Can you win in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

A girl leaves you if your too nice, she also leaves you if she beats on you and you and calls you horrible names and you defend yourself

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Yeah I would get called horrible names and beat

[SueShe]

A relationship should never a matter of winning or losing. A relationship is a matter of equality and it applies to both genders and not just to the one or the other.

If a relationship is a competition, then this relationship will never work out and there will only be losers.

A person that leave the relationship because the person is too nice or too bad, then that person is not made to be in a relationship. Calling horrible names is a character trait of a toxic person and not someone that has a good character and personality. Those don't deserve to be in a relationship.

[Asker]

Yeah she would beat on me and call me names such as nuisance and bitch

[DishLady]

"Win" is the wrong mentality.

You pick a crazy, aggressive loser you get what you get.

Choose wisely, sensibly, and take your time picking the person you're committing to.

[Asker]

No so i understand win is not the goal i meant it in the sense of what do i have to do that works

[serious]

I am not sure what exactly are you trying to ask here? Yes a woman will leave a man if he is too nice, if he is only nice that is true

[Asker]

So im basically asking how to succeed she would leave if i was too nice she would leave if she best on me and called me horrible names if i stood up for myself so im not sure how to be or what to be it seems either way she would leave

[serious]

Well, then it could be no matter what type of guy you are, even if you are one of the best a woman can get she will still find some excuse/reason to leave. That means it does not have to do anything with you, nothing wrong with you but rather with the woman who leaves.

[AviatorTom]

Relationships are no contests, it's not about winning or losing. It's about caring and sharing.

[Asker]

No so i understand win is not the goal i meant it in the sense of what do i have to do that works

[Account]

It is not about winning.

[Asker]

No so i understand win is not the goal i meant it in the sense of what do i have to do that works

[NathanDavis]

relationships are not competitions...

[Asker]

No i understand that it’s win from a sense of what do I have to do right because it’s like I’m screwing up either way

[NathanDavis]

therapy is an option

[In_Trance]

I guess that depends on what the competition is