What are his intentions?

[Anonymous]

So basically its a 4 years of relationship where it's i'm facing some issues connected to his opinions. Whenever we normally talk or have any discussion on career or family he is always acting like my every advice is heavy or even though we talking normally he was say something very controlling like he will talk about arrange marriages are better than love, put me down if just normally inhale or exhale. He's always making things complicated. He likes me but he thinks that if he will keep me in control or scare me that day he will leave me so that I will be forever stick to him but he is not realising that because of this attitude of him it's giving me a panic attack. He becomes very much controlling and even while talking normally that dude is just arguing. He always tells me that I overthink I talk to spiritual but in actual he is the one who is always overthinking and talking beyond the level specially when it comes to past he is always putting blames on me connected to small fights and always I am the cause behind his fights. I feel myself totally drained, of course I love him but feels like even though if I want to love him I will just end up getting disrespected. When I see him I'm 100% happy but then when he talks I start getting panic attacks. Why he is doing this? Why he is keep acting like this... He wasn't like this before... He tells me that he feels different with me and I give him next level vibe but then suddenly he cover it up and try to argue or make me feel attacked.

[Guy13]

Wow, you are very thoughtful about things.-4 years is a lot of time invested and it is obvious that you are all-in.
One would thank that he would trust, appreciate, and want to move forward with marriage? What’s your gut saying?

[Asker]

Yes but he is making me realise his worth all the time and he is applying limitations and conditions so that we do not come so close to each other... sometimes he tells me that he will do arrange marriage but in actual i know he is saying all this to make me realise his worth but due to that I'm getting affecting like he is always talking about we are not much possible in future kind of bla bla bla but also he don't want me to get away... But I'm getting away by his actions and getting so much affect by his attitude and i don't know its coming from where by him

[Guy13]

Oh.. he is killing your love-little by little for awhile now?

[Asker]

Sounds bit accurate..

[Guy13]

I am sorry about that. I hate that feeling. What ya going to do?

[Asker]

Actually I'm not able to figure out the reason behind this behaviour of him towards me.. so infact I'm also confused

[Guy13]

Are you hanging in or are you going to move on?

[Avicenna]

If yoiu don't know where you stand with him or what he wants out of your relationship, you need to have a very serious and long conversation with him. And if you have no prospect of getting what you want in the relationship, don't feel obligated to stay in it.

[Kbby214]

Kinda sounds like my boyfriend. I'd leave if I were you. I'm not sure how I'm going to leave him but that's not right of him to treat you like that. He sounds controlling

[Jessica405]

He sounds like he is going to turn into a control freak. I should tread very carefully! No guy should treat you like he does!

[slatyb]

Is this fun? Get the hell out.

[Googlemyahoo]

Time to date someone else.

[Asker]

Yeah but do you know why he is acting like this? what is going on in dude's mind?

[Googlemyahoo]

Why is he acting that way? One of two things. Either he’s an asshole or you are very annoying. Either way it doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship.