Does he really love me?

[Ast722]

My boyfriend owes back rent. Weve had disrespect issues in the past, such as inappropriate convos with women on internet. He ceased everything once I found out. He is however highly attentive to women including nudity on tv. Uber attentive.
Im a single parent and he moved in during covid. He knows I struggle financially. He also never offers to help with cable bill or household items. He paid rent on time up until work became unstable. Since then he hasn't paid even for his cell phone. Its on my account to save him money.
now he just got a settlement of over 10k. He owes around 3200.00. He paid me $1k over course of 2 days. He said he would pay more bit didn't want it to “all be gone too fast.” He did offer groceries and was bragging about having money. I said yeah I heard now why don't you pay me back? Crickets. How can a man say he loves you and then disregard me in so many ways? I dont think he knows what love really is. He was abused and abandoned by both parents at young age

[DizzyDesii]

Makes sense. Drop his ass and see if he can take a hint then

[Ast722]

Can you elaborate on what makes sense? Thanks for replying.

[DizzyDesii]

It makes sense to question his love since he is showing all the signs opposite of love

[Ast722]

Thanks!

[Romanticoutlaw]

At the end of the day if he truly loved you he would bend over backwards for you. They say actions speak louder than words and in this case he’s telling you with his action that he dose t care

[Anonymous]

I would dump this loser and see how he reacts.

[Ast722]

He was going to move out after we had a fight about him urning to look a girls butt. Noticing is one thing but actively engaging to lust over another girl- on top of everything else makes this not ok for me. Now it seems when I tell him Im not happy, nothing is resolved, he just ignores everything and pretends all is well. I have a young child attached to him. He said he would go to therapy and change but he continues to deny his subconscious “disrespectful actions”. Does he really care and not know how to love? Is this just doomed? Update: after my comment he paid another $500.

[spartan55]

Congrats! You have a freeloading loser boyfriend.

[Guy13]

It’s sad you feel disregarded.