Does he really love me?

[Anonymous]

So basically we met 2 years ago. He saw me at a party. I was very shy girl that I didn't spoke with anyone at the party but few girls gave me company in that party so that I don't feel alone. There was this guy who noticed me. Later to that party, I never saw him for 1 and half year. Later, he again saw me coincidentally at a different friend's another party. He came to me and introduced himself. He started flirting with me since then regularly we got a chance to see each other at a common place. Although we don't have much conversations, he regularly flirts with me and ignores every other beautiful girl around me. He makes me feel like I'm the only one he flirts and pursues. But I doubt if he really likes or loves only me or does he have any past girlfriends, etc? I never asked him for this info as we did not become much close but he directly flirts with me too much, ignores other girls and make me feel like a queen when he just know me for the first time 2 years ago. I wonder if he haven't pursued any other girl within the past 2 years after he saw me? What are your opinions?

[LazerBean]

Love is built over time and knowledge. There is no possible way he can love you because he doesn't even know you. He might like you and think you're hot, but he does not love you.

[Asker]

Yes, what you said is true that love takes time to build. But I want to know if he didn't date or flirt with any other girl between these 2 years gap between us? Because all I see now is that he's only interested in me but not in any other women. What's your opinion about this? Do you think that he doesn't have any ex girlfriend?

[LazerBean]

All you can do is ask him. Just because he doesn't flirt with other girls in front of you does not mean he doesn't flirt with other girls when you aren't around.

[BarryLiverstone]

No he doesn’t love you.

[Asker]

Then why does he flirt only with me and not with any other girl?

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he isn’t confident

[Asker]

He is very confident guy. He takes the initiative. I'm a shy girl and I'm not confident about myself. Basically he talks with me first everytime. He have girls falling for him but he does ignores them and is flirting and prioritising only me. Why?

[BarryLiverstone]

If he’s that confident then he’s flirting with other girls.

Look you clearly have a crush on him. Why are you asking this question? If everyone said that the guy is in love with you what then?

[Asker]

I may start flirting back. I never flirted back with him because I wanted to know first if a boy can really fall in love at first sight with a girl he just saw and will he stay loyal to that girl for a very long time without expressing her his feelings and trying for a way to get back with her like will he continue loving her staying loyal to his feelings on her for like two years?

[BarryLiverstone]

No, a guy will not be loyal until she has earned that loyalty

[Asker]

So, did this guy flirted with other girls in between these 2 years? I don't want a guy who flirted with other girls already. I'm looking for a guy who never flirted with any other girl either in past or in future he should not flirt with any girl. If he flirted with other girls between these two years, I will never accept him. What do you think about this? Do you think he have ex girlfriends or did he flirted with other girls between these 2 years of gap that we got?

[BarryLiverstone]

I think you don’t live in the real world. Of course he’s flirted with other girls. If you want a guy who never has then you are out of luck.

Why would it matter who he has flirted with?

[BarryLiverstone]

All the girls I have dated had flirted with other guys before me. That didn’t matter

[Asker]

It matters because I want to be his first girl and not the another girl he is entertaining as a habit. I want a special and only for me kind of love from the boy that I want to be with

[BarryLiverstone]

And you are implying my ex wasn’t special? How about my mom, she’s not special

[Asker]

They might be special for you. I'm not opposing that. It is according to the individual beliefs that we have. We might have different perceptions on which we may make choices on our perceptions. I don't disrespect the people that are having past or may have flirted with others but definitely these kind of people are not right for me because I'm an insecure girl who can't even imagine the thought that my boyfriend looks at other women. I need a possessive kind of love which makes me feel great about myself

[BarryLiverstone]

A guy will not keep you around if you are that insecure. So better work on that first or risk losing the unicorn you find