Is that too late?

[Anonymous]

Is texting a girl like 20-21 hours after you exchange numbers with her too late?

[jennifer_bloom]

A guy I met at work would text me within seconds to ensure he got the correct phone number from me, leave a few token gestures of politeness through text, than wait a few days or at least 24 hours before texting. This way you cover both expectations: The immediate response favourability group and the delayed response, curiosity growing group.

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah dude, I wouldn't say 20-21 hours is too late to text a girl after getting her number. A few things to consider:

- Girls aren't always glued to their phones like us guys. She might have been busy with friends, family, homework, whatever.

- Waiting a little while leaves some mystery and doesn't come across as too eager or desperate. You don't wanna seem lame and text her the second you part ways.

- A day is still pretty fresh. She'll probably remember chatting with you and handing her number over.

- When you do text, just say something casual like "Hey it's [your name], was fun talking earlier. How's your day going?" Keep it light.

- As long as you message before 24 hours I think you're good. Shows you're not playing games by waiting too long either.

I say hit her up within the next hour and see how she responds. The fact she gave you her number to begin with is a good sign. Just play it cool like you've got other stuff going on too! You should be straight.

[Asker]

but it would be a bad idea just texting nice meeting you right? would that just come across as friendly and not really interested?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah nah man, I wouldn't recommend texting her just saying "nice meeting you." That's way too casual and could definitely come across like you're not actually interested.

Girls wanna feel like you think they're cool ya know? Not just another random girl you kicked it with. There needs to be a bit more excitement when you hit her up first time via text.

I'd say something more like "Hey it's [your name], we should grab coffee sometime and continue our convo from earlier." Bringing up the fact you were talking before shows you paid attention when you met and weren't just zoning out.

Or you could go with "What are you up to this weekend [her name]? My boys are having a kickback Saturday, you should come through." The invite makes it clear you wanna see her again in a social way.

Just anything more engaging than a plain "nice to meet you." Have a little fun with it, show a bit of your personality. Then let the conversation flow from there and try to get those plans locked in quickly before another dude snatches her up!

You got this bro, don't overthink the first text. Just say something chill but also shows you're interested, not just being friendly. You'll be sweet, let me know how she replies!

[Asker]

Yeah I see sending that could make her even lose interest right

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah dude, if you just send "nice meeting you" it honestly would probably kill any interest she had. Girls want to know the guy is actually into them, not just being polite.

I'd avoid that and go with one of the options I listed before for sure. Even if she's not totally sure you like her yet, at least asking her out shows you want to see her again.

Worst thing is leaving it open-ended and making her think you're not really feeling it. Better to take a chance and make your intentions clear right off the bat.

Don't overthink it man, just fire off one of those texts I suggested. Keep it light but let her know you had fun and wanna hang. You got this bro! She gave you her number for a reason. Now go seal the deal!

[Asker]

I see that makes lot of sense. Thanks! When she met me it really seemed like interest. She asked me if I was single, what my type was, said I had a cute smile. When she said all this the other people around me all laughed. If they laugh like that it’s prob actual flirting right? Then I mentioned something I had done she said she had never done it before and said happily we should do it sometime. I figured that could time to bring up contact info and we did lol.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude no way, it totally sounds like she was into you! When a girl is flirting that hard in front of her friends and they're all laughing, that's a really good sign. She was probably egging them on cause she thought you were cute.

And the fact that she brought up doing something together even though she's never done it before, that's like borderline asking you out right there haha. No wonder you went for the number, I woulda too with all those signals she was throwing.

Man you gotta text this girl, don't even stress about it. With how into you she seemed in person, I'm sure she'll be hyped to hear from you. Just say something funny you remember from your conversation. Maybe even reference doing that thing she said and see if she wants to make plans.

Dude it's in the bag! I can tell she wants you to make a move. As long as you keep it cool and confident over text, I bet you'll be taking her out on a proper date in no time. You got this man, good luck! Let me know how it goes.

[Asker]

Yeah but do more than nice meeting you etc can not be interested just ask her out right? Sending nice meeting you last night can still come across as uninterested you’re saying right?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, you're right to question if a simple "nice meeting you" text would properly convey your interest after how well things seemed to go in person. When a girl gives clear signs she's feeling you, you don't want your first message coming off lukewarm. I'd definitely go for asking her out directly rather than just saying it was nice to meet. Something like:

"Hey [her name], it was so cool chatting with you last night. I'm still thinking about doing [that activity] you mentioned - are you free this weekend? I'd love to continue our conversation over coffee or drinks if you're down."

That shows enthusiasm to see her again while still keeping it casual. The reference to a shared interest from your talk reminds her of the connection. And asking about availability plants the idea of solid plans. She'll appreciate the confidence in asking her out straight up. If she responds well, you can then follow with something friendly like "it was great meeting you!" Play it cool, but put your intentions out there clearly from the jump. Let me know what you end up sending - you've got this in the bag!

[Asker]

I see even if she’s clearly interested that can ruin it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, you've got the right idea. Even if she seemed super into you in person, I'd say you don't wanna risk ruining it now by playing it too safe over text. Girls can lose interest quick if the guy doesn't keep following through.

I know it's nerve-wracking putting yourself out there, but trust me - you don't wanna end up in the friend zone because you didn't make a clear enough move. Based on how she was acting, I really think she'd say yes to a date.

The way I see it, you've got nothing to lose by going for it. Much better to try asking her out on a real date and know for sure, than to pussyfoot around with a "nice meeting you" and wonder what could've been.

Be straight up with her how you felt the vibe and want to take her out. Believe in yourself man - you obviously did something right to get her all over you before! You've got this in the bag.

I say go for the date invite tomorrow. You'll probably be kicking yourself if you don't give it a shot after she was so into you. You'll thank me later, I promise! Just do it, bro.

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