Straight Men of GAG: What are some positive traits that women can display for a man? The opposite of red flags. Deal-makers.
Girls can view and comment, but please try not to write any answers to the question, because you're likely going to be very biased and flat-out wrong about what men actually want in women.
- Is genuinely nice to almost everyone. - Can respect beliefs different from her own (including things like abortion or trans issues). - Knows a second language. - Has no kids right now and has never been divorced. - Willing to go Dutch on the date. - Doesn't rely on you for money, but also not opposed to possibly being a stay-at-home mom someday. - Has an artistic skill or talent (singing, dancing, playing piano, painting, etc). - Wears appropriate clothing for the setting, and doesn't show off her body on social media. - Has a good relationship with her family; especially her father. - Not overly political in either direction. - Knows how to cook pretty well. - Doesn't do drugs (especially weed) and has few to no vices.
Deeply kind and loving, embraces her femininity and not creating power struggles due to feminist ideology, capable of intimacy and bonding, avoids creating drama, takes responsibility for consequences of her actions, and is also able to communicate when she has concerns or things that upset her. Basically like the woman I am with now.
Understanding, caring, funny/goofy, good hygiene, no social media, moderate dressing, non-gold digging, no kids from multiple men, doesn't sleep around, not covered in tattoos or piercings, no unnatural hair colors, that's my girl anyway all green flags to me
I can work with a lot of physical attributes, but ethics, personality, work ethic, personal responsibility, useful skills, and compatible worldview are important to me. After kids or even after time, many physical attributes will change. Holding a woman accountable for that is unfair and unrealistic. If I can’t stay 25 forever it’s not reasonable to expect the same. Logically and reasonably derived ethics are a must for me, both to demonstrate the capability of higher order thinking and to ensure that we are on the same page in how we approach life. I’m probably one of the more boring people you would meet in real life, and don’t want a relationship with someone who is the life of the party. The less drama I have in my life, the better. Having a good work ethic, or not expecting beauty and gender to absolve her from having to make meaningful contribution to the relationship and Home is very important to me. That is an ethical issue to me, such that it is unfair to expect to coast through life based on my effort and at my expense because she was hot in her 20’s. Relationships take work, households take work, and children take work. Especially children, who are the most important job any of us will do in our lives. Personal responsibility is an ethical issue for me as well; as it comes down fundamentally to an issue of integrity and honesty. Own your shit, call me out on mine, and everybody wins. If you eat the last cookie, make some more. It’s a bit more complicated than that but that is a good introduction to the concept. Having some homemaking skills like cooking, sewing, gardening, getting stains out, etc. I bring grilling, basic user lever home repair, gardening, and yard cleaning (as representative examples) to the table. Cute is more important than hot, a nice laugh and smile are WAY more important than your career because I don’t expect you to provide for me, as I want to do that for you. Compatible worldview is important to me because I want our time together to be enjoyable not a decades long argument. My worldview should be fairly obvious to many GAG users, and there are a lot of women here who seem to share at least most of it.
I edited yours a bit to make mine for time saving reasons:
1. Is genuinely nice to almost everyone who is nice. 2. Hates beliefs entirely, values and respects logic, facts, sound methodologies, and varied opinions, but not beliefs, is an atheistic scientist type mind. 3. Knows a coding language. 4. Has no kids right now, doesn't want kids ever, and has never been divorced, bonus points if sterile. 5. Willing to go Dutch on the date (thats means splitting the bill 50/50 right?). 6. Doesn't rely on you for money, Doesn't want to ever be a mom to anything other than other species, ie wants/has pets but not kids, loves exotic pets, large and small. 7. Has an artistic skill or talent (animating, coding, playing instruments, painting, drawing (this especially), building, writing, etc). 8. Wears whatever is physically comfortable or exceptionally pretty, preferably both, lewd attire is ok, but only within hygienic reason in public spaces (ie no sitting on a public bench without underwear on). 9. Doesn't really talk to most or any of her family, tends to hang out with a couple friends only, not interested in bars, clubs, concerts, or other large gatherings of people. 10. Is mostly libertarian and favors science over politics, understands voting is pointless and that politicians are all corrupt puppets. 11. Doesn't do any drugs or drink any alcohol at all, and has no unsafe vices/addictions. 12. Is exceptionally skilled at difficult video games, could play all day most days and be happy, stopping only when wanting to make art. 13. loves science, sci-fi and fantasy, prehistory, and anime/cartoons. 14. Isn't afraid of bugs, arachnids, snakes, or large predatory animals. 15. Is smart, kind, sweet, and bubbly. 17. Is hyperactive and hates relaxing mentally, but has zero interest in physically exausting activities like sports or hitting the gym. 18. Has a very high metabolism, is mostly thin despite eating a lot and being physically lazy. 19. Has a crude sense of humor, makes sexual jokes, laughs at farts, is over all a very silly person, also enjoys witty/clever humor and sarcastic or satire type humor. 20. Has short, unpainted nails, no makup, no hair dye, no tattoos, no piercings, hair is medium or long and thick/healthy looking. 21. Prefers living in a big city with lots of toy stores, collectable stores, comic/card shops, arcades, electronics stores, zoos, museums, restaurants, etc. but is very much the homebody type when not shopping.
1. No kids from her past but she does want some with the right person 2. No contact with any ex 3. Doesn't do drugs 4. Doesn't drink alcohol 5. No tattoos 6. Initiates affection and intimacy 7. Is honest and trustworthy 8. Likes board games and/or table top RPGs 9. Likes doing physical/sporty stuff (Riding bikes, hiking, working out, friebee or disc golf) 10. Doesn't make new opposite gender friends once in a relationship 11. Isn't obsessed with social media or getting likes 12. Doesn't post provocative pictures or videos online 13. Pays her own way on dates in the beginning 14. Is against BLM, Antifa, and any other anti American or racist group. 15. Is patriotic 16. Is conservative (not democrat) and smart enough to realize that not all republicans are conservative. (Romney for example is not conservative) 17. Doesn't mistreat people based on their race or gender (but does realize that the majority of people that still support democrats are immoral and hateful people) 18. Is totally AGAINST schools teaching and encouraging transgenderism to little kids. 19. Appreciates thoughtful gestures and handmade gifts more than just something expensive. 20. Willing to sign a prenuptial agreement
Those are 20 of the things I would say are green flags in a woman, at least from my point of view.
I can list some I think are good points for a green flag: 1) gives her opinion and tells what is thinking about in direct manner without tricks or twirls; 2) has healthy interests that make her life full; 3) isn’t morbidly needy or doesn’t develop a morbid attachment; 4) has a minimum cultural level that allows her to maintain a conversation about the vast majority of subjects. It’s appreciable if she has an independent and original opinion on various matters and can sustain it; 5) respects each independence, since every one has to maintain its group of friends; 6) thinks about the needs of the other and is willing to share her fears and her needs; 7) kindness is the way, and respect for the others is a must.
-Actions matching words she says. -Dresses to occasion -Treats everyone with respect and politeness -Independent enough to function on her own -Willing to split money on dates -Stays in shape -Nurturing and affectionate -Can take accountability and is able to admit when she fucks up or is wrong -Communicates well about needs and things that will make relationship stronger -Ambition and goals -Open to the idea of having kids -Comes from a good family -Has great friendships that aren't damaging to her -Can cook well -Isn't an extremist to any political affiliation -No kids or exes in the picture -Can agree to disagree -Little to no social media, especially OnlyFans
1. He's really sweet to me and my family and friends 2. Shares my interests 3. Ambitious 4. Gentlemen like 5. Understands my humor 7. Makes me laugh 8. Likes my friends 9. Supports me 10. Makes me feel good and appreciated
fiscal responsibility. has own means of support and has demonstrated doing so for extended period. physically fit. mentally sharp. education isn't requirement but common sense IS (most definitely). avoids soap operas and anything to do with celebrities
That list is pretty traditional to me. Mine isn't that long.
1. Open minded2. Not a gold digger3. Smart4. Monogamous, loyal and straight. (If you wanna leave, just tell me. I won't pressure to stop)5. Have a job6. Have/expect no kids
Most of what you got is good, there 2 things I would change 1 gotta smoke weed or at least doesn’t have an issue with it. 2 political to hell and has to be right wing
I’d also add knows how to shoot a gun and not over weight
If we go out to eat and you offer to pay. I won’t let you pay , but the simple fact that you offer to pay tells me you’re not self absorbed in your thinking that you are the prize, humbleness is a virtue.
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