What are your first date green flags ✅?

[Smashingdoozy]

We all talk about red flags on a first date but what about green flags?

[Still-alive]

- showing empathy

- good sense of humor

- communicates well

- listens to me and makes me feel heard

- Good Hygeine

- able to plan things well in advance

- is responsible (with money, work, etc)

- respectful

- is always on time or tries to be. isn't flaky

- gets along with my family

- At least attempts to partake in my hobbies even if they don't end up liking them after trying them out

- Doesn't constantly bring up exes proving they are truly over them and not comparing me to them

- respects my schedule and doesn't blow up my phone if i can't answer their text for awhile

- Shows maturity especially with her emotions

- takes accountability if she truly is in the wrong about something and makes actual attempts to not do it again through her actions

- Doesn't overreact to the smallest things that ultimately don't matter

- it would be great if we were sexually compatible too but i can probably overlook it if all else is good with her

Thats about it i think lol.

[loveslongnails]

She put her best foot forward so to speak. She was dressed classy, on time, enthusiastic about the date and seemed genuinely interested in talking AND listening, and the talk wasn't just superficial chit-chat. I look for kindness and the sense of a good heart with the ability to speak her mind and know she's intelligent and given thought to her words before she speaks. Her phone, like mine, is off and nowhere in sight.

The hottest, classiest, most original thing a girl ever said to me was on a date that went well. The check came and I had every intention of paying it without hesitation. Before I could go for my wallet, she reached over, touched my hand and said, " I'm going to let you pay for this one, because I'm going to get the one on our next date which you're about to ask me on, and I'm about to say "yes" to"! What a class A move!! Yeah, she had me right then!! Best green flag EVER!

[Sweetsurprize]

• No baby mammas/Baby daddies.
• Hot.
• Kind.
• Respectful.
• Slow to Anger.
• Quick to forgive.
• Gentle.
• Financially stable.
• Marriage and kids minded or traditional.
• Honest. (but not BRUTALLY honest).
• Compatibility in a lot of ways.
• Trustworthy.
• Committed/Dedicated/loyal.

There's probably more, but I gotta go for now.

[loveslongnails]

I have to say, the term "baby daddy or baby mommy" makes me cringe!

[Minahh]

✅ He asked if I've arrived safely
✅ He bought me flowers (yes women still love it and now it's not outdated) It is a sign for me that he genuinely means it
✅ He smells nicely and is dressed well
✅ He is not on the phone
✅ He offers to give me a ride home or waits for my bus/train with me

[OlderAndWiser]

Soft-spoken, laughs often, infectious smile, doesn't talk trash about others, is ppolite to wait staff, wants to hold my hand, listens when I talk, gives me a good night kiss at the end of the date.

[dynamicyandere]

* On time. It means she respects your time.


* Phone away. Also means she respects your time.


* Attentive and good listener. Means she cares about more than just herself.


* Please & Thank You. Shows that she’s polite and not rude, to you or to strangers (e. g. restaurant staff).


* Good vibes. She makes you feel comfortable.


* Good conversation and energy. It means your chemistry is good.


* Gut check. Your gut feels aren’t giving off any feelings of uncertainty, which means your subconscious doesn’t pick up on anything you should be wary of.

[MountAverage]

- Talkative
- Attentive
- Asks personal questions
- Laughs a lot and has a good sense of humor
- Isn't constantly distracted
- Knows how to hold a balanced conversation instead of just holding monologues
- If she's romantically interested and open to getting physically closer, she either shows clear signs of that or makes a move herself
- Knows at the very least whether she's attracted to me or not, instead of needing to get to know me for several dates to find out (not to be confused with deciding whether she actually wants to hook up or whatever, I'm speaking simply of the feeling of attraction)

[Anonymous]

-a healthy balance of traditional and modern

-understanding how to manage expectations (meaning if she isn’t something I expect her to be, she can’t fully expect me to be the way for her✅)
-willing to do something free (shows she is actually into the date to learn about me, not get a free meal)
-attentive
-good hygiene
-unnoticeable to zero makeup
-no plastic surgery (yes, we can tell)
-able to actually carry a conversation to its fullest
-stimulates me mentality and physically (last one is a given)
-smart (more common sense, don’t care if you are book or educationally smart)

[TonyMetal___86]

-She's against feminism

-She's somewhat traditional

-she's respectful

-she's funny

-she's happy being a woman and not trying to be a man

-if she have faith in god

These are all my green flags about a woman...

[Andres77]

Car is paid off, has no credit card debt. Grew up reading instead of watching tv. Has a great relationship with her parents. No mental illness in her family.

[Sweetsurprize]

My car is paid off but it's old. I have credit card debt. I think like probably 80 to 90% of the population do unless they are rich. The parents thing, one can't always control that. What if the parents weren't good parents or were abusive.

[Andres77]

@Sweetsurprize
Everything is a case by case basis.

[Nikki1989]

Good sense of humor and a love and passion for good music.

[AydenHazor]

We close out the restaurant and keep talking in the parking lot

[shades777]

yea i remember mentioning this like a month ago with all you flag maniacs, guess its only popular if a woman brings it up

[nawtee_me]

I was never in the signal corp but if I had to list one then I would say breathing would be ok….

[CubaPirate]

Politeness good receptive body language and great personality

[Anonymous]

I would say, but I'm not going to give anymore fuel to pretend to be something they're not.

[exitseven]

She likes to workout and she likes pickup trucks

[Jmmmfi4]

Fucks on the first date

[Anonymous]

When they’re not nervous and awkward

[MrNameless]

How's having the jitters a red flag?

[Anonymous]

He has a big dick... I mean heart...