Guy only wants to talk about sex, instead of getting to know me. Why is that?

[Anonymous]

I tried a dating app. Connected with a guy, we’ve spoken in the phone a few times, mostly text, and we finally met in person. Most of our text conversations are on the topic of sex. I think it’s weird that the only thing he asks/talks about is sex. He knows that I am waiting to have sex, and respects that. I asked why he hadn’t asked me other questions about myself, like basic get to know you questions (favorite movie, what do you do for fun etc). He says I answered all he wanted to know about me and those conversations are better had in person. This made no sense to me. But it’s a bit of a turn off that we are talking about only sexual topics. I’m not looking to have deep conversations, it could as simple as discussing a trending topic or tv show.

any advice or opinions on this?

[XHopelessRomanticX]

It’s not that hard to figure out. Guys love to talk about whatever things they are interested in whether it’s cars, sports, their jobs, family, etc. This guy is talking about what he is interested in, which is sex. Not you. If a guy is interested in you, he will want to talk about you.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he doesn’t want you to have value in his life

[Asker]

Can you further elaborate on that?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I am capable of explaining it. What do you want from interacting with him?

[Asker]

I guess if his goal is to find a wife I would assume you’d want to “know” more about her before asking for her hand, even if you have several options to chose from. What I’m trying to say is if I’m getting to know someone I’d want to know more about them including their interests. These will help me better know if we will get along etc

[BarryLiverstone]

He’s set the expectations that he’s looking for a wife and his future partner. So you wanted to talk to him and learn more about him. But his actions are not backing up his goals, so I’m wondering why you feel he’s on track with his goals and why you feel like he would value you?

[Asker]

🤔 ok I see your point now.

[BarryLiverstone]

Thanks

[Pterodon]

Because all he wants is your pussy

[Asker]

Even if I’d made my boundaries clear that I’m waiting for marriage to have sex? He definitely respected me with that and expressed not wanting to put ourselves in a situation that would make me uncomfortable

[Pterodon]

Yes even then. He thinks he can wear you down

[Asker]

Hmmm okay. I was beginning to wonder if that was his end goal.

[Asker]

That makes sense cause he would send me pics that were crazy but I told him this means nothing to me. He did say he was looking for a wife and I asked him what he was looking for in a wife/relationship and he couldn’t give me a straightforward answer but said he doesn’t want an easy woman and he respects that I’ve made clear boundaries. But with him keeping things surface level I was beginning to wonder does he just want to sleep with me and be my “first” experience. 🤔

[Pterodon]

You’re a virgin? Then most definitely yes