How important are looks? If they aren’t important then why turn someone down before getting to know them?

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thatkawaiiemogirly · Accepted Answer

Looks do matter to me. They have to have good vibes and a very good personality. And have same morals as me too. I don't give nobody a chance if they have bad vibes, no morals/lacking common sense, smell bad, and if they aren't physically attractive. I feel like it's okay if we don't find someone's face including body attractive. But we aren't supposed to be bullies and be mean and become their enemy. We should be loving towards people. And always be kind to others. I'm willing to be with someone who is "plain looking" which that definition means differently to everyone. For an example if someone has acne then they should be okay to date someone else with acne. If someone wears glasses then they should be okay dating someone with glasses. But to teach of their own. I always run across hypocrites and narcissist all of the time. But I don't based what I find attractive according to worldwide standards of beauty. What I find beautiful and attractive. Not everyone agrees. But I don't care if others don't agree because I don't want anyone to and everyone to agree anyways. And my feelings aren't hurt. Especially if they was to be my future potential partner. I was given a choice to choose one option of this world which is to be with someone what this world described "busted looking "but with amazing personality. Or a very hot melting physical looking person but horrible abusive personality. I would honestly choose to be single and why? Well I don't want to be fake and kiss someone and "make love" to someone you aren't attracted to. And I definitely don't want to kiss and make love to someone who is attractive but makes me feel horrible because of their bad toxic evil personality. I rather just be single. I'm not a superficial individual. But I do appreciate good looks. I'm willing to date someone who is average looking and above tbh. Even though I personally would rather be with someone above average.

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

There's a sliding scale. There has to be a tweak of potential. Which might grow depending on a number of factors. How well you vibe, personality, shared interest etc. Or a yes yes yes haha. Tho even the hottest dude is gonna be turned away if he's an asshole.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Looks are important for most people in the sense that they want to be at least somewhat physically attracted to their partner. Especially when it comes to sex... a guy has to get it up, ya know 😂

But they do not trump compatibility, unless you're looking for just a friends with benefits or one night stand.

If you're looking for a relationship, the most important thing is compatibility.

art84 · Accepted Answer

I knew a girl who was just average looking and dressed modesty though she had a bad temper so that ruined being with her. I think looks are important cause that is what attracts me to a person first. I wouldn't be with someone who I wasn't attracted to emotionally cause you are just hurting the person by using them.

AviatorTom · Answer

Initial attraction is almost always based on looks. Then, the attraction grows or wanes based on other things, including personality, intelligence and beliefs.

Caroline91 · Answer

I find true confidence the most attractive feature a man can have. When I was dating, if a man was confident, I would take a good look. Also, I like men who are interesting looking. That holds my attention and attracts me more than someone who has classic good looks.

JFilton · Answer

It's apart of our evolutionary lizard brain to simply find the most attractive while also finding partners to reproduce.

Of course fastforward to the 21st century and you find we can break that thinking if we open our minds and listen to others.

NathanDavis · Answer

they are not the MOST important... that's different from something not being important at all

there's a difference...

also, there's many, multiple reasons why someone just might say no thank you, even good looking people get turned down as well... and it had nothing to do with looks

Lliam · Answer

Looks are important to me. I wouldn't date someone that I didn't find physically attractive based on my personal preferences. I'm not competitive, though, in the sense of caring about the opinions of others.

As long as I find someone physically attractive, I will get to know them on a personal level to see if we are a match. In the end, things like personality, mannerisms, taste, sexuality, habits, lifestyle, and values are essential in continuing to pursue a relationship.

luvstoned4him · Answer

They are somewhat important when you factor in things like physical chemistry and attraction. Its not too high on my list but I do need to feel physically attracted to be able to have sex with them

4ngelic · Answer

i'd say they're important. most people won't date or fuck anyone they dont find at least somewhat bangable and watcheable. but it's not like you need to be a model or anything at all to find anyone

fonduegirl · Answer

Extremely important Don't let anybody tell you otherwise!  The good news is, personality is equally valued. For the good people out there, at least.  I reject people because I'm aromantic

itsannalee · Answer

First time when i see someone of course i will see their appearance. I’m not gonna lie about that. First appearance, after that personality.

Damaged00 · Answer

Looks aren't that important. Someone's personality and who they are can actually alter someone's attractiveness for me. People can get turned down for many other reasons than just looks.

Serkee · Answer

Looks really don't matter much to me. I've never turned someone down before, but women don't approach men very often, so it's pretty hard for men to show that..

Sunnysunny123 · Answer

Very important but i wouldn't go out with someone that is a 10 and has bad personality. I could never be with someone i don't find phisically attractive even if they have a very good personality.

Apple1996 · Answer

Everyone's different but looks aren't important to me. I've never turned down anyone before getting to know them

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Not very important to me. I'm more into a man's intelligence, as a sapiosexual. 🤓🙋🏻‍♀️

Pohjolan · Answer

Most important factor initially but less so in the long term.

Dou1994 · Answer

Looks matter. Especially if you plan on marrying someone and you have to wake up to them everyday? Yes! Looks matter and you have to be physically attracted to your partner. Though it is not the only thing that matters but it does matters.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Looks aren't the most important thing. I don't want to be seen in public with someone I'm embarrassed by because she's so ugly, but I'm much more concerned about her being obedient, not fat, and offering up good sex

DextroShade · Answer

If she doesn't pass the "boner test" it's a non-starter.

Tomisworthless · Answer

Very important all relationships start with physical attraction then you vet personality for compatibility

ZroKool · Answer

I think as you get older you become more open to getting to know people you may not be totally attracted to because you learn that the feelings you develop after that are much more powerful.

Counterclocking · Answer

Looks matter but they’re not everything that matters. For looks not to matter at all is totally BS.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I could already be attached. The lady could give off negative vibes.

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

Because you still have to have the initial attraction, which, is usually, how they look

Malwi93 · Answer

why must it be always about looks? people have things going on in their lives

lightbulb27 · Answer

Fear and issues w self.

ale2003 · Answer

they are pretty important

soe11 · Answer

Vital for me.

Deserter2 · Answer

I need a 6/10 woman at least

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