Ladies of GAG, how many red flags do you have? Wife-seekers, is this the truth or what?

[Whatthefluff]

[N192K001]

Eh… There are problems with these "Green Flags" & "Red Flags" mentioned here.

Going by "Green Flags" points:
● Traditional Christian
What is "traditional" here, since that varies across regions & societies. Also, each tradition will have their own issues intrinsic to their practice & interpretation, so would remedying this by taking elements of different ancient traditions (my approach) still be counted? If I encountered a believing woman who did the same, would she be counted as this, as well?

● Steak fajita enthusiast
I am not that familiar with Mexican or Tex-Mex food, so this is optional. She can have her tastes too, but compatibility with Asian food is a must. Of course, I would also have to (at the very least, "learn to") enjoy her regional tastes as well.

● Knows how to bake
Optional (or I WILL gain much weight, guaranteed), but a nice 1.

● Loves babies and wants to make as many as possible
Optional. That would depend on finances… and her verdict after her 1st delivery. Sure, the charge of Genesis 1:28 & 9:7, but that's not prime-directive.

● Listens to Thomas Sowell audiobooks
Hell to the yeah! Definitely a plus, but how many actually do this?

● Has really really super long healthy natural hair
Her hair-style is her prerogative. Healthy hair is a good sign, but how long is this? So long as it's not man-ish (not ear-level, at least), it's her decision & style.

● Wears sundress
(I needed to research this online.) Another nice plus, but not mandatory.

● Goat lady
What‽ "Greatest of all time" ("G. O. A. T.") is meant here, right? Isn't this already the automatic rank granted to any serious spousal-candidate?

● Drinks herbal tea
Okay, sure. Again, optional, but good… especially for health.

● Churns butter
W. T. F.‽ Butter can be easily bought in stores. I understand that baked bread is best right off the oven, but I doubt just-churned butter is any more greater than store-bought enough to justify the time & effort.

Also, skills in (or "openness to learn") self-defense would have been good.

And "Red Flags" points:
● Atheist, nihilist, feminist
Yes, I'd agree here. The clash of the most basic of convictions will guarantee doom before the relationship even started. For the good of both parties, declining is a must.

● Vegan
Yes, this will cause so many problems.

● Knows how to twerk
The "skill" is so basic, doesn't anyone unfortunate enough to witnesses it already know how to do it just by seeing? I'd assess by interest & frequency of practice. Preferably, that's 0 on both counts. So, yes… in a sense.

● Thinks babies are bad for the environment
Yeah, anti-natalist ideology, again, guarantees incompatibility. So, yes.

● Listens to Cardi B and that other rapper
I've never heard their music, so I cannot assess.

● Has purple, green, or blue hair
If she's also a anime/manga cosplayer, this may still work. If not, more information may be needed.

● Wears nose ring
Yes. In Exodus 21:6, an עבד ("eved"; "EH-ved"; n.「indentured servant」if under Torah's standards or 「slave」otherwise) would get publicly pierced as a certification of an accepted request for lifelong servitude under the current household, at the end of a 6year-term or the Year of Jubilee, whichever came 1st. Under my wing, she shall not be an עבד (literally or symbolically).

● Cat lady
Yes, I am allergic to animal-dander.

● Drinks alcohol
In general, yes, since I don't drink either. The only acceptable exceptions would be Kosher low-alcohol wine during Feasts of the Lord if/when mandated by verses, though non-alcoholic would be best.

● Smokes weed
Yes, dependence on such a drug an instant "reject"-notice to me.

Unless she is willing to learn and conquer it, victimhood-mentality, insistence on unnecessary/avoidable vulnerability, and always needing a rescuer are also on my list. Also, narcissism & manipulativeness should probably be on everyone's list.

[MCheetah]

No, that second half is not the objective truth. That's only what super-right-leaning men would approve of. But let's go over the list and analyze it.

❌ = Inaccurate
🤔 = Depends
✔ = Accurate

Red Flags:
- Atheist 🤔
- Nihilist ✔
- Feminist ✔✔
- Twerk 🤔 Depends on how often she does it and if she does in public or only in private for you to see...
- Anti-baby ✔
- Fan of Cardi B (the other one is Nicki Minaj or Megan Thee Stallion; they're all sh*t) ✔
- Feminist colored hair ✔
- Nose ring ✔
- Owns several cats 🤔
- Drinks alcohol 🤔
- Smokes weed ✔

Green Flags:
- Traditional Christian. ❌ No; super-religious people are some of the dumbest people on Earth.
- Likes steak fajitas. 🤔 WTF?
- Can bake. ✔
- Wants many kids. 🤔
- Fan of Thomas Sowell. ❌
- Long natural hair. 🤔 Sometimes, this is the sign of a gold-digger.
- Sunglasses. ❌
- Goats. ❌
- Herbal tea. ❌
- Butter churner. ❌

So nah. While the red flags gets 7 out of 11 points correct (63% accurate), the "green flags" are just some dumb Tennessee or Arkansas sh*t. The green flags, at best, would only be 40% accurate. This chart overall is mostly pretty sh*t.

Here are the REAL green flags for women (in my opinion):

- Respects men.
- Can respect beliefs different from her own (including things like abortion or trans issues).
- Is genuinely nice to almost everyone.
- Knows a second language.
- No kids right now.
- Never been divorced.
- Willing to go Dutch.
- Doesn't rely on you for money, but also not opposed to possibly being a stay-at-home mom someday.
- Has an artistic skill or talent (singing, dancing, playing piano, painting, etc).
- Has good hygiene and grooming skills, regardless of hairdo.
- Wears appropriate clothing for the setting.
- Has a good relationship with her family; especially her father.
- Not overly political in either direction.
- Knows how to cook.
- Drinks only on occasion or not at all (not an alcoholic).

[DarkWinterNights]

Yeah the red flags weren’t pretty on point. Cats and Alcohol though… but weird. Most of the green flags were pretty weird. I laughed pretty hard at butter churner.

“She’s hot and all but she can’t churn butter, drops her from a 9/10 to a 6/10.”

[Anonymous]

One red flag, I guess. And a few yellow ones. But at least five green ones.

I'm a feminist. I'm also a Christian, but I wouldn't call myself a traditional Christian, especially not in the way you probably mean it.

I'm vegetarian, but not quite vegan. I eat mostly vegan, but I'll have some dairy when I'm out and about.

I'm not a huge baker, but I can cook. I tend to prefer smoothies over pastries anyway. I can't twerk though. I have scoliosis.

I love babies. I work with babies, and I want a big family. I actually think that having children is a great thing for the environment, because it gives you a reason to protect the environment.

I don't listen to rap or audiobooks. I mostly listen to classical music, jazz, or 70s pop. Lately I've been a bit obsessed with the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra's versions of a lot of old rock songs. I read books on paper (or on my kindle if the book is huge and I don't feel like lugging it around), but not Thomas Sowell. I mostly read fantasy.

My hair is completely virgin, long, healthy, and curly. I take pride in it, because it took me a long time to learn how to take care of it. No one in my family has curly hair, so when I first started learning, mine was a total mess.

I love floofy dresses and have no piercings. I plan to get my ears pierced though, and maybe get a white ink tattoo.

I'm allergic to cats, so that's off the table. I love goats though. I want to own goats one day, and feed my children raw goat's milk. It's healthier than cow's milk.

I drink maybe once a month, with friends, but I've never been drunk. I love herbal tea. You have to love it in order to be a singer. I'm not a caffeine person though. I get so hyper just from sugar, I shudder to think of what caffeine would do to me.

I don't smoke weed or churn butter, but I have no problem with people who do either.

Of course, your list also doesn't account for what many of these people would consider the biggest red flag. I'm bisexual.

I think it's funny when guys have this weird puritanical image of what women should be like, meanwhile they live up to none of the values of that time themselves. If you want a traditional wife who will do all the housework and takes care of the kids, you better be a traditional husband and make enough money to support a big family on a single income.

[Kaneki05]

Effort noticed. This was a crazy efforted opinion for someone anonymous and even if ya wasn't. :)
And my distaste for Christians don't linger towards you as much along with other differences, I am glad you value stuff without trying to preach it onto other's. Like in your comment of smoke weed. Sorry about your scoliosis. Wish ya the best.

[Opinion Owner]

@Kaneki05 Thanks! I like answering questions like this, so it doesn't feel like a chore to put longer answers.

The main reason that I went anonymous is that I mentioned bisexuality. It's not a secret, but most of the time when I bring it up non-anonymously, I get a bunch of follow requests and weird messages from dudes who still believe that bi people are all hyper-sexual, and that it's not creepy to act like total perverts if the person they're talking to is bi. I wasn't in the mood to deal with that.

And my scoliosis doesn't bother me. I don't actually know if it has anything to do with twerking. There are just a bunch of memes about people with scoliosis not being able to twerk. It was mostly a joke for my own amusement. The only people who would get it are other people who have scoliosis.

Honestly marijuana sounds fun. I just have asthma, so I can't smoke it, and the family history of schizophrenia makes me think that edibles would not be a good idea, especially for the first try. 😂

[Kaneki05]

Oh yeah for sure get that hard enough to be a woman without getting harassed by some guys already but say your Bi or even lesbian and somehow it gets worse. Oh that's a good joke I missed then lol.
Oh yeah if you have a history of that in the family for sure don't while it should still be safe it's probably not worth the risk, good to being not a big drinker of alcohol too. Might send up a wall and not in the fun way haha.

[Emogirl999]

One persons red flag is another persons green flag, so paint my flags whatever color you want.

I'm hard working
I'm employed
I live with my parents to limit my expenses, I'm saving up to buy an apartment within the next few years
I can cook and clean
I don't come from a rich family but stand to inherit a reasonable amount of money and a house
I believe in a God but I'm not super religious
I try to be open minded
I'm straight but support the LGBTQ community
I'm willing to do/try most sexually things at least once but I'm not a fan of anal
I only do long term relationships
I'm a cat person, leaning towards the crazy side but not crazy enough to own more than 2 cats
I tend to let people walk over me because I don't like fighting so I'll do stuff i don't want to or stay quiet if someone offends me because I'd rather not fight
I go to the gym but I'm not a fitness fanatic
My looks are important to me but I don't spend hours on it
I don't wear much make up, just eyeliner and mascara and sometimes lipstick, but if someone offered to do my make up for me wouldn't say no
I have long natural hair, I'm stil trying to grow it longer
I like anime
I play video games
I love music, I enjoy most genres including metal
I play two instruments and sing and I studied sound engineering at college
I don't drink alcohol or smoke but I have nothing against people who do
I'm pretty introverted, I like to hang out with people but get overwhelmed after awhile
I want kids but am fine with not having any if my partner doesn't want them

This list is all over the place but I pretty much just wrote down whatever came to mind

[Pinay_ako]

Biggest red flag of all is a narcissist. If they are one, I’m out. Better off alone

[Apple1996]

I have 5 on each side lol but I'm already married so prob doesn't apply to me

[VanillaSalt]

Tf is with your list lmao… is it too much to ask for respect? Courtesy and kindness go a long way but when your lazy and stop showing these and you stop being beneficial to my life you have no right to complain I dumped your ass…


If your looking for a man it’s simple… change yo what men want and you’ll have suitors out the ass… and they’ll stick around if your quality and able to recognize quality. If you refuse to be what others value accept you will have to wait and risk dying alone.


The answer to the question “Where have all the men gone?” Is easy… Their focused on their lives and you women just don’t interest them. What you want, expect, and offer don’t match up and you think we’re equal. Lol stupid.


Why settle for being equal when you could be superior? Women can have babies. How the hell do men match that? You’ve lowered yourselves to being men in this world that values women more. What you offer men is less then what you are worth… men on the other hand haven’t changed… maybe we’ve gotten a bit more lazy but that’s only cause your no longer worth fighting for. There’s no purpose for men anymore… keep society going for who? We won’t have kids and women ain’t worth the effort yet we’re still having this conversation.

[Lliam]

On the red flag list, I prefer agnostic, never wanted children (not because of the environment), and don't mind moderate alcohol or even weed consumption. I don't mind a cat. The other stuff on that list, except for knowing how to twerk, would be a turn off.

On the green flag list, the only things that resonates with me are knowing how to bake and wearing sun dresses. I don't even like super long hair. I prefer cute hair styles and natural colored hair.
And what's up with churning butter? Does she also milk the cows?

My red flags would be:
Religious
Strongly politically partisan. Political parties are a dog and pony show.
Woke
Mean, angry and/or bitter
Constantly texts and looks at her phone
Into shopping, consumerism and status
Wants an expensive home, car, clothes, shoes, handbags and jewelry
Bad fashion sense - colored hair, fake nails, too much makeup, terrible clothing choices
Fake
Bad manners
Owns a dog

Green flags would be:
Heterosexual with a strong libido. Orgasmic. Passionate. Loves sex and is good at it.
Fit and attractive. (I'm not looking for perfection)
Loves being female.
Good self esteem, self respect, comfortable in her own skin
Great body care and grooming
Good fashion sense - hair, nails, clothing choices. Proud to look tastefully sexy when appropriate.
Genuine. Not affected.
Honest and ethical
Polite
Good communicator
Bright, inquisitive, open minded
Intuitive
Compassionate
A career or professional skill (s)
Independent
Good work ethic
Fun and funny
Adventurous. Loves life.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I fixed it. Sorry, but I'm not into religious country women, and for the record:
1. I don't want kids, but I don't like misanthropes or people who have no basic logic, humans are the only species to actually intentionally preserve environments.
2. I don't know who Thomas Sowell even is, and relatable women likely don't either.
3. Veganism is fine and healthy if done right, but hating those who eat meat isn't.
4. People who prefer drinkng herbal tea usually aren't the hyper type, I like hyper women, a hyper woman who does drink tea is just as good as one that doesn't.
5. Colorful hair is super pretty, and when hair dye that doesn't damage hair is invented, it will cease to be a red flag.
6. baking is only a green flag because everyone should know how to cook, not because I want her to cook my meals, not knowing how to bake however, is not a red flag, because I can just teach her.
7. Beef causes ass cancer.
8. Nihilism is about not having any sense of purpose chaining you down/restricting you, and the freedom of choice that comes with hedonism, it is not about being a negative downer who hates the world and everything in it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Also long nails are a red flag.
Being obese is a red flag.
Being a gamer and an artist is a green flag, and not being a gamer or artist is a red flag.
Hating science is a red flag too, and liking it is a green flag.
Liking sci-fi and fantasy and anime are green flags, hating any of them is a red flag.

[ObscuredBeyond]

While I question some of the green flags, I have to agree with the red flag list. Especially the Cardi B (aka, female Bill Cosby) and knows how to twerk flags! Those chicks can be given all the tools and training necessary to become pros at any number of things, but will immediately throw it away to duckface on Instagram the very next day, with zero gratitude. And a week later, will be arrested for prostitution. You can take the ho out of the alley, but it's a lot harder to get the alley out of the ho.

[meetkitty123]

Wow 😳 what a Terrible list. It makes little to know sense at all. Churns butter? Really? WTH
I have 2 reds and about 7 greens (I have no dount I could churn butter if I had the equipment).
there's very little actual red flags on this... Perhaps the smole weeds... And the has a nose ring is offensive especially if it is part of a cultural decision. I wear mine as a tribute to my roots. It was apart of the Taino Indians Culture.
And sure I can "twert" but it was called twerting until recently and Again I know how to move my hips in such away because of the traditional dances in my culture.
It truly is a disgraceful list so no I dont agree on this list at all.

[Vesuvius87]

I would've been everything on the green list except the ''Traditional Christian'' (devoted religious) crap. I didn't know you need to be a religious fantatic in order to get married.

How do you know someone that believes in god or goes to church is doing good deeds out of free will or just being good because they're afraid of getting punished?

I'm happy as an agnostic. I actually have my doubts of a supposedly supreme being watching over you. Any loving god would want you to be happy, not come to dark, depressing temples nor do the ridiculous ''getting on your knee'' thing.

[petitedollbabee]

Other than knows how to bake, the green flags are all red flags in my eyes. I wouldn't date a woman with the rest of those traits.


Whoever made this list seems like someone who got rejected too many times by women who had the “red flag” traits. Those “red flags” are not red flags.

[TacosRAwesome]

Bored enough to do this line by line.
1 - neither. I'm Christian but believe in birth control.
2 - steak fajita enthusiast but also occasional vegan.
3 - bake.
4 - don't hate babies. Will have a couple.
5 - neither.
6 - long hair but sometimes it's purple7 - sundresses (sometimes)8 - cat lady 4 life9 - neither10 - neither

[WhiteBoyChill]

You call yourself Christian and yet you believe in the same thing that encourages premarital sex

[TacosRAwesome]

@WhiteBoyChill so?

[WhiteBoyChill]

You dont see a conflict of interest?

[TacosRAwesome]

@WhiteBoyChill not really. I don't go to church.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Then why bother calling yourself Christian if it doesn’t mean anything to u

[CountessSarah]

I'll take someone with all the apparent red flags, please.
Fuck me the person who made this must be the biggest drag imaginable. Guarantee they're an incel.

What ones apply to me -
Well, for the 'red flags', I'm an atheist, understand overpopulation, and /very rarely/ drink. So I only have 3 from the left list. Don't really have any of the right list stuff.

[KingofCups]

I'd disagree. I'm definitely not looking to get married in this lifetime but I'd def go for a girlfriend with a few 'red flags'.

1. Atheist/Nihilisist let's go
2. Vegan food can be fire
3. She best know how to twerk
4. Babies are bad for the environment and your savings account
5. Cardi B and other women rappers are dope
6. I do definitely prefer long healthy natural hair
7. Nose rings + tattoos are hot
8. I only really like big cats like lions and tigers
9. Drinks Alcohol, let's turn up
10. Smokes Weed, let's turn up

[SkyCastle90]

The list above is inaccurate.

My biggest red flag that I can think of would have been that I'm bipolar due to all the symptoms associated with it that could come off as red flags. Sadly, it's genetic, but thanks to medication and therapy I'm healthier than I've ever been.

I tried asking my fiance if he noticed any red flags in the beginning, and he replied no.

[Seinna]

The problem with this list is that men only want that kind of woman when they're already old lol

I have 3 of the red flags depending on how strict a person is about it.

I like cats and other animals though I don't have any, I drink occasionally and I smoked some weed in the past but haven't in years and don't really care for it.

[BCA6010]

The red flags side is almost spot-on, with the caveat that having a cat is fine, being a crazy cat lady with an entourage of cats is not.

As for green flags... What is a goat lady? Like a succubus? That seems to run counter to being a traditional Christian, but if it's analogous to "cat lady" then does this guy want a goat rancher? I'd change/reword pretty much everything under Traditional Christian.

[Graci_e]

Left side: feminist (to an extent), I know how to twerk, I listen to cardi b, I love cats, I drink alcohol and I wanna try weed

Right side: I know how to bake, I love babies and I want heaps, I have long hair, I wear dresses and I made butter like once for funzies

[Lionman95]

I think it depends what a guy is looking for because that a guy is a traditional Christian and looks for a stay at home wife.
That being said I would copy many of the red flags because I'm also a Christian and also traditional in values but not every gut is like that.
I don't know why a goat lady is to be preferred over a cat lady and what's so bad about vegans.

[purplepoppy]

I'm a yellow flag, I've a mix of both. I'm an atheist, I can bake, I like babies but I don't want to be a breeding machine. I wear sundresses but I drink, I have a cat and I'm sure churning butter is a reference to anal sex

[exitseven]

@purplepoppy Yes, that churn handle can come IN handy for other things.

[007kingifrit]

* atheist should not be paired with feminist, she COULD be an atheist and not insane... but the odds are a little worse. feminist on the other hand is an instant death sentence for any relationship
* vegans are trashy yes that one is true
* twerking is silly, hopefully she hasn't done it too often
* if she doens't want kids she is worthless
* yes music with poor morals indicates bad morals
* dyed hair and nose rings are a bad sign yes
* cats are ok...1 or 2.
*alcohol is fine, weed is not fine

[Sirenboobzilla]

Let's see:
I'm an atheist. I can twerk. I've had blue and purple hair before. I can drink like a sailor and smoke on the rare occasion.

I do love steak. I love to bake. I've always had long hair. Own plenty of sun dresses. I love tea.

Do with that as you will

[Kaneki05]

Sounds pretty good :)