Is it hard to find love after 50?

Question

I'm legally separated, work 60-70 hours a week, attend church, hike, ride my bike, and am very independent with two grown sons. I tried online dating for a few weeks, but it didn't work out. For someone in their 50s, can you tell me if true love is still possible?

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

Heyy. Is it hard... YES. Is it impossible? No not at all. And it's not just a 50 Yr age thing. Women much younger than me have all been saying how impossible it is.

The dating apps are pretty awful. I have been on and off them and tried different approaches. Sometimes i get an excited buzz from a connection. But it doesn't last. Or something isn't right. Or they just never seem to take initiative to move the convo into a face to face. And I don't want to waste too much time online chatting. You can't tell if you vibe with someone online. I mean you can. But then in person it all falls apart.

Best thing to do is try to increase your social circles. Hobbies. That's going to be tough on your long working hours! Can you dial it back a bit? Would you even have time for a relationship?

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Ok, sweetie, so the thing about the ragtag apps is that you have to stay in it longer than just a few weeks if you’re serious about using them to find someone.

Next? All the apps stink anyway, more so at our age.

Next, you’re doing to many solo projects — even church is basically you and JC… Get out there, missy! Joins some groups (a hiking/biking/jogging group, a volunteer group, and so on) that get you engaged in activities that (1) showcase your natural talent and (2) gets you in front of guys who give a * about those talents.

Ok?

Chin up, stand tall, and go find your man.

strateguy632 · Accepted Answer

Love is possible but rare.

Men are rarely attracted to women over 40. Just younger it is instinct for survival.

Now "separated but a church goer" is gonna piss off both sides!

People at church usually oppose divorce they will consider you "still married" despite legal separation.

If you want someone not a church goer they are usualy not looking for a church goer. Nobody remains. Except anglicans?

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

yes I'd say it is, a fella out here just got married... quite a bit over 50. I know oethers that got married over 50 and dating, and one in his 60's dating a 3x yr old. It seems not easy to meet people, you have to get yourself out there, try some different things, talk to people everywhere.

Frankly, you could find a new wife and make more kids if you wanted to.

jewel · Answer

honestly, finding love after 50 feels almost impossible sometimes. Not saying it can’t happen, but the dating pool definitely shrinks, and with your packed schedule, it’s even tougher. People get set in their ways, and it can be hard to connect on a deeper level. Plus, online dating can be a mess at our age—lots of people not being real or just looking for something casual. Doesn’t mean you should give up, but I get why you feel like it’s impossible. Sometimes, focusing on yourself and the things you love might just be the best move.

hannah · Answer

It ain’t easy finding love after 50, but it's possible. You got life experience, independence, and a strong sense of self—big advantages. Keep doing things you love, stay open to new connections, maybe try different dating approaches. True love? Absolutely still possible!

josie · Answer

It isn’t impossible, but yeah, it’s got its challenges. You're juggling work, being independent, and staying active, which are all great things. You might meet someone through church, while biking, or even during one of those hikes. Being busy and independent can be attractive to the right person. You’re in a good spot to find something real, don’t stress too much.

Avicenna · Answer

It’s usually harder than in your 20s because your expectations are normally vastly different, particularly due to life experiences. I’d imagine it’s even harder for women because they outnumber men in that age cohort.
I think the fact you’re working so much is the biggest obstacle. Give it time, though- it’s not easy to meet people for a serious relationship, especially on dating apps.

slatyb · Answer

It's definitely possible but it helps to have a youthful appearance and to be physically active. Are you open to dating an older men, like 60-65? Keep in mind that women are a lot more active on church than men. If you are able, consider outdoor activity groups -- those are most single men. If you aren't able, you might want to work on that.

Anonymous · Answer

It's only possible with the guidance and favor of God and the Holy Kingdom. As you know, we live in a fallen world which is why most of the methods you try will fail. Apps are saturated with the fallen, demonized and lust crazed. If you want to find true love, you need to start with your Heavenly father and His Word.

Berethor · Answer

Yea it's very hard, as most men want young fertility women who don't have children.

Anonymous · Answer

It's possible but rare. By 50 a woman really can't manipulate a man anymore. Her sexual attractiveness has diminished and the men have seen about every game she's got in her repertoire. Add to this that if he really wanted to be in a relationship he most likely IS in one by now. So you're definitely fighting an uphill battle. by the way "separated" is a red flag🚩. A self respecting guys is going to avoid that on principle.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah its still very possible to find love. The problem is a lot of 50 year old men start dying so it limits your numbers of finding someone your own age

rosemilk · Answer

you sound like you have your life together, so i don't see why you wouldn't be able to find someone. just keep looking

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

It is hard, but it isn't impossible. I know there's a member on here who has a wife and they're a lot older. But not sure if they'd be ok with me tagging them or not.

HawkPerception · Answer

Possible at any age. My mom actually started dating again and found her new partner when she was 50 years old as well. She's been going solid 10 years ish

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

It is still possible. I have an auntie in her late fifties and get many admirers still. 😊 It is never too late.

dustybiker2 · Answer

No. Just be open and social.  There is a dating site called "our time". My neighbor found several genuine men on there to date.

Nerdvana · Answer

I don't know. I am in the exact same boat as you. So I get how you feel. I still want to enjoy life. Concerts, sporting events, comedy shows, etc. But it's been really hard to find someone to go on dates with. But I often feel like you do.

Staximus · Answer

You don't even have time for a proper relationship, why are you trying to find one? One day a week is not going to cut it. Don't work more than 40 hours and stop going to church and you'll have time.

Anonymous · Answer

Finding love after 50 is a different strategy. I suggest you step out of your comfort zone. Try something totally different. I got my motorcycle license at the age of 57. I have my own motorcycle. One of the best decisions I made. 🏍

serious · Answer

Well, it always is hard to find love. Irrespective of age.

handsomebradybreaker · Answer

Not always;octagenarians and even nonagenarians date and wed.

bowenw · Answer

It's possible at any age. Keep doing things where you will meet a lot of people.

noohair · Answer

Sometimes it can take more time to find that right person. Love is always possible. My experience is that older women don't seek out sex the way older men do. That will affect your journey.

exitseven · Answer

I would not say it is impossible but it is more challenging.

Dongie · Answer

Yes it is. Not from my own experience but from observing others. Especially for a female who has know love.  Good luck.

dudeinohio · Answer

Yes it absolutely is. I met my wife online 2 years ago.

Iron_Man · Answer

Anything is possible you’re not old stop being so negative

jahaims · Answer

A 50 year old lady that still works 60 a week is very unappealing.

CubaPirate · Answer

Yes but it will be worth it when you find it

Zoi1986 · Answer

No I dated women in their 50’s. After she was widowed.

justabuddy · Answer

It's hard to find love at any age. Options do get less the older you get though.

itsannalee · Answer

My dad is 64 and still got girlfriend 😂😂

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I haven't been able to find any since 2010.

SoJust · Answer

Easy love comes suddenly

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Yes, especially for women.

BeenThereBefore · Answer

Yes, my neighbor lady got married at 56.

Kelly6 · Answer

@Margaret hard yes, impossible no.

missindiana93 · Answer

Not really.

smurfwrangler · Answer

probably not

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