What’s his intentions?

[Anonymous]

I’m 41, he’s 27. We hooked up a few times but I wasn’t interested in a relationship at the time. We had some really great sex!!! A few months go by and we didn’t communicate at all. He begin texting me about 2 months before he was deployed in the Army. We talk almost every day and I now have developed some feelings. I wanna date him but he has a girlfriend now. He will send me TikTok’s about dating and we have conversations about it. But when he gets home is he really going to want to date me? Or am I just one he keeps close in case things don’t work out with him and his girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

More than likely you were just an older chick fetish. When I was 24 I was messing around w a lady who was 46. She sure taught me a lot, it was mind blowing, that’s what kept me coming back. I couldn’t see myself w her because she was 22 years older than me. Plus I was in the military myself. You know how many countries I went to? The number of women just throwing themselves at you? It was crazy. Like I said at that age being w an older chick is a turn on. She’s the reason why I like when a girl rides me, then gets off n proceeds to give me head. I keep in touch w her for a while cause I knew she’d always be up for it, but dating in. Serious relationship was never something I really considered.

[TaureanBull81]

Since you both started as FWBs and enjoyed some great casual sex together, it'll most likely remain that way if things don't work out with his girlfriend.

I doubt his girlfriend knows that he's chatting with you everyday.

[TaureanBull81]

Thanks for the upvote @chantillylace1212

[TaureanBull81]

Was he barebacking you?

[Asker]

We used condoms all but one time

[TaureanBull81]

Did you like it when you didn't use condoms the one time?

[TaureanBull81]

Thanks for the MHO 😄

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing that you're a back burner option, in case his current relationship goes south. I highly doubt he actually sees you as relationship material if all you did was have casual sex with him a few times. You will, however likely end up being a hookup option on stand by. Never, in my 37 years of life has a man who I had casual sex with in the past changed his mind and suddenly wanted a serious relationship with me. None of my female friends have experienced that either.

[Anonymous]

Are your standards really so low that you’d stoop to this? Helping a man cheat and then be in a relationship directly after? You would absolutely not receive any different treatment than her, and you’d never have peace of mind because you are seeing first hand that he’s a sneaky little cheater. I understand you’re older but my god, have some sort of standard. This is just degrading.

[Asker]

I think you missed the part where he was single while we were sleeping together. We have not slept together since he started dating his current girlfriend

[Asker]

I’ve told him that I ain’t interested in being his side piece

[Opinion Owner]

Cheating is not always physical but emotional too, and as of right now that’s what this is and you’re playing a hand. I did not miss the part where he was single whilst sleeping together because there’s no mention of his status up until you say he got a girlfriend down the road after you hooked up. But regardless it’s neither here nor there, if you hooked up in the past then there’s a chance for it to happen again. Now here you are, catching feelings for a taken man and you just don’t care at all. Single people rarely ever seem to care about what they’re taking part in, yet if you were in a relationship with him you’d never want him to do this. Now it’s all you’d be able to expect because you’re experiencing it first hand and can’t say he’s a good man above doing this.

[Lynx122]

He's not going to be with you long term. The chances are very low. It's best not to get your hopes up.

[Pterodon]

Probably not long term but why don’t you ask him

[Asker]

He tells me that he wanted to date me back when we were both single but he knew I wasn’t ready and he moved on.

I’ve already told him I have no interest in being his side piece yet he still messages me. I also wondered if he could be still talking to me because he is deployed and lonely.

[Pterodon]

Probably

[scott04sa22]

He only wanted sex