made me feel suffocated and guilty and honestly, I never want to feel like that again.

3. Not putting in any effort to get to know the family
Simple and obvious, my family is important for me. I don't like it when someone doesn't put any effort in getting to know all of them and afterwards complains about my family being weird.

4. Using male hormones as an excuse for anything sex related
I can't stand it when men use their 'male hormones' as an excuse to just get off and not care about you. I'm not the easiest to get off, but it's definitely not impossible. My ex just gave up after a while and focused on himself instead of working on it with me. When we had sex he'd get himself off and go to sleep saying his hormones made him too sleepy. Looking back I punch myself in the face for taking this shit and staying so long.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

My red flags, regardless of the person's gender:
- they peaked in high school
- they're lazy/unambitious/unemployed
- they have no or few hobbies
- they can't take care of a home (cook, clean, organize themselves, etc)
- they neglect mental health
- they try not to mix friend groups
- they're irresponsible or unreliable

I'm not about to date another cishet man, frankly. I've dated enough of them. I won't say I'll never date one again, but for now I'd prefer to spread my wings and date fellow sapphics - be they women or enbies. I'm open to bisexual men, but frankly would prefer to date a woman or femme-presenting person.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

She's a woman... go through what all the men said and what the women said and you have my answer as to why I hate her. I still need to get my dick wet though so, she get's to stick around as long as she isn't too much of a problem. Keep in mind though, on those terms if I start to no longer want to get my dick wet with her, she's no longer worth keeping around at all.

I'm a recent transplant to the U. S. from Japan (I'm a white guy by the way) and here is my major complaint about American women... they overvalue their worth. She can be big and fat, probably makes some money that's not special but she's not giving it away like a man does for a woman which only means more time with work and less with me, selfish in behavior a lot of the time, and has a very demeaning viewpoint on men. Like a man can't do anything she'll openly approve of to you (as a man) to your face, but will only blurt it out when you're telling her you're gone for good... so maybe that part counts as a over bloated ego of self worth. Like why am I so valuable only when I'm done and I'm leaving? What are these bitches thinking?

Sandeeppingping · Accepted Answer

1) She goes ape shit during arguments, and by ape shit I mean screaming like crazy saying things specifically to provoke me especially if they are things I personally told her about that's a low blow, or even challenging me to hit her like getting in my face and saying what are you gonna do about it, yea I'm escaping in that very second.

2) if she doesn't respect people around her, especially her parents, like I understand if she already has problems with these people even parents, but if I see her mother trying to be nice or asking questions and she says bad things I'm out.

3) Too many guy friends that clearly want to sleep with her, that we'll have a discussion about it and I'll cherry pick them maybe, friends with exes that's 100% a no go, be on good terms greet each other but don't hangout don't text twice a week or whatever wtf

4) A sucker for male attention, probably goes back to n3 in a way

5) sex worker or having cheated on her ex (They're not related I'm just not going to give it a sole number for 2 words)

6) Party without me, no way

Pinay_ako · Answer

Power tripping narcissist Abusive No word of honour Liar Vain

Glenn_lawrence · Answer

here are the first 10 red flags from my friend Rich Cooper

Red flag #1 - Daddy issues If she doesn’t have a friendly relationship with her father, or had an acrimonious relationship with him growing up, then she likely has a variety of daddy issues.

Red flag #2 - Feminists Many western women today either identify as a feminist, or have welcomed toxic feminist beliefs into their schools of thought.

Red flag #3 - The unhappy and unlucky Robert Green’s tenth law states: “Avoid the unhappy and unlucky.” If you haven’t read ‘The 48 Laws of Power’, do yourself a favor and read it and always avoid the unhappy and unlucky.

Red flag #4 - She competes with you A woman that constantly tries to compete with you might seem cute at rst, but it’s a test of your competency as a man, and it’s an underhanded behavior that ultimately aims to reduce your worth to her.

Red flag #5 - Keeps men from her past around Women like to have options. A recent survey showed that almost half of all married women admitted to having a “back-up plan” (aka: another guy).

Red flag #6 - Poor with money when women are bad with money, it’s often serious trouble.

Red flag #7 - Violent women Women that have violent tendencies are a massive red ag. Early signs of violence are as small as a punch, or a shove.

Red flag #8 - Extreme jealousy Women want to be with a man that other women want to fuck. But they don’t want their man fucking other women.

Red Flag #9 - Party girls You can’t be in an exclusive LTR with a woman if she is going out partying with her friends regularly. The process involves two hours of preparation time in her hair, makeup, and clothes, for the main purpose of marketing herself to other men. If she is going out selling herself to others, she is not your woman.

Red Flag #10 - Heavily tattooed and pierced women. Tattoos all over a beautiful woman is like putting bumper stickers all over a Lamborghini.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Overweight

ADIDAS sweat-pants

Make-up that falls off when she smiles

Long 'artistic' fingernails

Clothing style that leaves NOTHING to my imagination

Clothing style that leaves EVERYTHING to my imagination

She stops at each shoes-, clothing- or handbag- store

She can't put together a sentence that's halfway correct, and one that makes sense

She has a favourite TV show

She calls me ''Daddy''

She ''loves'' me after two days knowing each other

Texting a lot more often than speaking face to face

Over-jealousy / being possessive

Needs or seeks compliments each 10 minutes

Asks me questions that I answered multiple times before

Does not respond to sexual... ''suggestions''

Sits next to me and knows nothing to talk about

Being passive in general

and more

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Most if not all of the usual suspects have already been named, so I would like to add: alcohol consumption and recreational drug consumption.

I had an after-work coffee with a female coworker and in the two hours we were sitting there, she downed FIVE beers (downed as in gulped them like at some student party), while I drank ONE (plus a softdrink). She then even mentioned my "low consumption of beer" as a reason why I might not be suitable for her... Rrriiiiiiiight.

The same would go for smokers of (medical) MJ. I have no problem with people wanting to get a buzz every now and then. But when I visit someone and the bong is the quasi centerpiece in the living room I get the feeling that this is more of a daily thing. And I have really better things to do with my free time than waiting for people to get down again.

Jojojojojojojo · Answer

Rude ,

mentally unstable,

never let u see his phone,

liked sexy pics on ig,

not sending u flowers or other gifts,

disappear and reappear sometimes

Having women 's clothes at home

not introducing his friends to u,

say bad words to u when he got mad

bbsbbsnsnskskd · Answer

I just don’t like people in general being rude out of nowhere like you shout at me I’m gna start shouting back. I don’t want the bullshit I know I’m not perfect but I like being on the same wavelength. Its not going to work if one of us is putting in all the effort I want it 50/50 that’s all. No spending all your money on me or vice Versa.

Fuentes · Answer

SJW women are a huge red flag.

Rude women

Women with a bad history in men

Women with extreme mental health issues

Women who are ignorant about life. As in never worked at all, never paid bills, never owned or drove a vehicle.

Women in sex work

Women who take half naked thirst trap photos for other male attention.

Women with too many baby daddies.

I'm not saying I won't fuck these women but I'd never take them serious

JustADudePlayinADude · Answer

Calling herself a princess, unresolved childhood trauma, smokes, doesn't want kids, can't take light sarcasm, fat (I can tolerate a little chub, but not someone who is strait up fat), antisocial behavior, and has no goal in life are a few of mine.

Pegases · Answer

The main red flags is lies. There are many others, but this is the one that will tell you the most about a girl.

Guy13 · Answer

junk hanging out all the time, body counter, porn reference, dick pic request, flirty attention seeking, overthinking...

Darine123 · Answer

- liar - abusing  - controlling  - jealous  - playing games  - talking to many girls at one time

Pizaz · Answer

Blaming all failures in his life on someone, /something besides himself.

dustybiker · Answer

Controlling natures. Unable to listen or compromise.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Abused Lying Gold Digging Controlling Possessive Mean

JosyJosy · Answer

Abuse, controlling, trying to manipulate me to get your way, when you're flirty

xJayleenx · Answer

Comparing you to their exes, constantly putting you down, calling their exes crazy, flirting with other girls, etc.

Jouth · Answer

when they are wearing a red flag on the shirt and the red flag is like really red and shining and it is a distinctive red flag

Anonymous · Answer

Being woke and/or a feminist is a big red flag.

emiliamilana · Answer

being rude to waiters or retail staff, constantly being late, only talking about himself lol

Anonymous · Answer

Judgmental men need to be avoided. It's no wonder so many of them are single and miserable.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Her being woke, feminist, tattoos, piercings, alcoholic.

IveGotNoName · Answer

If they have a bad temper and/or are flakey.

Shy_Steve · Answer

If she talks a lot and if She is fairly Confident.

ZS007 · Answer

he leaves you on seen 😃

Tina19 · Answer

Controlling  Jealous Dominating

magiusX26 · Answer

for me, at this point, existing

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

She's a feminist , a pro choice etc.

zagor · Answer

Crazy, inconsiderate, mean.

Valso · Answer

Most of all - religiousness.

Anonymous · Answer

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