Loser men don’t want to hang out with me?

[Anonymous]

I met with guy from dating app, we have some conflict when we met. And after first date we stop talking. I was first who invited him. When we were having argument he stopped me and said we don’t fit each other. Turn out we were in one group with artist in our city. He constantly ask in that group if someone wants to hang out with him and nobody agree. I felt kinda shitty, cause even lonely loser men don’t want to hang out with me? That’s crazy. He was in dating app for something, but if he also wanted friend to hang out with why couldn’t with me? That’s insane cause he’s not even good looking guy

[Serkee]

You two had an argument after your first date and he said you two weren't a good fit. That's normal, you two didn't click, it's fine. And it sounds totally reasonable to me that he doesn't want to hang out with you after that, it would just be awkward. But that aside, take another look at what you just wrote. Just in complaining that he doesn't want to hang out with you, you insulted him twice, calling him ugly and a loser. Why in the world would he want to hang out with someone like you even if he were a loser? You don't sound like someone I'd want to be around either if you'd treat me like that as soon as I didn't do what you wanted.

[Asker]

Cause he started complaining about his ex girlfriend and that they asked him to treat them better while he was mad that only thing that they could offer him is sex in two weeks. And of course he wanted it from me and tried to told about it but not openly. But he still needed friends, why he couldn’t be my friend without asking something from me? So yes he’s lonely loser and I can’t understand why even shit like him didn’t want to hang out with me

[Asker]

I’m tired that even worse people don’t see me as worthy person and not respect me and don’t want to be my friend. I can’t understand why? I’m not that much ugly and not that much stupid, why no one likes me? He had shitty personality, he was short, he was broke, he’s face wasn’t handsome and still…

[Serkee]

Damn, now he's shit, has a shitty personality, is short, and broke? Again, sounds like he dodged a bullet by not hanging out with you. You're slinging insult after insult just because you feel entitled to his attention. You're looking down your nose at him and see him as lesser, I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who looked down on me like that.

[DishLady]

Why are you worried they don’t want to hang out with you if they’re actually losers?

[serious]

Yes that is strange actually.

[Asker]

Kissing outside?

[dudegreat91]

He definitely deserves better

[Asker]

I wouldn’t call him ugly loser if he didn’t start talk about sex on first date

[dudegreat91]

Probably you should have made it clear before the date that you want to take things slow. But yeah he should also have taken a clue on the date itself