Girls, Is my girlfriend cheating on me or what is really happening?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I'd love to get some advice from girls with my situation.

What would you think and how would you feel if your boyfriend did the following:

Blocked you on Whatsapp with no explanation/reason and keep you like that for 9 months and counting. But he has all of your mutual friends and coworkers, it's just you who are blocked. Have you on Facebook not as a friend but as a follower. Then block and unblock you every few days. Follow you on TikTok and then 2 weeks later block you. You're still blocked one month and counting. Makes a new profile on Facebook, asks you to send him a friend request but doesn't accept you. "He forgot the password". Said he wasn't gonna use his old Facebook profile but yet, continues to post stuff on a daily basis. You have screenshots from friends who have him added.

So, basically you're blocked on every social media without you doing anything wrong. You asked him to be honest, if you did something wrong, ask for an explanation and avoids the subject. Or simply denies or doesn't take it seriously. One time saying his ex-girlfriend grabbed his phone and blocked you, then saying he lost his phone but miracolously got it back. But still, you're blocked 3 weeks after he got it back. Everytime he needs money or help you give it to him. No excuse, why? Because it's important to him.

All of this has been happening to me with my girlfriend. (M31 & F38) We have a year of relationship and I have the feeling that she's hiding something. She says social media isn't important to her, but for me it is. I've been cheated on before. Please, if I'm being toxic let me know. My gut is teelling me I'm the other, but she "swears" it's not true, yet she doesn't do anything to probe it.

Anyway, I hope you ladies can help me out with this one. Thank you for your time and for reading.

Updates

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She wants us to talk, so we can fix things. She says she loves me and is willing to do anything for me, but, What should I do? I don't want to check her phone. I just want the truth. I already told her, if she doesn't show me with actions that she loves me, I'm walking away. Please, help me.

[DishLady]

If a guy is messing with a girl like that the girl has the right to move on.

All this blocking and unblocking nonsense shows the guy is mentally unstable and messing with the girl for some shady reason of his own.

Anything she does after he's messed with her this way is none of his business bc his behavior is that of a psycho ex.

[Selene1600000]

You are not being toxic for thinking this behavior is strange because blocking only you, constantly changing stories, hiding social media access, and contacting you mostly when help or money is needed would make most people suspicious. Even if she is not cheating, this is still unhealthy behavior because a normal relationship does not involve months of secrecy, confusion, and making one partner feel hidden or excluded. Your gut is probably reacting less to social media itself and more to the fact that her actions and words do not match, so instead of trying harder to prove your worth, focus on whether this relationship is actually giving you trust, respect, and peace.

[luvstoned4him]

1. So this relationship seems to have run its course

2. No, you are fine actually and not the problem

3. Yes she is hiding something, moreover I think she has a whole other life (Double life and cheating)

4. She is using you = whether financial, for attention etc. = cut her off now

5. I'm sorry... blocked for 9 months?

if I didn't hear from my boyfriend in a week, its damn near over but 9 months is wild.

This relationship should've ended months ago