Should I give him a chance?

[Anonymous]

I’m turning 30 this yearS i come from a culture that thinks a 30 year old woman is ”spinster”. We also get married quite young.

i feel like many guys in my age group are already married or if not they’re low life etc.

a guy who’s 32 is interested in me. He’s studying engineering. He has one year left his studies. He’a also tall like 6’4 or 6’5.

The things that made me apprehensive is that he’s to be married and has multiple kids (4 kids). They live in another country with their mom (maleysia). We live now in Europe. We’re both from maleysia.

should I give him a chance?

[DishLady]

(1) If you put that "lowlife" mentality in your mind then the only folks your age who you'll see will be like that.

(2) You haven't "met a guy" if he's going to be married and has 4 kids... WHAT KIND OF CHANCE do you think you're going to give him? Don't be ridiculous.

[Asker]

There was a typo in my text. He’s
Divorced.

[Skinhead-1979]

I have a very good, Facebook, Friend who is from Malaysia (Ipoh). I don't know how things work in your culture.

I would say 'no', simply because he is about to get married and has 4 kids... but if that's not an issue...

[Asker]

There was a typo in my text. He’s
Divorced.

[Skinhead-1979]

If you don't mind raising someone else's child... Go for it 😉

I have raised a girl who's not biologically mine from the age of 1 till about 13/ 14... to me, that she isn't biologically mine, makes no difference. I love her just as much as my biological son.

The only reason why she, same as my son, is not in my life is because it is dangerous to be close to my ex for me; she's been emotionally abusive and has caused me to become suicidal. Naturally I don't really want to die, yet, and I have to stay available for my kids when/ if some day they'll come looking for me.

Just an, I'd say, good example of how I feel about 'my' daughter: I have had my son and MY DAUGHTER's names tattooed on my forearms; I'd say that this is a clear sign that they both means exactly the same to me 😊

[Asker]

Kids are dealbreaker to me and that’s why I cut things off with him

[Skinhead-1979]

Ok, but then the concern has been 'dealt' with already 😉

[Staximus]

Give him a chance if you're an idiot and you want him to get you pregnant and leave the country like he did with his last girlfriend

[Anonymous]

What kind of backward culture is this?

[Asker]

Well were muslims and it’s highly recommended to get married early. What fo you think?

[noohair]

Is he divorced?

[Asker]

Yes he is

[noohair]

What is your goal?

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Asker]

What?