Is true love a guy you don’t like/love back?

[Sugar100]

The guys I see as the one don’t like me back. I love guys but guys don’t love me back. I think love is meeting family, being apart of guys family, trips together, living together, holidays together.
but the 2 guys I’ve been with and see as the one don’t do any of those things & i end up lonely depresed unfullfilled.
I’m always alone & never have a real boyfriend together with me as my companion following me all year living life together.

I met a guy im Not attracted to but he wants same things as me, a girlfriend, babies soon like I do, wife come home to daily, he’s the first guy I ever met out of 500 that want those things. So I’m thinking of forcing myself be with him as I can finally have a serious boyfriend & meet family at age 27 & age 28 pregnant & 29 finally have my first child 😔

but I thought true love was girl liking guy and guy likes her back? I never met a guy that I love that loves me back too and life is blissful no never 😞

[kylee2437]

No it is not. It is you settling for someone out of desperation for the rest, and personally that’s unfair to put someone in a position where the only reason why you are with them is for all the stuff that is more or less considered extra when being in a relationship. What happens if something happens to him, and he can’t give you all of those things would you even bother to stick around or would you leave?

[Sugar100]

But I’ve never met a guy that I love that loves me back. Guys I love don’t love me back. So I figured it just don’t exist for me find a guy that I love that loves me back.

I’m already 27 in few months. I spent my entire life alone working on mylsef and never met a guy that likes me back.

[Sugar100]

I just figured it only exist for some girls and not for me? I deserve be with someone that loves me but that I don’t like?

[Sugar100]

I’m ready have a first boyfriend and this is only guy willing. I met 500 guys and they only want sex so I’m exhausted. I’m very lonely

[Sugar100]

Maybe he's my person if he likes me and wants serious relationship?

[Sugar100]

Never met a guy that I like that’s willing finallt be my first boyfriend

[kylee2437]

I mean how about not expecting everything you mentioned to just happen and make it actively happen in your relationship? Relationships are work and you are right off the bat making assumptions that this man’s family just takes trips and such. It’s actually quite uncommon for family’s to continue taking trips like that at our age.

[Sugar100]

I’m not talking about man’s family trips, I’m saying me and my boyfriend take a 2 day trip together.

[Sugar100]

No I did that and it don’t work. The one guy that dated me 7 years deny meet family deny take pics deny marriage. He was a fuckboy

[Sugar100]

Then another guy I’m seeing he’s long distance but it’s 5 months and counting and he isn’t planing anything with me like all normal couples do, no dates , no meeting family , no planing ahead Christmas together cleebrate nothing

[Sugar100]

It’s better I dump him so he’s can’t use me for sex

[Sugar100]

That’s y I’m wondering if this new guy I don’t like is the one, as he’s first guy I ever met in my life to plan future with me like all couples do I think? It’s my first time we talk about living together in future, having baby, meeting family, I’ve never done this with any guy.

[hahahmm]

It doesn't really matter. What matters is if you both can agree to have the same or compatible boundaries. Personally, in today's world I wouldn't even think about getting married without knowing we have deep compatibility based on experiences together over time BUT that sort of knowing has to be built up over time. It's not like it will magically appear on day 1.

If you do things based on feelings you're going to have a very difficult life cause feelings come and go. For women the can come and go several times per day or based on very random things (from a male POV). It's like saying you only want to build a house if it's going to be sunny 365 days/year forever. Even if when you build your house it's sunny it's NOT going to stay that way.

[Berethor]

Life is not a hollywood movie, if you would not compromise you would likely end up alone.

[Sugar100]

Girl Benesth me getting mad , she don’t want me settle for guy I don’t like.

[Berethor]

She don't know how hard is for you to find a guy who will live together with you.

[hahahmm]

@berethor Correct about life.

[hahahmm]

@berethor The trick is to know what is non negotiable for you and what is not. People with low self esteem often get it wrong.

[DrPepper12]

Why would you compimise yourself for your goals? If anything alter your goals or be flexible about them

[Sugar100]

How am I compromising?

[DrPepper12]

By forcing yourself to be with him to meet your timeline!

[Enes38]

If you just knew what you wanted maybe you'd be happier

[Drewtate]

It's unrequited love.

[Anonymous]

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