Straight men don't want to be my friend?

[Anonymous]

Every time a guy finds out I don't see them romantically they don't want to be friends and just cut me off? This is weird considering I've seen plenty of straight guys have girls as friends no problem. What's wrong with me that they can't have a friendship with me without the hopes of romantic relationship? Like seriously I can't date everyone and I do want some straight guy friends but I will admit gay guys are sooo much fun and some of my best friends. What's the difference between me and other girls that straight men don't see me in a friendship way?

[OliverStunt]

When you're attracted to someone, friendship doesn't really cut it. You don't want the same thing.
Do not seek friends in guys who were interested in a relationship. Strong won't accept such friendship, weak will bleed out trying to turn it into romantoc relationship. And you might, even unconciously, turn into a puppeter-ette.

[Kuraj]

"This is weird considering I've seen plenty of straight guys have girls as friends no problem."

You have seen friendzoned guys or some kind of cucks, gays or asexuals.

[Asker]

Perhaps the the ones who have female friends don't find the female friends attractive?

[Kat_puppies]

if you ever text some men that flirt with you and you reject them ur an instant slut im not saying you are that's what those men be thinking

[Nerdking]

More so why linger around a woman/man who rejected you? Move on

[Kat_puppies]

@Nerdking ikr

[MisteryMe]

It's not that there's anything wrong with you. If there was something wrong with you, they wouldn't be interested in you in the first place. The big difference between you and other girls that guys seen in a strictly platonic manner is attraction. Now, as for why they make a habit of bailing on you...

Guys can be friends with girls they aren't attracted too. In fact, a lot of guys prefere female friends over male friends. However, a lot of guys don't do well being friends with women they're attracted to. Some guys just want sex, but a lot of guys, even though they might not openly admit it, are hurt too much by watching a woman they're attracted to be with someone else, or just not want to be with them. Also, while I'm answer this, I'll also say that I've known a lot of women who would get upset and walk away when a guy they had strong feelings for didn't reciprocate.

Here's a big issue that's at the heart of the matter (see what I did there :P): people simply don't care as much about people who are "just friends" as they do about their significant other. A lot of people would refute that because it makes them feel better about themselves, but it's true. I've seen it countless times... people are your bestie and want to hang out all the time until they meet someone that's a romantic interest to them. They might not completely disappear, but their buddy time is going to take a major hit because they want alone time with their new love interest.

With that being said, a lot of people feel less important/uncared for/not good enough when the person they're romantically interested in rejects their advances. It makes it hurt that much more when the person they're crushing on finds someone else they do care enough about to get intimately involved with. It's like a smack in the face... it feels like "that person is good enough for you, but I'm not." As many websites and people that would disagree with that, let's faces it: there is some truth there. If you aren't attracted to someone, they aren't desireable to you for some reason, although other people are... other people are more desireable than you.

Sorry, I know that was a little wordy, but it was a loaded question if you want a thourough answer :)

[WalterRadio]

You would be wasting their time.

Imagine a guy has to make a choice:

(A) A woman who is going to suck up a lot of his time, some of his money, and all of his ear and provide nothing in return.

(B) A woman who is happy to have sex with him.

Why in the word would any non-gay guy choose (A)?

I do have some female friends leftover from high school and college decades ago, but we see each other like every other year, so it isn't a noticeable drain.

[callbackCallibrator]

In an actual friendship though it wouldn't be A? They /would/ be getting something in return, that being whatever the fuck you get out if friendship with other guy friends too.

[WalterRadio]

@callbackCallibrator
What do you think the girl he is sleeping with would think about that?

[tehspaceshuttle]

They probably have romantic feelings for you and it's hard to be friends and watch you getting busy with other guys while they have feelings for you. Sometimes the lines blur and this is why most people don't want to speak up about it. Some guys will want to be your friend but foe true friendship they can't really be attracted to you. I feel this is the exception rather than the rule.

[hornejack]

Personally I find it hard to have male friends and I get a lot well with women without the desire for anything more than friendship. I think it just depends on the type of guy and the stereotype / trope that young guys are in these days

[PhenomenalPancake]

A lot of guys feel like a girl isn't worth their time if they aren't having sex with them or aren't in a relationship with them. It's nothing to do with you.

[OliverStunt]

Wut
What do you base it on? Sounds harsh, but I'm genuinely curious

[PhenomenalPancake]

I see this kind of thing all the time. A guy will try to get with a girl, and when she says she isn't interested, he'll stop talking to her since he doesn't feel like it's worth his time to keep talking to her.

[JSmuve]

"What's the difference between me and other girls that straight men don't see me in a friendship way?"

Because they see you in a romantic way. That's the difference. No great mystery.

[LegateLanius]

It's because many guys think that if you don't want them romantically, that being a friend of yours is some sort of consolation of some sort.

[Robbyboys]

The things if a guy wants you romantically then realizes they can't they'll just end it. It depends on the guy's goal when talking to you.

[Robbyboys]

My best friend is a female by the way

[lord_chilled]

wouldn't know. I basically treat most girls like this

[Danael31]

Can't judge the situation because I don't know you. So, wanna be my friend?

[Iron_Man]

We don't want friendship we want sex. Lol

[WTFliberals]

The other girls are sleeping with their friends !

[Anonymous]

why should they be your friend, they're STRAIGHT

[Nahid1234]

You’ll find him.