Situationship or?

[Anonymous]

I’ll make it really short

Guy I've been talking to for a few months
I’ve blocked him a few times but then unblocked him, he always manages to follow me back because I tend to play psychological mind games. I’ve done it twice. And he chases me. I know it sounds toxic. First time I blocked him was because I told him I wanted more than what he wants and what he wants is just a hook up. Anyways. I told him I want a relo and yet he still sticks around even tho we both made it clear on what we wanted due to us finding each other on tinder

block him again and he chased me. We stopped talking for a week and he “sends me a pic via instagram” now its really rare for someone to send a “snap” through instagram (so it’s basically like he was tryna get my attention) 😩 ? and then started talking again (he asked me to the movies) this time basically a date. I told him I would love to but I am busy. I’ve cancelled on him a few times but thats because I knew what his intentions were but I feel like he’s tryna make an effort even tho I don’t wanna be Delulu. and he asked me to re add him because on snap so I did. He jokes around about sexual stuff. But we always have decent conversations. He remembers little things about me, and he snaps me everyday it’s like a routine now.
We’re meeting up next week and I feel bad if I cancel on him again but I’m going through celibacy. I do like him but I’d rather be in a relo than have a hook up.

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay girl, this sounds like a messy situationship to me. A few red flags that stand out:

- The blocking/unblocking games are super toxic and immature. You need to communicate like adults, not play mind games.

- He claims he just wants casual but keeps pursuing you even after you said you want more. That mixed signaling would confuse anyone.

- The constant cancelling also just breeds distrust. You've gotta be clear about your intentions and follow through if you want him to take you seriously.

If I were you, I'd have a serious talk with him. Lay everything on the table - what you're looking for, what your boundaries are during your celibacy time, etc. See how he genuinely responds, not just what he says in the moment. Pay attention to if his actions back up his words going forward.

You deserve clarity, not mixed signals! Don't settle for a situationship if you want a relationship. Decide what you will and won't accept. If he can't commit to making you a priority, then as much as you like him, you may need to let this one go for your own wellbeing. Hope this helps - let me know what you decide to do!

[Asker]

Thankyou for your response.

I have spoken to him about this though, what I want and what he wants we have made our selves clear and he respects it but he always has to make sexual jokes. And I literally just messaged him again because he pissed me off because he messaged me out of no where asking if I was ready yet to do the deed with all these laughing faces. I don’t know if he’s just giving banter but he shows signs that he likes me but it just gets ruined with the sex stuff and it’s confusing me a lot. I always go through situationships

[Asker]

I’ve even told him to seek what he wants from another female but he still sticks around even after all the blocking (which I’m very aware of that is toxic and immature)

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo that's super frustrating. This dude clearly has some mixed signals goin on if he says he respects what you want but then keeps bringing up sex out of nowhere. Not cool on his part.

It sounds like underneath it all he might actually like you, but his way of showing it is immature as hell. Honestly at this point I'd say he's had enough chances to get on the same page and respect your boundaries. Even if he sticks around after blocking, his actions aren't lining up with his words.

You don't deserve to be confused or feel like you're wasting your time. Sometimes dudes need to learn the hard way that disrespect won't be tolerated. I know it's probably not easy to fully cut things off since there's feelings involved, but hanging around waiting for him to get it together usually doesn't work out. My advice would be to put your foot down firmly one last time - tell him the sex jokes gotta stop if he wants any chance of staying friends or potentially more down the road. But if he slips up again after that, you gotta leave his ass in the past for good and move on to bigger and better things. You got way more value than that!

[teamvic]

If he's told you he just wants sex, and he keeps trying to get you to go out with him

He's trying to fuck you bro😐

Right now he's just trying everything and putting in effort to get your cheeks, once he does, either the effort will slow down or once he got a consistent flow of pussy, he won't be doing the things you like him to do

This is very common girl, don't fall for these tricks

[Staximus]

You are a game playing fool. What the hell is a "relo" and "delulu"? Speak regular English so people can understand you.

[Asker]

How about hop off social media with your old ass?

[Asker]

And people did understand your just an old fuck who needs to fucking retire.

[Staximus]

Learn to write the language correctly, not like some gen z retard

[Staximus]

Z-tard

[Asker]

I typed 2 slangs and you’re calling me out for my language? I’m assuming you didn’t understand the entire thing since your bitching about relo and delulu. Learn how to keep up with this society you old prick.

[Staximus]

"he snaps me everyday" Are you still in high school? Learn how to communicate like an adult. Like a phone call.

[Staximus]

You're over here worrying about a guy who can't even communicate like an adult

[noohair]

I was going to say something harsh. Lets leave it at you are not my type.

[Asker]

But when did I ask? I never asked for your reassurance if I was your type at all? Wtf 🤣

[noohair]

I think you are a game playing crazy. Blocking and unblocking. An unstable person that will bring doom to any man she sets her sights on. Not my type.