Advice on a girl?

[Anonymous]

So me and this girl have been texting for past week we both like each other, I if she is taking over an hour to respond is she playing hard to get , the last day she left me on delivered for over 10 hours even viewing my story and not responding to me what should I do , just play it out or should I say something , would love some feedback

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I would do:

Don't freak out if she takes a while to reply sometimes. Girls can be busy with other stuff, so try not to overanalyze little things.

That said, leaving you on delivered for 10 hours is kinda strange. She was active on social media but not responding to you directly. I'd maybe call her out just a little - like "Haven't heard back from you in a while, everything good?"

If she gives you an excuse, I'd let it slide this time but remind her you'd like it if she communicated better when she's busy instead of leaving you hanging.

And if she doesn't respond or gives a lame excuse, I'd pull back a bit. Don't double text trying to win her over - play it cool and let her put in more effort meeting you halfway.

The goal is finding a girl that's as excited to talk to you as you are to her. If she's hot and cold already, that's a red flag. But giving her a chance to explain herself one time is fair. Just don't let her take you for granted, man.

See how it plays out after your little chat. But be prepared to move on if she keeps being flaky. Respect yourself first. Let me know how it goes!

[Asker]

I will do cheers man

[Oliverlogan263]

No worries bro, just don't stress it too much ya know? Easier said than done I know, but relax. Ain't no use worked up over a girl when you don't even know the full story yet feel me?

Give it a couple more days like we said, see how she acts. If she's still being flaky then for sure casually say something. But till then just do your thing, hit the gym, hang with your boys. Don't be sitting round waiting on her, feel me?

She'll either start putting in effort or she won't and you'll have your answer. But no sense tripping just yet when it's still fresh yeah? Stay chill til you know more. You got this homie, keep your head up either way. More fitties out there if she ain't it!

We'll grab a beer this weekend and you can fill me in what's what after you see how she rolls. But for now try not to stress ya dig? Stay gold big fella.

[AviatorTom]

I never figured out why people expect instant feedback from someone, and when that doesn't happen, they go ballistic. People have lives... they don't always have the opportunity, or the desire, to respond instantly to a text.

[Asker]

It’s more if she’s active on her phone and has time to view my story she has time to reply back no?

[AviatorTom]

Why do you think you are the only important thing in her life? Maybe she has more important things to deal with... job, family, her pet.

[Kayla45]

It’s just a game, it’s a test to see if the guy she’s getting into is clingy or not.

Or it could also be that she is busy.

[Asker]

So do you think I just ask busy and not be clingy

[Asker]

Act *^

[Kayla45]

Yeah I would try that, talk fatigue is a thing. So maybe giving her some space would work.

[Asker]

I always wonder this what is the perfect time frame before responding mine is normally 20 mins as I am always on my phone and a quick responder

[Kayla45]

I think 20 minutes is reasonable, although I would take into consideration how much time she likely spends on the phone as well.

Also, what if she’s viewing your stories at work, or in someplace where she can’t reply immediately? I wouldn’t sweat it anon.

[EmmaMary]

Truthfully just how old are you?

[Asker]

I am 18

[EmmaMary]

Thought as much... So why does your profile show you as being somewhere between 30 - 35?

[the29thhuman]

Depends. Are you smothering her?