Poll- Should I breakup with this guy? Would you break up with a guy if he don’t meet family in 5-6 months?

[Sugar100]

I’m seeing a guy long distance 5 months now. We met second time 2 wks ago. People say a guy needs meet family by 6 months.
I want visit this guy at state he lives August and meet his family. But I feel he’ll never ask me to meet his family. I’m not even sure if I’m his girlfriend as he never asked me to be his girlfriend. So all day I’m confused if he’s my boyfriend or not. I also never had a guy ask me to be his girlfriend so I just assume in my head a guys my boyfriend.

I don’t want continue seeing this guy Sep to Dec and I show up alone to the family parties and Christmas show up alone, while my whole family show up with their boyfriend 😔 it’ll mean I’m single. And my boyfriend a ghost.

im sad becuase I really liked this guy and we have a lot in common.

but there’s no point have sex with this guy all year and never progress relationship. I’ll just feel like I’m not a girlfriend 😔 it’ll be same situation like ex guy I dated 7 years and we never met family and he use me for sex

Yes

No

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Yeah, this is confusing.. 🤔 Did he ever ask you or told you that you are in a relationship? :)

[Sugar100]

No no guy has ever asked be to be his girlfriend. I just get guys that act like a boyfriend sorta but we never do anything serious 😞

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

For me, considering this has been going for many months.. it's time to break up if it's not going anywhere. But I suggest telling him and opening up to him about how you feel. He might just find a solution, if he really wanna fight for you. ❤️

[Sugar100]

How do I breakup and say how I feel? What do I say?

[Sugar100]

I wanted meet him for third time in 3 wks and spend more time together. But I’m feeling depresed now as since I would visit his state I would love to meet family August but since this will never happen, what’s point meet him Sep to Dec?

What I’ll tell family at party Sep to dec? I have a boyfriend and he never shows up to the party and he’s a ghost? Imaginary boyfriend?

[Sugar100]

He’ll tell family Sep to Dec he’s single no girlfriend and I don’t exist in his life?

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

I see. How do you feel about him? Is he a good man and treats you right? Are you communicating often?

[Sugar100]

Yes he’s first guy treat me good. But I’m feeling depresed as I feel I’ll never meet his family. I’m confused if I tell famkly if he’s my boyfriend or not. 😞 Sep to Dec holidays he’ll tell his family he’s single and I don’t exist as I never meet them?

I don’t want hav sex Sep to dec and that’s it never orogress. I’ve already been used before for sex. And guy never asked for be his girlfriend and I thought he was my boyfriend but no he told everyone he’s single and hide me deny pic with me 😔

[Sugar100]

This guy did take pic with me wen we met. But I’m still depesed now

[Sugar100]

Even tho we have met 2x only i feel August I shud meet family. That will feel like a real relationship but if not then what’s point meet him? Sex isn’t a relationship.

[Sugar100]

He’s very quiet in real life, he don’t text much unless I text first , he never says wyd? He’s not like that. He’s always working full time.

Can’t hav casual conversation with him.

[Sugar100]

He only texts me all day if I’m in the same state as him.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Geez. He told everyone he's single and hide you? 🤯 Yes girl, it's time to break up. You'll find a real man who will treat you better than that.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Exactly. Sex doesn't equal to love. He's the only one benefiting from this. Us women, we want commitment. We crave real intimacy, and intimacy doesn't always mean sex. If he really is serious, he should make efforts and not just sex.

[Sugar100]

No I meant the last guy my ex. Not this new guy lol

[Sugar100]

I meant the last guy my ex he tell everyone he’s single and hide me deny pics with me.

This new guy we did take a pic with me but I’m scared same thing will happen and we never progress never meet family.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Ooooh okay, I see.. the new guy makes effort? Like initiates a conversation with you? 😊

I will suggest that you just have to tell him how you feel first, that you don't feel like he's serious. Do not be afraid to say what you really feel. Who knows, maybe communication is the only key. 💗

[Sugar100]

No the last guy that used me for sex he would iniitate conversation with me, this new guy is very quiet in text and in real life don’t talk at all much, he never initiate convo unless I do it

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Maybe tell him what you think about it? Like, "Hey baby, I feel like you don't like me that much.. because I always initiate our conversations. 🥺"

[Sugar100]

Okay. But I don't know what’s going on rn. It’s 3 days he’s not replying back to me. I’m very worried and confused y he’s ignoring me

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Was he online, or seen it already?

[Sugar100]

No he hasn’t seen it yet

[shortster]

Unless there is a valid excuse, like you live far away, meeting the family should happen at 2-3 months.

[Sugar100]

He lives in another state

[Sugar100]

Maybe I’m not even his girlfriend 😞 I shud just try dump myslef 😞 and breakup with him 😞

[shortster]

Have you met him?

[Sugar100]

2x we just met 2nd time 2 wks ago

[shortster]

I don't know if you have a relationship with him. Maybe just a textationship. Have you talked about being exclusive with him?

[Sugar100]

I want maybe meet him aagin in 3 wks. But I’m sad cuz I feel I’ll never meet his family and I’m becoming insecure 😞 Sep to Dec I just tell everyone I have no boyfriend? And family never see him at a party? I don’t do friends with benefits 😞 I won’t have sex forever with him either that’s not a boyfriend

[Sugar100]

How do u talk about being exclusive with someone? What do u say?

[Sugar100]

I neevr get postive response from guys , I always get im not looking for relationship rn , I don’t want a girlfriend 😞

[shortster]

"I want to discuss what we have." Or "I want to become official." Or you could try "I want to become exclusive."

[shortster]

If somebody tells you that then cut them off and move on to the next person.

[Sugar100]

Everyone tells me that , which is y I cannot get a boyfriend

[Sugar100]

Even if we r long distance , I feel I deserve meet family if I visit him August for a wk. It makes no sense meet him to his state and we don’t meet family. Then Sep to Dec I’m alone and family confused if I have boyfriend or not and neevr see him 😞

[shortster]

You must be looking at the wrong guys.

[shortster]

For a week? Are you staying at his place?

[Sugar100]

Even ugly guys don’t want a girlfriend 😞

[Sugar100]

No I can’t stay at his place , as he lives with a brother and wife. 😓

[shortster]

Okay, well you should be able to get him to at least agree to be your boyfriend if you visit him for a week.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You've met him twice. You wouldn't have met my family after that either.

[Sugar100]

What if we never meet family coming months years? I dated one guy 7 years and we never met family I don’t want be used again what do I do 😞

[BoopBoopBeep]

You're not dating him. You met twice. You meet the family when you're important.

[Sugar100]

How many times u need meet to be a girlfriend? I dated one guy in past 7 years and he deny meet family 😞

[Sugar100]

I don’t want friends with benefits. I want a boyfriend 😔

[BoopBoopBeep]

Could be a dozen, could be a hundred, but not til after you talk about it and decide you're a couple. I've casually dated women for years and I've made someone my girlfriend after five dates, it just depends.

[Sugar100]

It’s not fair only men can decide if they want make a girl his girlfriend or not 😞

[Sugar100]

I wish I cud be a guy and ask girl

[Sugar100]

I’ve never had guy ask to be his girlfriend 😞

[Sugar100]

I dated one guy 7 years and I thought he was my boyfriend but no he tell everyone he’s single 😓

[Sugar100]

That’s y I want dump new guy I won’t hav sex all year or 1-20 years & be confused if I’m his girlfriend or not , I don’t want friends with benefits I want a relationship. He neee ask to be his girlfriend or I won’t hav sex with him ever again

[Anonymous]

No, family is not that important once you reach adult age.

[Sugar100]

Why it’s not important?

[Sugar100]

When I show up to my family party, everyone will be there with her boyfriend and me alone and everyone will know I’m single.

[Sugar100]

A boyfriend shud meet family.

[Sugar100]

Would that be friends with benefits if a guy neebr meets family? And u spend Christmas alone, spend all parties alone and ur boyfriend never shows up with u?

[MrGSpotHer]

I'm confused you keep saying you don't have a boyfriend and have never experienced anything like it don't you?

[Sugar100]

I’ve never met family , never held a guys hand, never had a real boyfriend

[MrGSpotHer]

So how can you finish with someone who's just a friend? I'm confused 😕

[Sugar100]

Wdym finish?

[Sugar100]

Guys treat me like thier girlfriend but never say I’m his girlfriend so I’m Always sad n confused 😞

[MrGSpotHer]

I might be wrong but I don't believe you anymore sorry

[art84]

You should only meet with family of guy if you are both girlfriend/boyfriend and official.

[Sugar100]

I don't know if we r boyfriend girlfriend. 😔 I shud breakup with him because I want a boyfriend. We can’t continue see each other if we aren’t offical couple

[art84]

Then break up if you can't continue to see him.

[Sugar100]

I don't know y people are voting no I shouldn’t break up with him. As me talking saying I want be officla won't give me any positive outcome , I’ll be rejected like always and never have a first boyfriend, that’s why I’m thinking to breakup myslef with him. To avoid rejection.

[ConfinedSoul]

You should break up with him not because he's at fault, but because you're a headache, so do him a favor and break up with him.