Does rejection motivate you or cause psychological depression?

[Enes38]

Have you ever been rejected? How do you feel after rejection?
For example, are you trying to win the favor of the person who rejected you, or are you starting to have a breakdown?

[TonyV]

It depends not all rejection is equal, like if come across a handful of white women who have rejected me cause they have a black or Hispanic fetish, that didn't motivate me cause 1 I'm not a self hating white ans 2 no about of work would make me black anyways so it was just whatever.

Some girls rejected me cause I don't have an iPhone, again whatever, I'm not spending 6 times the money on some overhyped piece of shit that bends in your pocket to impress a materialist mid girl.

You want to get in better shape to get hotter women go ahead, I tried that for a while but honestly when you get the different attention just cause you lost weight it don't even feel great, cause all you've done is gotten the shallow girls to talk to you, they still don't care about you they just think you look good now, like a slab of meat.

Point is you'll eventually realize hotter dosent mean better, find you a nice, generous and caring 4,5 or 6 that appreciates you.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Neither. I wasn't the right guy for that girl. That's the beginning middle and end of it.

Could I have gotten her if I was in better shape or dressed nicer or had more charisma? Sure. But I'm already out of most of these woman's league and I'm happy with who I am regardless of how much self improvement I feel like I need.

And sometimes it's not even about being in or out someone's league. Maybe she can tell just off simple clues you're not compatible. Woman are good at that sort of thing.

[DishLady]

What do you mean “motivate you”? (Motivate what?) No, when rejection hits normally I just move on unless the guy is a creep who insists on dragging things out… then there’s some lingering back and forth, but ultimately if friendship or cordiality can’t be established you have to be strong, recognize the person isn’t worth your time and effort, and keep moving.

[Enes38]

No, it's not because I was rejected, it just came to my mind and I'm not in a position to be rejected because I don't mess with anyone.

[jennifer_bloom]

Rejection doesn't hurt at all - it's the time where you don't know whether you will be accepted or not - that hurts.

[Enes38]

But wouldn't it make you feel ugly?

[jennifer_bloom]

No. It does not make me feel ugly at all.

[Enes38]

I meant when I was rejected.

[Account]

I haven't experienced rejection when it comes to dating, but I have failed in some other aspects, weirdly enough, I got motivated by it. I didn't even expect it from me.

[Enes38]

It's great to be motivated because it leads to success.

[Anonymous]

Neither. It prompts me to move on. I give a woman one chance. After that I'm done. It only makes me angry if she led me on. But it's very hard for a woman to trick me like this anymore. You get to an age where you've seen just about every game a woman has in her bag.

There's no sense getting upset at rejection unless you were gamed. Because feelings that people have are personal to that person, on both sides. They most the time have NOTHING to do with you. It is WE that make them about us. When a woman rejects you she's most of the time not really rejecting you. Rather she's rejecting her PERCEPTION of you. Which most the time is wrong. a lot of time she never took the time to know you.

I can't tell you how many women have rejected me and later came back and tried to get me to ask her out. And I told her to kick rocks. Because as I said "I give a woman one chance". If she blows it, that's on her.

[PeachyPie93]

I have been rejected I usually get pretty depressed by it, like I will feel I'm not good enough. I have tried to win over people who are mean to me and it usually works but I would never do that for someone who rejected me romantically, I'd just move on.

[Purpleronnie]

For me it’s hard to see how rejection could motivate me at least on a personal level. Sure rejection of an idea in a professional sense may make me work harder to a certain extent to make the next idea better. It’s unlikely to cause me to be depressed though. I didn’t get to where I am in my life by taking any rejection so hard it would cause me to feel depressed. I generally take a pause , reflect what I could have done differently as a learning if there is anything and then move on !

[alfamale123]

Rejection is nothing special. It is everyday thing for guys. Never happens that all people likee you. There can also be other reason for example beeing taken, having other issues or just not in the right mood. So... dont stop because of rejection... go out talk to girls during the day and during the night, you will get rejected a lot but trust me even if they reject you they see you as a brave man.

[art84]

I remember when a girl rejected me saying she would never go out with me and didn't like me. Granted it made me hate that I couldn't have her. But I wasn't her type so couldn't do anything to fix what she was attracted to.

[LiamJHayden]

Rejection is part of life. I just accept it and move on.

[TheWombRaider]

Does an erection motivate you to have a psychological impressions

[noohair]

It is like a kick in the balls but I recover and move on.

[SugarSugarplum]

Two things can be true.

[Enes38]

What are these two things

[SugarSugarplum]

Rejection can cause you to feel depressed, which can them motivate you.

[Enes38]

Okay

[Juxtapose]

It motivates me to get that hell away from them. That's about it.

[grega239]

I have depression.

[Anonymous]

No, it completely makes me depressed.

[In_Trance]

Neither

[Enes38]

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