He (27m) said that he doesn’t want to see me if I’m (26f) seeing other men but he’s active on tinder. Is that fair?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been on one date, and he said that if I start going on dates with other men he won’t want to date me.

He asks me if I’m seeing anybody else and if there’s someone else.

He’s active on tinder and is clearly talking to other women.

This doesn’t seem fair?

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He’s denied using it even though tinder has said he’s active and he said he would just check notifications.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Just say that to him.

"I assume you put the same standard on yourself? If you want to be exclusive, then I'm onboard, but only if it's mutual for the both of us."

Or something along those lines.

If I dated someone who wanted me to be exclusive but he's could go out and date freely, I wouldn't want to be with him. That's a guy that is single at heart.
Or at the very least doesn't believe you're 'it' but hey, you might be a nice placeholder until the next good thing comes along.

[EmmaMary]

Fucking Hell... Not this old shite again surely. smh

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Firestar01]

Well, is it fair? Maybe no. But you also get to set boundaries.

It is his choice if he wants to talk to you if you were seeing others. I personally would not do that. I was asked to, and told the girl to fuck off.

You can do the same. It is within your rights to accept or decline these terms.

[itsannalee]

Just double standard, just run away!!! He is Asshole.

[Sam1133]

Wtf run away from him asap..
Controlling dick

[Danny_dan92]

Double standard