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Maybe Im just a wierdo since I seem to be the odd one out, however I just started looking for companionship recently, and have had less experience than most despite my age. My career doesn't allow me to become romantically involved with 90% of the ladies I meet, and my job also keeps me away from the dating scene due to being very busy. So my only real options have been date foreigners or risk internal relations issues. That being said when I imagine my ideal partner it would be more a set of values that Id desire. I want someone strong (my job keeps me fit so the gym is great bonding), emotionally sound, good with money (i make a good bit but gov work pays poorly lol), honesty (important for SO MANY REASONS), dependability and loyalty (again im not in the usa a lot), and lastly the looks (id say anyone above the lower 25th percentile is fine.) I have never minded plain or average women, evn girls slightly pudgey if thier frame supports it well. The thing is looks fade and in my mind that makes them just a fleeting bonus, I want a woman who is truley a lady (maybe im just a hopeless romantic and/or have to high of standards. I don't know) but the only that turns me off to the a potential partner is
1) felons-itd make my career difficult
2) narcissism or personality disorders
3) Animal abuse
4) having cheated on a previous partner
Those are my Only 'Absolute and immediate deal breakers'
There has to be physical attraction but she has to have a sweet and loving personality for me. She can a beautiful woman and still be a total bitch, looks aren't everything.
This question does not have measurable variables and two similar answers can give totally oposit meanings in reality.
If two people say that looks are important to them. What does that even mean. Will it mean they are thinking of Victoria secret model? or the Kardashians? Niki Mange? or the next door neighbor sweet heart?
Will they even be attracted to the same girl?
The answer is not in weather looks are important or not. You can conclude no results from that.
Your self esteem should not be impacted even if 99.9% of the male users said that they think looks are the most important thing. Because they're all are talking about different standards of beauty depending on what they precieve attractive.
So even within those 99.9% answers you will be attractive and beautiful to someone. So why wasting your energy, health, and confidence on those who will not be attracted to you! that makes no sense. You will not feel attracted to every boy on the street and they won't all be attracted to you. Just find someone who you both would enjoy each other.
After all you only need one to love.
Apologies for the spelling mistakes in advance I kinda wrote this in a rush. Have a good day 🌹
@alyssa11 I love your profile picture
True.
It is sexy (exciting) of Her. I noticed that very long time ago haha. Haven't seen her face but Ajust for fact she flashed her Tits before that paint on a wall makes my blood boil...😏willingness to bite, play with her^^haha😂
it tells me she is playful , very girly^^It makes me think she has cute cheaky smile too haha and that's veeeery adorable aspect of her personality-"hooops what I have just done! omg i just flassed my titties.. how naughty of me, I am bad girl. But inreality she is not feeling bad about the act.. coz she is little shameless"and it is very attractive😂!:)
This adds to my first comment about importance of looks.;)
Attitude is another aspect that shows on her Looks. and makes us feeeeel her more intensively!
It trigers urge to wanting approach her, but whether If I decide to pursue Her or not depends on...
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When I date somebody I date them because I like who they are on the inside everything about them on the inside their heart their soul the way they communicate the beauty in the heart the kindness being smart confident I really like that girl on the inside she's going to look good no matter what like they say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder a lot of guys want Miss Playboy a model type woman I just so it is beautiful on the inside I will also see the outside the beauty on the outside is just an extra bonus gift early when dating is it important to have a smile yes to look good yes with a smile
Use extremes for simplicity
The hottest girl I've ever seen I would definitely have to go up to talk to and see how it goes.
The ugliest girl I've ever seen would never even be considered.
Base level. If I can't get my dick up for her it's not going to work. I've met girls that were such good people that I wish I was attracted to them because everything else would check off. But sex matters. It really really does.
Full sincerity. When you think about your future partner. Don't you want them looking over at you in bed in the morning and think "damn, I get go be with that".
"Guys - how important is looks when it comes to dating?"
Extremely important, to the point of being non negotiable. No sexual attraction = no sex.
"Would you decide to pursue things with a girl just because you think she's beautiful?"
No, She would also need to meet other things like personality, intelligence, talent, hobbies, interests.
"Be honest, does it draw you more than personality does?"
No. it draws me about 70% less than personality does, but is still so important that it's a dealbreaker if not met.
"What do looks mean to you when dating?"
It just means a relatable best friend is more important than sex to me, but without sexual stuff, it's just a friend, not a relationship. And I want a relationship, and my generics decides what looks turn me on or off, and there isn't squat I can do to change that.
Personality very much matters to me. Having said that, there also needs to be some physical attraction. Personality (and if feelings develop), they can both very much enhance that attraction, but like a fire, there has to be the initial "spark" for something to be built on. If there's no physical attraction at all initially, it doesn't matter what her personality is like really. It can make me like her as a person (friend), but not romantically. But she certainly doesn't have to be a model either. There just has to be some attraction physically.
Looks draw my attention, just like anyone elses, but ultimately, beauty matters little. If someone is so fat or thin it undermines their health or obviously not making an effort to look good at all, that would discourage me. But relatively few women don't look good enough. Most are fine. What really gets me interested is virtue, moral convictions, life goals and interests. Looking better but being unreliable is useless to me.
Looks are critical in the early stages of dating, it's like road flares when deciding who to help on the road side. All women hit the wall however, so you need to have something more than that.
When deciding whether or not to start a conversation with someone, looks and how she carries herself are almost entirely what gets attention. Personality becomes the make or break after that point, because it'll determine whether or not she's worth pursuing from there. I suppose personality can be a factor before approaching, but that would be more for a coworker or somebody you have time to observe rather than someone you run into by chance.
I'd say 30-70. Looks are only about 30% important to me. Personality is 70% of the whole woman I'd be attracted to. Of course, with some women, I'm only like 90-95% attracted to their looks, because I either don't know the rest of their personality yet, or their personality doesn't interest me for dating (I'd only hypothetically want to sleep with them).
For me looks are important, but they are not the main key.
Looks are important to get me interested in her because if I don´t find her attractive I don´t spend time wanting to get to know her.
Also if I don´t find her attractive I´m not loyal to her.
But looking at my dating life I´m way pickier about character than about looks.
Well dating is off my books all females are banned from my life but answering your question with honesty
I think looks for me personally comes second first comes the intelligence, intelligence is big thing for me and I don't see that should rather meet someone who can endlessly go on about silly gossip
Looks are very important. I wouldn't bother dating a girl if I didn't find her physically attractive based on my own preferences. I'll say that my preferences have nothing to do with commercial versions of ideal beauty. I just need to be sexually attracted.
Once I decided to date a girl, though, personality would be very important. It would become more important than mere looks.
u never been the deciding factor for me, not the looks
looks are important yes, and they do matter, personally I take them as a sign of health and also confidence, hints to their personality... but I also consider them just first impressions... certain things do get my attention right away
but at the end of the day, to me is about the personality... that's what will really draw me into you and also keep me interested and intrigued for more
personality above anything else.
While someone pretty is nice to look at, if she doesn't have a personality that matches, then no.
There has to be something there after the physical attraction fades.
Great relationships are based on how you get along with each other.
Is this the person I really want to be with forever.
Beauty fades over time, then what do you have?
An average looking person that you do not want to be with.
Looks are important but her personality will always win because i seek for love and marriage which means if she's a beauty icon but her character and personality are sh*tty than NO THANKS but if she's average looking and she's golden from the inside than i'll date her and marry her without hesitation 😊
Whenever I saw a girl I wanted to date, what drew me to her? Well yes, her looks. Is she pretty? If so, do I think she'll talk to me? If she does, does she sound intelligent, (i. e. no valley girls.) If she has red hair that's a plus, how does she dress? Does she have a sense of humor? These are just a few of the factors I take into account when and if I see someone I want to date.
Looks mean everything to guys and girls - they won't date anyone who they don't see as attractive even if they match up with every other aspect of what they're looking for in a partner.
Some people aren't like that but for the majority that's how it goes - the majority of people are shallow and selfish unwilling to look beyond whats right in front of them
From my experience gorgeous girls with bad personality will only be attractive for a short period of time, but sweet and attractive personality is way more important when it comes to a serious relationship.
The physical liking - very,
But it does mostly come down to matching the cerebral head sizes (you know that 'what's your head size' question smart girls ask, meaning 'where your brain is' - to which dumb Hindu/gypsy idiots think 'penis head size' and send dick pics?)
The last girl I dated was gorgeous. She was also insane, she would get excited about everything all the time. It was a blast. She would get this mad look in her eyes when she would smile. All of that, her incredible looks and that insane smile. Just staring into her eyes during a smile would make me like her more. But other that she was a horrible girlfriend. Yes, it was worth it, no I wouldn't do it again if I had the option.
I have seen knockouts I couldn't stand to be around for more than 30 seconds and then there are girls I wasn't attracted to at first that won me over with a good personality.
I can't force anything with a girl that doesn't have a good personality. It's either there or it's not
Looks aren't what decide for me. I want you for you. I don't just hook up I need to know you first. Love is a very serious thing to me..
Well I have never dated, neither online nor in real so personally I cannot say anything. However, to answer your question it is highly subjective to each person, to each guy and as to how much importance they give to physical beauty and looks
If she is hot it will make me notice her. If she has a sour disposition it will get old pretty quick.
Looks are important in the initial attraction. A woman doesn't need to be beautiful, in fact too beautiful makes the guy think she's out of his league. But she should take c=good care of herself and look nice.
So long as you have a decent face and body and nice personality I'm fine. Couldn't really care less if you're a 7 or a 10. Especially if the 7 has a better personality. I'll take her anyday.
I don't care how glowing a woman's personality is. If I'm not attracted I'm not attracted. I wish more women would be honest about being the same way.
Now that doesn't mean I can't be won over by a woman's personality. I mean if a relationship lasts there has to be something there other than looks. Am I right?
You attraction is a funny thing though. Confidence can make all the difference.
Well, I won't deny the fact that they are important Miss, because they make the first impression but for a lasting relationship you need to know the person behind the face as well and find the connection between you two to make anything happen.
For me personally I don't care about someone's looks, I'm trying to see where your heart and brain are at in relation to the person you are regardless of your gender
Well, of course I notice her looks and good looks are a plus, but they're relatively unimportant to me. It takes a lot more than looks for me to want to date her.
Like I mentioned on several posts - beauty will make me attracted to you, personality will make me stay. Outer appearance is what you'll first see in a person.
Not so much. Looks do mean something like social status.
important enough that I'd have to be attract upon first glance but then again so is personality, and that takes a while to judge
I would personally say looks are slightly less important. Tho when it comes to online dating looks is what you will see first before learning about the person. They are important as it would be unfair to date someone your just not attracted to. In the same way it would be unfair. to date someone who's very attractive but you don't like there personality it's just setting up for failure.
They're not important to me, but they add a tiny bonus but I don't care. I care only about personality and if the person is shitty or not.
Personality is more important, but first impressions are very important as well and always come from looks. It’s best if she’s pretty enough to get my attention and has the right personality to keep me interested.
No personality is by far more important, but yeah looks does matter.
Personality: 8/10
Looks: 5/10
(In importance)
50% Looks
20% Low Mileage Womb
15% No kids
10% No psych issues
5% No exes, pets or former BFs in tow.
GaG is gonna say "NO. We want personality and blah "
In the real world, it's the top thing
She needs to be at least a 5 or more in looks for me to be interested, but her personality and compatibility needs to be an 8 or more.
Very importantant. Her Looks is everything that gives a hint about her personlity before she talks.
Very important. You don’t gotta be a ten despite all that
I would not pursue anything beyond a hookup with a beautiful girl if I didn't like her as a whole person. Even that would require at least a tolerable personality.
Everyone desires a good face , but most like to stay with good personalities and caring lovable people who would make them feel at home.
Comfortness over beauty.
Don't get me wrong looks doatter cause I have to be attracted to you but personality and intelligence mean so much more
I have a minimum threshold, if I can't honestly compliment her, that's a no. (How do I look in this? Garbage like always. Lolno)
After that, style/vibe is can draw me to/away from people, but that's about it.
I’m not gonna lie and say they don’t matter because they do but they aren’t the only factor in attraction.
Looks are important, but I wouldn't date someone just for their looks. If she doesn't meet the standards of what I'm looking for, then she's still disqualified, no matter how good she looks.
This is just simply the truth, when it comes to relationships, physical attraction I'd just as important as emotional connection. You have to be physically attracted to someone in order to connect with them.
Looks and being attracted to them is very important, but a bad personality will be a deal breaker.
They're important but not as much as you think. We're not like women where we have these high standards. A girl can be average looking and a lot of men will still want to date her. You by no means have to be a model.
If someone makes you feel good go for that.. (nots)
Looks don't play much of a role for me but aesthetic does, like the vibe the person gives off. So it would be more about their style than looks
Looks draws your attention... personality and wit and wisdom kept me coming back and also never wanting to leave.
Of course it’s her looks that gets my attention but it’s her inner spirit that keeps me interested
A girl with a wonderful personality means the most to me
Looks are a bit important when you don't know someone yet. Because I think a good first impression is always important. But that doesn't mean you have to be perfect or over the top. Just look confident and the rest will come
Looks are definitely important. It's the first impression you make on anyone who can see. But they definitely aren't everything
I've pursued all sorts of girls from those I thought were drop dead gorgeous to others I thought were plain.
Its' pretty important to me, she doesn't have to look like a movie star but she does have to look like eye candy to me tho
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