Does he love me or is he lying?

[Anonymous]

The guy I’m dating says he loves me and cares for me deeply but he never messages or calls me on a regular. We spend a night together and he don’t even follow up the next day. He doesn’t even message I normally do but I’ve stopped now and since I’ve stopped not once has he done it. Don’t know if I’m just wasting my time because when we are together he tells me everything I want to hear but when we are not he disappears? Not sure if this man is using me or what pls can someone help a sister out

[ohsheeT]

Well you answered your own question... When a guy like somebody he's in contact with them all the time..

If he's only telling you what you want to hear when he's with you then that's all he's doing he's telling you what you want to hear and then see you later until the next time you're wasting your time that's for sure

[Asker]

Thank you I have finally ended it 🫶🏽

[ohsheeT]

So now what are you going to do

[Asker]

I told him delete my number he’s full of shit. & now it’s moving forward no looking back as occasionally I do look back when he rings me as I end up feeling sorry for him but he just hurts my feelings everytime

[ohsheeT]

Well if I was standing right in front of you you would probably slug me in the arm because I would say good luck with a smile on my face because I know what your word said but your vibe your energy says different you'll probably feel sorry for him again but that's your choice I mean one day you'll figure it out it'd be better if I could look into your eyes as you were talking to me because then I would really. Know what direction you're going and I would still smile and probably still get slugged in the arm LOL

[Asker]

Hahaha this made me laugh 😂 nah for real when I text him saying ‘ delete my number your full shit 💩’ he didn’t even reply and it’s only been a few days so I’ve got my answer and tbh deep down inside I know I deserve better. Don’t worry you won’t get slugged in the arm a big hug instead for your kind words

[ohsheeT]

Well I smiled and wanted to say see I told you .. you just had to go back.. .. . and I could say more.. I'm still smiling. But I'm not going to.
Nope
. And it's because. I'm going to believe you when you say down deep you know you deserve better and I will agree with that 100%

And I will also say so no matter what happens I'm smiling again..
Always remember that. . . . No matter what... Or who or why or when or where it doesn't matter just always remember that

[Asker]

lol now your confusing me

[ohsheeT]

Okay so you and I start going out and I like you so I'm going to call you up every day.
Because I like you a lot and I like being around you and I like doing things with you

. When we talk and we're alone the things that come out of my mouth is because I need them and you're going to feel them just by the look in my eyes I'm speaking to you.

It doesn't matter where we're at what we're doing if I feel something I'm going to say it and then back it up. Through my a touch a kiss holding your hand..

Or I might not say anything I'll just say it with my eyes my touch or my kiss but you're going to know that I'm interested

But if I'm a guy says he likes you... But doesn't call you or talk to you not unless you call me and then of course I have you come over to my house. Because I want to make out I want to do things so I'm going to tell you things to make you feel good so I can get what I want that happens you leave and the same thing happens I won't call you I won't talk to you not unless you call me probably and I'll say come over... It'll be just the same scenario

I mean so that's what I was saying he's just telling you what you want to hear so he can get into your pants probably but if he's not put any any other effort into it I mean he's not really interested in you just interested in what you do for him that's kind of sad

[jahaims]

If you don't trust someone why would you date them let alone have sex with them? Actions speak louder than words.

[Asker]

Thank you I have finally ended it 🫶🏽

[Staximus]

This guy is buttering you up like a Southern biscuit and you're falling for his bullshit.

[Asker]

I’m so stupid 🥲🥲🥲 honestly I could cry! How have I been so silly I guess love does really blind you. Were do I go from here