I went on like 200 dates from girls I met online, rarely got a second date?

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This sure does bug me these days. It's not like I couldn't land the date, they just never wanted a second one. Then I find out they moved away and found some other dude right off the bat like it's nothing. 🙄 Or just find some other dude, not even move away.

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I guess the point that I'm getting at is that it's just odd. I think that's a lot of dates to not get any takers

[Oliverlogan263]

You know man, online dating can definitely be rough sometimes. It's easy for girls to have lots of options so I'm sure they go out with multiple guys all the time until they find one they really click with. Nothing wrong with that I guess, it's just the way it is.

A few thoughts on why you might not have gotten many second dates though:

- Your pics and profile could use an update maybe. Make sure they show your personality and interests clearly.

- On the dates, try asking more questions about her and listening. Girls like a guy who seems interested in learning about them.

- Suggest low key, fun date ideas. Something low pressure like coffee or a drink so there's less nerves.

- Don't talk too much about yourself right away. Let her talk and share too to get to know each other.

- Compliment her genuinely but don't lay it on too thick either. Subtle is better.

- Relax and have fun! If you seem stressed she might think you're high maintenance.

200 dates is a lot so don't get discouraged man. Online is a numbers game. Keep tweaking your profile and date approach based on feedback. You'll find someone eventually that clicks if you learn from each experience. Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

I understand you man. But know this this is common, for guys. And believe it or not this is common for women as well. Most people today simply do not give a 💩 about the other person, or what thier action or inaction says. Most people will take what they deem as the easiest path, which is to just ghost the other person.

My advice to you is look at the people in your circle. Your family, your close friends. They know you better than ANYONE. Better than this one woman who met you ONCE. They would be the better source of whether you're worthwhile or not.

So try not to let it get you down. Don't give these women's rejection of you more weight than you should.