Situationship question?

[Anonymous]

Me and my friend have been going out for the past 2 years all of a sudden he’s saying I’m his girl but he doesn’t tell anyone and he’s always sharing about girls from his job how they talk and joke around but he said he’s not flirting that they come to him I’m like then why are you telling me all this what’s the reason and he’s like well I just want to show you I don’t keep secrets, I’ve tried to have sex with him 4 times he’s gone soft twice, and I’m just sad because I care about him I feel like he doesn’t care about me and he said he didn’t like chubby girls before and I changed that he always says I love you and I don't know I’m just confused so confused I long to have sex with him but I guess it’s never going to happen I mean other guys would pursue it right he doesn’t want to get a hotel or anything and we don’t live aline we live with our families so I guess he really doesn’t like me shoukd I cut him off or what the hell is he doing I just feel like I’ll never be good enough because im overweight? I just want to be happy what should I do

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're feeling confused and uncertain about the nature of your relationship with your friend, and that you're struggling with feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. It's important to remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and care in any relationship or interaction, and that your worth is not defined by your weight or physical appearance.

It's also important to communicate your feelings and expectations clearly in any relationship, but it's also important to respect the other person's boundaries and decisions. If you're feeling uncertain about your friend's intentions or behavior, it may be helpful to have an honest and open conversation with him about your concerns and expectations.

However, if you're feeling uncomfortable or disrespected in any way, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and to set clear boundaries around what you're comfortable with. Consider taking some time to reflect on your own needs and priorities, and to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional counselor if you're feeling overwhelmed or uncertain about the situation.

Remember that respectful and equitable relationships are based on mutual respect, trust, and communication, and involve a willingness to share responsibilities and support each other's goals and aspirations.

[In_Trance]

You need to have a conversation with him and get some resolution to these concerns you have

[Asker]

Yeah thank you

[PrettyPriya]

Sounds like you two have poor communication. That is a recipe for disaster in any relationship. You need to sit down and talk to him about the intimacy issues. If you have been going out for that long, how can you two not talk about this? Was the intimacy always an issue or just recently.

The reason I ask is because before you jump to conclusions that it has something to do with you, it could be medical related. You never know. He might be embarrassed to tell you that he has a problem. He may even be embarrassed to tell his doctor.

It also could be the reason he does not want to get a hotel room or do a getaway with you. I can imagine that is tough for a guy if they cannot perform in bed. My guess is the anxiety only compounds the problem.

So, before you overthink this and get yourself believing it is because of you, sit down and talk it out. You may find it is something else medical related, perhaps even depression could be a factor.

[Asker]

Great answer I appreciate the help

[PrettyPriya]

You are welcome and hope things work out.

[Avicenna]

Communicate more clearly with him about what you want and find out exactly what he wants

[strateguy632]

my opinion based on these details is move him to friend zone only meet for talking but instead find another person.

[Iron_Man]

That’s a friendship having sex I don’t think so